I think on a site like this that has so few females the ones that are here, and have been here for a long time get used to getting a ceartain amount of attention on the forum. So if the focus is lifted even for a while, and placed on someone else it can be a bit disheartning for some, so they are going to be a bit standoffish.. But we both know Women are catty by nature anyway so I don't sweat it. When you take the time to actually go back and forth with someone you are giving them to much power over you, and thats a no-no to me. It's best to put a muthafucka on ignore and keep it movin!! I don't even acknowledge the shade thrown, or the person throwing it....it's just the internet!!