DoUwant2go2Heaven
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Premeer;509363 said:
I totally empathize with you my brother. When I found the LORD in 2006, I was in the midst of a relationship with my ex-gf. But because I was still a babe in Christ I continued to fornicate with my GF and my daughter was conceived and born in 2008.
But during my ex-gf preganacy I started to grow and learn more about the things of God. I was being convicted by the Holy Spirit and I knew I had to make things right by either getting married or committing myself to celibacy.
I told my ex-gf that I wanted to stop having sex because it wasn't right; but because she was immature in her faith she didn't understand. I repeatedly told her that we had to stop because I was walking on a new path and I couldn't continue living in the sin of fornication. I even took her to marriage counseling with my pastor, but it didn't do any good.
Ultimately we broke up because she wasn't ready to follow my lead. There were other factors as well, such as her not wanting to be a Pastors wife, trust issues, resentment, etc. But the sex thing was what really led to our breaking up.
So now that I have been single for almost 5 years, I have had to learn how to embrace my singleness and live for the LORD. Cultivating the fruit of self-control has really helped me crucify my flesh. For the longest I didn't even talk to females because I was scared that I would sin against God. But as I continued to mature through the reading of the word, godly counsel, fellowship, prayer, and church I began to appreciate females for who they truly are, which are my sisters.
I'll never forget the wisdom a mighty man of God once told me when he said "until the LORD sends you your wife, if that's His will, look at and treat every female you come in contact with as your sister." Once I started to grasp that truth, It help me open up more to females. No longer was I scared to talk to females, rather I look at every encounter with a female as a chance to spread the good news of Jesus Christ. After all, the gospel is for man and woman.
So I have been down the road you are on and honestly I am still on that road. I'm a man and thoughts of fornication come into my mind when I see beautiful women, but I have to bring those thoughts captive to the obediance of Christ. I have to be diligent in my confession and rebuking of things that are contrary to mind and will of Jesus Christ. Is this easier said than done? Of course, but that doesn't negate the fact that it must be done!
God has given us the Comforter, the Holy Spirit, so that we can have victory over the world, the flesh, and the devil! We must tap into the the fountain of lving water that is bubbling up inside of us in order to let His will be done in us and through us. And how do we do that? We do that by staying in His word. This is what the prophet Isaiah said for those who are thirsty to obey the commands of God:
"1Ho, every one that thirsteth, come ye to the waters, and he that hath no money; come ye, buy, and eat; yea, come, buy wine and milk without money and without price.
2Wherefore do ye spend money for that which is not bread? and your labour for that which satisfieth not? hearken diligently unto me, and eat ye that which is good, and let your soul delight itself in fatness.
3Incline your ear, and come unto me: hear, and your soul shall live; and I will make an everlasting covenant with you, even the sure mercies of David.
4Behold, I have given him for a witness to the people, a leader and commander to the people.
5Behold, thou shalt call a nation that thou knowest not, and nations that knew not thee shall run unto thee because of the LORD thy God, and for the Holy One of Israel; for he hath glorified thee.
6Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near:
7Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.
8For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD.
9For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.
10For as the rain cometh down, and the snow from heaven, and returneth not thither, but watereth the earth, and maketh it bring forth and bud, that it may give seed to the sower, and bread to the eater:
11So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.
12For ye shall go out with joy, and be led forth with peace: the mountains and the hills shall break forth before you into singing, and all the trees of the field shall clap their hands.
13Instead of the thorn shall come up the fir tree, and instead of the brier shall come up the myrtle tree: and it shall be to the LORD for a name, for an everlasting sign that shall not be cut off. Isaiah 55
That whole chapter is a gold mine. It's an endless treasure trove for those who are needy, with promises from God that He will give those who are thirsty abundance in Him! When we make God our priority, when we make God our desire, when we make God our focus, the fears we have, the doubts that cloud our minds, the unrighteous thoughts that creep in, and the worldy influences that surround us will become less and less meaningful because we have put God on the throne of our heart, by making Him our #1 desire!
