Submit=Doormat?

[Kat]

I tell you this the stereotype of white women being more submissive than black women isn't true .

Maybe once upon a time, but not anymore.

Better holla at an Asian.

Okay, so this is my thing on this topic.

I was raised by the Bible and to submit to your husband, but my mother kinda ruined that shit for me by going from submissive to doormat. So then it became this rebellion like NOT ME..you ain't running shit over here.

But now that I'm older and with someone I do love, I don't mind submitting, or at least making the effort.

I'm not saying I'm perfect and it's definitely a learning process, but the more we connect and grow together, the more I can trust that it's okay for me to fall in line a bit.

Like I said, it's definitely a learning process.

 

[CapitalB]

<--- knew kat was a "strong" women by how she replied to my post

and lol @Bawse i aint gottit like that my nigga..

YET! lol

 

[Wild Self]

@mzgrahambitches who are you? lol

But women that submit to their man and tell the truth live longer, healthier lives.

 

[AZTG]

@nothingbutthetruth Good luck to you in finding a relationship like that. Human relations, especially between male and female, are always gonna be a power struggle, in which one person is the dominate and the other is passive. Two dominate personalities clash and two passive ones get bored. A relationship in which there is no leader is impossible to find.

 

[blakfyahking]

There was a thread similar to this years ago. I remember some of the women saying submitting wasn't there thing. But I think with a good man, it will be automatic.

 

[fuc_i_look_like]

First thing that comes to mind when I think of doormat is LadyZee

 

[CapitalB]

hahahahaa lol @blak

i peeped that too.. that woman knows. lol

 

[Kat]

 

[Wild Self]

First thing that comes to mind when I think of doormat is LadyZee

A white woman like that ain't married yet? Like coon ass Uncle Ruckus said, she squirrel nuts.

 

[CapitalB]

they stronger then u..

strong enough to submit..

now thats strength for ur weak ass wit mommy issues..

we can talk about it if we must..

 

[HafBayked]

It's the actual word that I don't like as opposed to the deed. Submission (outside of sexual encounters) has negative connotations for me, I relate it to weakness.

However if you used words/terms such as: deferring decision making, comply or acknowledge, it's all good in the 'hood.

comply or acknowledge me a got damn sandwich......how bout that

 

[Bussy_Getta]

LMFAO @nothingbutthetruth

Good luck

 

[HafBayked]

just saying @tabatha...who's gonna say all that?

sound like u tryin to be the vice president instead of the first lady.....aint no brakes on the passenger side

 

[Wild Self]

It's the actual word that I don't like as opposed to the deed. Submission (outside of sexual encounters) has negative connotations for me, I relate it to weakness.

However if you used words/terms such as: deferring decision making, comply or acknowledge, it's all good in the 'hood.

comply or acknowledge me a got damn sandwich......how bout that

Hell no.

So not even a back rub after a hard day's work? No Dinner to be ready? where the hell you gonna get your husband from?

 

[CapitalB]

@Haf Baked when it comes to bitches its not what u say but how u say it..

bitches are emotional creatures and emotions are easily stirred wit words.. but unbeknownst to them is actions speaks louder.. so say or label it however as long as the action is takin place who cares??

 

[blackjack2012]

I tell you this the stereotype of white women being more submissive than black women isn't true .

Maybe once upon a time, but not anymore.

Better holla at an Asian.

Okay, so this is my thing on this topic.

I was raised by the Bible and to submit to your husband, but my mother kinda ruined that shit for me by going from submissive to doormat. So then it became this rebellion like NOT ME..you ain't running shit over here.

But now that I'm older and with someone I do love, I don't mind submitting, or at least making the effort.

I'm not saying I'm perfect and it's definitely a learning process, but the more we connect and grow together, the more I can trust that it's okay for me to fall in line a bit.

Like I said, it's definitely a learning process.

Asian women don't submit who told you that lie...my best friend is Asian and his mom is a hoe a racist and fuckin crazy.

I could never mess with a girl who doesn't submit to me

 

[Kat]

Lol..well played bossyboo

 

[twinzmom]

There was a thread similar to this years ago. I remember some of the women saying submitting wasn't there thing. But I think with a good man, it will be automatic.

I was going to reference that thread also. I also remember women admitting that if their S/O didnt show he was worthy they wouldnt. My first thought is why are you with him if that is the case.

@twinzmom were you deployed again?

Um, I've been home since June of last year. I dont know how long I've gone from here.

 

[HafBayked]

just saying @tabatha...who's gonna say all that?

sound like u tryin to be the vice president instead of the first lady.....aint no brakes on the passenger side

Like I said, it's not the action, it's the word I don't like. I have the same feeling with a few other words but that's just my idiosyncrasy.

And I'm taking vice presidency all day. Michelle O or Dick Cheney? I'd be that crazy white fucker any day.

i aint mad at ya....

 

[NothingButTheTruth]

@nothingbutthetruth Good luck to you in finding a relationship like that. Human relations, especially between male and female, are always gonna be a power struggle, in which one person is the dominate and the other is passive. Two dominate personalities clash and two passive ones get bored. A relationship in which there is no leader is impossible to find.

LMFAO @nothingbutthetruth

Good luck

That's weird that y'all think that way, because the majority of black women I meet fit what I'm looking for.

Actually, that's part of the reason why I only try to have real relationships with black women. The other women seem too dependent for my taste. They always refer to me (even when it's not called for) on some you're the boss type shit, and I absolutely despise people who don't think and act for themselves.

Just my preference I guess. It probably has a lot to do with me witnessing the relationships between my family members. Every successful relationship (20+ years of marriage and still counting) was 50-50. The ones who did have a submissive partner ended fairly quickly (5 years max).

Not to mention, I've literally been taught to go about my relationships in that manner, and this was by people who are still married after 3,4,5 decades.