I highly recommend the Justnatural Organic hair care line.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aag/main?i...=ATVPDKIKX0DER&orderID=&seller=A1MZR6Q04D6ONF
I've tried shea Moisture products but my hair doesn't respond well to products that contain "shea butter". Aubrey Organics was good but they changed their shampoos and conditioners from coconut based to shea butter based and added alcohol.,As I am was cool but all their products contain alcohol or some other unnatural ingredient. Castille soap doesn't work for me even tho I use the Dr. Woods (not Dr Bronners) black soap for when my scalp gets itchy but sparingly (will get into that also). Desert Essence has something called soidum-coco-sulfate which is the same as sodium laurel sulfates. ANY WORD that has sulfates or anything that looks like SLS or menthol sls, or alcohol is bad. Sodium EDTA is bad also, anything ending in "-bens" is bad also. Also Desert Essence like AS-I-am had fragrances which are bad for hair. So I found this line. I think this is it for both men and women right here.
I believe in a moisturizer shampoo, a protein conditioner (basically volumizer conditioner) and leave in conditioner for basics. if you use protein treatments, styling gels or pomades 9(which this company has) I recommend using a clarifying shampoo every two weeks after those treatments at the end of the week and once a month use a apple cider vinegar mix (which they offer to keep the scalp ph balanced)
Everytime you shampoo, lather and just rinse (don't re-lather you're stripping natural oils when you over lather) then condition. use 100% satin or silk du-rags or scarves. Try using a wide tooth comb vs brushing.
For you wave heads a Diane brush is it, don't use that 360 gold crown wave shit unless you want to pull ya hair out for good (have you seen the creator of that bruh? Enough said)
Sleep on satin or silk pillow cases those are good for your scalp.
Last but not least what you drink and eat affects your hair and skin also. I've eliminated 99% of dairy products minus greek yogurt which have probiotics so those are cool. Still eat vegetarian friendly eggs tho. Also tried my best to eliminate meat, but thats a work in progress. I love turkeyburgers tho. nettle tea in the morning, chamomile tea at night. More vegetables than fruits. heavy breakfast in the morning light dinner in the evening.
15 minutes of sunlight a day for you people that sit in front of a computer all day. Running for 20 minutes outside a day is also good and covers that whole sunlight thing. One of the reasons why sunlight is good for us males especially is building testosterone, but the sunlight is a natural way of getting Vitamin D.
One last thing that affects beauty besides overall health is overall sleep. If your "parts" aren't responding as normal you probably didn't get enough rest. 8 hours is the average but varies from person to person some need seven or less some need nine or more. Just how it is.
Finally, remove the stress by any less stressful means anyways. In life you have to lose to gain.
My shampoo: African American Shampoo for Natural Hair
http://www.amazon.com/African-Ameri...B3MY/ref=aag_m_pw_dp?ie=UTF8&m=A1MZR6Q04D6ONF
My conditioner: Thicker Hair Conditioner
http://www.amazon.com/JustNatural-O...C3BY/ref=aag_m_pw_dp?ie=UTF8&m=A1MZR6Q04D6ONF
My hair clarifier: Shampoo to Remove Build-Up
http://www.amazon.com/JustNatural-O...F41A/ref=aag_m_pw_dp?ie=UTF8&m=A1MZR6Q04D6ONF
My Vinegar Rinse: Vinegar Rinse Cleanser
http://www.amazon.com/Vinegar-Rinse...K9NG/ref=aag_m_pw_dp?ie=UTF8&m=A1MZR6Q04D6ONF
Shit is expensive tho, but just what I personally recommend as a base suggestion.