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sboogie;3902131 said:
I feel you S Boog, I was just gonna ask outta curiousity. I'm not gonna stop swearin LOL
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I feel you S Boog, I was just gonna ask outta curiousity. I'm not gonna stop swearin LOL
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as a parent....you have to understand that when a child hears a person in authority curse it usually means something bad. dont desensitize the kid to curse words. my kids know that when i mad ass hell i will curse an they know shit is gettin serious. but if i curse all the time then when im mad it wont effect them. think of it like that.
also think of how you would want someone treating you child if you wasnt around. maybe bugs is just something that scares him...you dont know what could be the factor that makes him scared of them. shit im an adult an still scared of heights...i saw my brother fall out of a window when i was three...but niggas act like heights is nothing to be scared of. so if im an adult that still deals with fear think about a kid that cant process it.
dont listen to these niggas on here talkin that man up shit.....you have to teach him how to be a man not force him to be a man. everyone doesnt step up to being forced to do something and most people reject the people who try it.
also think of how you would want someone treating you child if you wasnt around. maybe bugs is just something that scares him...you dont know what could be the factor that makes him scared of them. shit im an adult an still scared of heights...i saw my brother fall out of a window when i was three...but niggas act like heights is nothing to be scared of. so if im an adult that still deals with fear think about a kid that cant process it.
dont listen to these niggas on here talkin that man up shit.....you have to teach him how to be a man not force him to be a man. everyone doesnt step up to being forced to do something and most people reject the people who try it.
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tru_m.a.c;3902128 said:cool I just ask cause I've noticed a lot of younger parents curse around their children and a lot of times they feel uncomfortable
I mean they get used to it after while, but I think you know what I mean lol
Plus he don't know what they mean, just knows they're not appropriate to repeat.
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deadeye;3902217 said:Would you have done the bug shit with your own son if he was scared of them?
To tell the truth, yeah. Cause I had already explained long time ago there is no reason to be scared.
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Check Mate;3900474 said:Do some of ya'll that are in relationships treat their kid different then the one ya'll have together?
Me and my girl got a 8 month old boy together, but she has a 6 year old boy from a lame who ain't in the picture. But I be "pickin" on him and tonight I had him cryin cause I was gonna put a bug on him on jokin shit. But then he started sayin mommy mommy and cryin, I kept at it.
I like him and all, but he ain't have no male figure before and I just want him to be a beast. Thats my job to school him and shit, but she says she don't like the way I treat him sometimes. I be pickin at shit he does.
Bruh, how old are you? 7? If he is scared of bugs dont scare him with. If you truly care about the boy, you dont pick on him. You slowly show that bugs arent that bad. Introduce him to harmless bugs like ladybugs and moths. You dont scare him with the bug.
I will never tell someone how to raise their kids becasue kids are different just like the parent is different. You cant "pick on" a child to show them how to be hard. You have to show them by example. Be the example of a man. When he screams about a bug go over to it and show him by touching and and introducing him to it slowly. After about a month or two of doing this, he will come around. First and foremost he has to trust you and you scaring him and picking on him like a bully is not helping him trust you.
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pralims;3902219 said:as a parent....you have to understand that when a child hears a person in authority curse it usually means something bad. dont desensitize the kid to curse words. my kids know that when i mad ass hell i will curse an they know shit is gettin serious. but if i curse all the time then when im mad it wont effect them. think of it like that.
also think of how you would want someone treating you child if you wasnt around. maybe bugs is just something that scares him...you dont know what could be the factor that makes him scared of them. shit im an adult an still scared of heights...i saw my brother fall out of a window when i was three...but niggas act like heights is nothing to be scared of. so if im an adult that still deals with fear think about a kid that cant process it.
dont listen to these niggas on here talkin that man up shit.....you have to teach him how to be a man not force him to be a man. everyone doesnt step up to being forced to do something and most people reject the people who try it.
Swearing doesn't always mean being angry. He's heard me swear joyously, plus bein scared of heights is way more tolerable than being scared of bugs. Niggaz die fron fallin from shit. I ain't never seen a nigga die from a mosquito bite LOL
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pralims;3902219 said:as a parent....you have to understand that when a child hears a person in authority curse it usually means something bad. dont desensitize the kid to curse words. my kids know that when i mad ass hell i will curse an they know shit is gettin serious. but if i curse all the time then when im mad it wont effect them. think of it like that.
also think of how you would want someone treating you child if you wasnt around. maybe bugs is just something that scares him...you dont know what could be the factor that makes him scared of them. shit im an adult an still scared of heights...i saw my brother fall out of a window when i was three...but niggas act like heights is nothing to be scared of. so if im an adult that still deals with fear think about a kid that cant process it.
dont listen to these niggas on here talkin that man up shit.....you have to teach him how to be a man not force him to be a man. everyone doesnt step up to being forced to do something and most people reject the people who try it.
Well damn I could have kept my diatribe and just quoted this. I hate snakes and spiders. I learned from my pops that if you stay calm, most likely you can deal with them. But I saw him do it in actions not him throwing snakes and spiders at me. But like I said kids are different just like parents.
I dont really like the cursing thing but I grew up around cursing parents and I always embarrassed them when I did it. After getting beat down I just didnt do it around them. I still did it though!
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caddo man;3902269 said:Bruh, how old are you? 7? If he is scared of bugs dont scare him with. If you truly care about the boy, you dont pick on him. You slowly show that bugs arent that bad. Introduce him to harmless bugs like ladybugs and moths. You dont scare him with the bug.
I will never tell someone how to raise their kids becasue kids are different just like the parent is different. You cant "pick on" a child to show them how to be hard. You have to show them by example. Be the example of a man. When he screams about a bug go over to it and show him by touching and and introducing him to it slowly. After about a month or two of doing this, he will come around. First and foremost he has to trust you and you scaring him and picking on him like a bully is not helping him trust you.
Nigga, this WAS a moth. And i've already explained to him about bugs. This little nigga KILLED A SPIDER last month. WITH A TOILET PAPER, so you know he felt it LOL
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Check Mate;3902301 said:Nigga, this WAS a moth. And i've already explained to him about bugs. This little nigga KILLED A SPIDER last month. WITH A TOILET PAPER, so you know he felt it LOL
Really my issue was the "picking on him" part. Little boys WANT a male figure to trust, but picking on him (bullying) is not the way to go. I am not saying pussify him but "picking on him" will not make him a man. You giving him an example will.
I scare my son all the time by jumping from behind doors. But he loves it. He starts laughing after he gets his breath back. So playing is one thing. Ya feel me. You know him way better than I do. So I cant tell you what to do but just be careful of that "picking on him" stuff.
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caddo man;3902363 said:Really my issue was the "picking on him" part. Little boys WANT a male figure to trust, but picking on him (bullying) is not the way to go. I am not saying pussify him but "picking on him" will not make him a man. You giving him an example will.
I scare my son all the time by jumping from behind doors. But he loves it. He starts laughing after he gets his breath back. So playing is one thing. Ya feel me. You know him way better than I do. So I cant tell you what to do but just be careful of that "picking on him" stuff.
It started out as a joke, but then he was buggin so I was like boy you better stop. I understand the pickin on him thing though.
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sboogie;3902309 said:remember when parents weren't scared to offend their kids?
Yes brotha I do.
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The question is really do you treat them differently from the other? Like showin favoritism either on purpose or inadvertly? Obviously my 8 month old is too young to really experience the shit.
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Check Mate;3900474 said:Do some of ya'll that are in relationships treat their kid different then the one ya'll have together?
Me and my girl got a 8 month old boy together, but she has a 6 year old boy from a lame who ain't in the picture. But I be "pickin" on him and tonight I had him cryin cause I was gonna put a bug on him on jokin shit. But then he started sayin mommy mommy and cryin, I kept at it.
I like him and all, but he ain't have no male figure before and I just want him to be a beast. Thats my job to school him and shit, but she says she don't like the way I treat him sometimes. I be pickin at shit he does.
All young boys at that age are like that Mommas boys babies....
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nujerz84;3902466 said:All young boys at that age are like that Mommas boys babies....
Man I hope its just a phase. He been babied his whole life by aunts and his mom. its sickening. I be tryin to show him how to be a "big boy" and be independant. Maybe its the WAY I say the shit. But I don't try to be mean when I say shit to him.
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kai_valya;3900626 said:i have a step-son, but we don't have any kids together. when we do i wouldn't treat him any different tho. i love all kids so it's easy for me to be kind/loving towards him
As usual, Kai is the image of perfection.
But yo T/S, I'm a little confused. The thread's title indicates that you treat him different because he's a "step-child" but in your opening post, it seems like youre just tryna man the little dude up. Seems like love to me.
Never dated a chick with a kid. But I was a stepchild but still the only child. Me and my step pops was cool, i guess, but after he and my mother divorced the dude literally never checked for me again.
It definitely taught me how conditional love was.
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If a female already had a child then we created some together, honestly I would show more favoritism toward my own. I know of people are were stepchildren that got the worst ass whoopins because they didn't belong to the stepfather.
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Be careful, there's nothing like the bond between brothers, your son might become sissified if you don't check that shit right now!
Lol but my dad had a babymomma who had a son about my age growing up, he used to pick on that kid growing up and make him cry for my and my brothers entertainment haha I felt bad, that kid hates my dad
Lol but my dad had a babymomma who had a son about my age growing up, he used to pick on that kid growing up and make him cry for my and my brothers entertainment haha I felt bad, that kid hates my dad
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sboogie;3902131 said:lol@giving a FUCK about a kid feeling uncomfortable about curse words...
they pay bills? then they don't have a FUCKING say...
ppl curse in the real world, get over that shit...
Nigga Post.
People thtat curse at their children are idiots.
Then those same folls wonder why Johnnie is cursing in class and at his teachers.
Get ready for phone calls home and unruly behavior. Might as well buy your child an orange jumpsuit cause that is where hell be going with shit parents.
YOU SHOULD NOT CURSE AT CHILDREN!!! IT'S THE ULTIMATE FORM OF DISRESPECT!
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Nigga Post.
People that curse at their children are idiots.
Then those same fools wonder why Johnnie is cursing in class and at his teachers.
Get ready for phone calls home and unruly behavior. Might as well buy your child an orange jumpsuit cause that is where he'll be going with shit parents.
YOU SHOULD NOT CURSE AT CHILDREN!!! IT'S THE ULTIMATE FORM OF DISRESPECT!
People that curse at their children are idiots.
Then those same fools wonder why Johnnie is cursing in class and at his teachers.
Get ready for phone calls home and unruly behavior. Might as well buy your child an orange jumpsuit cause that is where he'll be going with shit parents.
YOU SHOULD NOT CURSE AT CHILDREN!!! IT'S THE ULTIMATE FORM OF DISRESPECT!
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pralims;3902219 said:as a parent....you have to understand that when a child hears a person in authority curse it usually means something bad. Dont desensitize the kid to curse words. My kids know that when i mad ass hell i will curse an they know shit is gettin serious. But if i curse all the time then when im mad it wont effect them. Think of it like that.
Also think of how you would want someone treating you child if you wasnt around. Maybe bugs is just something that scares him...you dont know what could be the factor that makes him scared of them. Shit im an adult an still scared of heights...i saw my brother fall out of a window when i was three...but niggas act like heights is nothing to be scared of. So if im an adult that still deals with fear think about a kid that cant process it.
Dont listen to these niggas on here talkin that man up shit.....you have to teach him how to be a man not force him to be a man. Everyone doesnt step up to being forced to do something and most people reject the people who try it.
you shouldn't curse round you're children or any child period! That is trashy low class behavior!
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