Submit=Doormat?

[jono]

3:37PM Posts: 495

I view it as not trying to be in control of everything.

My belief is that a man is in charge, and a woman

needs to not interfere with that. If she wanna run

shit she need to stay her ass single.

With that said, I don't think it's a "I'm the boss and

you ain't shit" type of deal. A man should respect,

love and protect his woman. Listen to her and

consider her opinion (ain't no nigga always right)

and trust that she won't tell him no bullshit. But

still a man is the head.

This tho...^

 

[blackjack2012]

@nothingbutthetruth Good luck to you in finding a relationship like that. Human relations, especially between male and female, are always gonna be a power struggle, in which one person is the dominate and the other is passive. Two dominate personalities clash and two passive ones get bored. A relationship in which there is no leader is impossible to find.

LMFAO @nothingbutthetruth

Good luck

That's weird that y'all think that way, because the majority of black women I meet fit what I'm looking for.

Actually, that's part of the reason why I only try to have real relationships with black women. The other women seem too dependent for my taste. They always refer to me (even when it's not called for) on some you're the boss type shit, and I absolutely despise people who don't think and act for themselves.

Just my preference I guess. It probably has a lot to do with me witnessing the relationships between my family members. Every successful relationship (20+ years of marriage and still counting) was 50-50. The ones who did have a submissive partner ended fairly quickly (5 years max).

Not to mention, I've literally been taught to go about my relationships in that manner, and this was by people who are still married after 3,4,5 decades.

You sound like a bitch...take your panties off and put on some pants.

 

[alvarez_313]

What country is your wife from?...American women don't know how to submit.

She's from right here in Michigan (Ann Arbor).. Not all women are on bullshit, a lot of them are just misguided because they've never been exposed to how things can work.. Hell for that matter a lot of us dudes are just as misguided cause we weren't privy to the blueprint either growing up.. But the ability is within all of us..

 

[Shuffington]

The 2 asian women that Ive dated happily let me smash as much as I want.. they feed me and buy me shyt.. when I'm tired they dont bother me.

I guess its just a coincidence *shrugs.. .. but when i do less... they do more.. maybe its my d game skin tone and relaxed demeanor

 

[jono]

In my opinion if the 50-50 thing works for you then it works for you. People should do what's best for them.

I'm not much of a domineering man, I don't want to run roughshod over anyone but I don't want an argument over everything and I won't tolerate disrespect either.

I believe you a weak man if you can't take criticism and don't want a woman's opinion, her opinions and criticisms are welcome but all that cussing you out (public or private) that mouthy, loud shit...uh uh. Can't deal.

 

[CapitalB]

realshit @Alvarez

 

[alvarez_313]

realshit @Alvarez

Props.. I try to keep it as real as possible..

 

[SlickestR]

a woman that submits is only allowing herself to be lead by her man knowing that he can bring forth security, authority, protection and know how to provide. She can also be the backbone of the relationship while he's the head. Without the head, there's no backbone. She can also bring out the best in the man without stepping into his position. While the man commands and leads without treating his woman like a slave or less than him.

So a woman that plays such role has actually less to handle with, because she nurtures, provide (in a sense of the children with domestic pursuits) and it easily creates a balance in the household.

well... that's what it use to be with the majority of relationships.

 

[SixSickSins]

It never fails to amaze me that some women will let a man be her "head" or "boss" simply because he has a dick between his legs. Or better yet, an old book written for men, by men says so.

Haven't done it, don't do it, won't do it. Ever.

Call me a radical feminist or new age pepsi drinker all you want but it ain't happenin'. I've never had an unhappy relationship due to not submitting.

Making decisions and all other relation-y type shit should be 50/50.

 

[texas409]

what i look like saying " please baby please give me head" to my girl just to make her feel less submissive. either she with it or not im not gonna be disrespecrful about it but im not about to cottle her either

 

[blackjack2012]

It never fails to amaze me that some women will let a man be her "head" or "boss" simply because he has a dick between his legs. Or better yet, an old book written for men, by men says so.

Haven't done it, don't do it, won't do it. Ever.

Call me a radical feminist or new age pepsi drinker all you want but it ain't happenin'. I've never had an unhappy relationship due to not submitting.

Making decisions and all other relation-y type shit should be 50/50.

Lesbian

 

[Kat]

Head is your example? Really.

 

[CapitalB]

hahahahaha right! @blackjack

she wants a male's genitalia so bad! lol

 

[Rozetta5tone]

Knowing your role and playing it without objection..

Submit doesn't have to mean inferior or subserviant..it's an acknowlegement of playing an auxillary position..

Submission doesn't = weakness

In the animal world, submission is part of the ranking structure and an important part in mating..

Alot of women would be alot further in life if they knew how to properly submit to a man..there's nothing wrong with being independent as long as you know when to let a man be a man..

 

[blackrain]

It never fails to amaze me that some women will let a man be her "head" or "boss" simply because he has a dick between his legs. Or better yet, an old book written for men, by men says so.

Haven't done it, don't do it, won't do it. Ever.

Call me a radical feminist or new age pepsi drinker all you want but it ain't happenin'. I've never had an unhappy relationship due to not submitting.

Making decisions and all other relation-y type shit should be 50/50.

That's submitting, you're submitting to the will of someone else and taking note of their feelings when making a decision, and at times letting them have their way if it's the best option, as opposed to just saying "Fuck it i'll do what I want anyway"...you just re-worded it in a way to not make yourself feel bad

 

[blakfyahking]

It never fails to amaze me that some women will let a man be her "head" or "boss" simply because he has a dick between his legs. Or better yet, an old book written for men, by men says so.

Haven't done it, don't do it, won't do it. Ever.

Call me a radical feminist or new age pepsi drinker all you want but it ain't happenin'. I've never had an unhappy relationship due to not submitting.

Making decisions and all other relation-y type shit should be 50/50.

you still young tho babes

you prob still date lil niggaz wearing capris and think that shit is normal

but you'll learn eventually tho

 

[SixSickSins]

Juxtaposition>>>auxillary "role"

you still young tho babes

you prob still date lil niggaz wearing capris and think that shit is normal

but you'll learn eventually tho

Nah, I like the company of men who don't feel that their manliness is detracted by dating a non-submitting woman.

That's submitting, you're submitting to the will of someone else and taking note of their feelings when making a decision, and at times letting them have their way if it's the best option, as opposed to just saying "Fuck it i'll do what I want anyway"...you just re-worded it in a way to not make yourself feel bad

Of course I take the other person's feelings into consideration. I'm not an uncaring motherfucker; I'm a compassionate motherfucker. Taking an s/o's feelings into consideration and/or compromising (with the possibility of still saying no)=/= synonym of 'submit'.

 

[VIBE]

I don't go for that "women submit" shit, that's old practices. It's 2012.

 

[AZTG]

How the fuck can decisions be made 50/50 yo? someone school me on this. do you guys think about the shit y'all post. Check this scenario out. Let's say I get home and I'm tired and wanna chill in front of the TV while my girl wants to go out. How can a 50/50 decision be made? either one or the other has to happen. Either I submit to my girls will and go out or she submits to mine and we stay home. In my relationship, majority of the time she submits cause that's how I have it. If you feel like the dude should submit then get a bitch made dude to submit to you, but that 50/50 shit? cut that shit out.

Funny ass people yo

 

[blackrain]

Juxtaposition>>>auxillary "role"

you still young tho babes

you prob still date lil niggaz wearing capris and think that shit is normal

but you'll learn eventually tho

Nah, I like the company of men who don't feel that their manliness is detracted by dating a non-submitting woman.

That's submitting, you're submitting to the will of someone else and taking note of their feelings when making a decision, and at times letting them have their way if it's the best option, as opposed to just saying "Fuck it i'll do what I want anyway"...you just re-worded it in a way to not make yourself feel bad

Of course I take the other person's feelings into consideration. I'm not an uncaring motherfucker; I'm a compassionate motherfucker. Taking an s/o's feelings into consideration and/or compromising (with the possibility of still saying no)=/= synonym of 'submit'.

By compromising you're submitting to their influence in the decision that's being made, as they're submitting to yours. It's submission, just not the kind of submission you're thinking about. There's more than one definition of the word.