Spinoff: Jealousy and Insecurity in relationships... Let's rap about it.

[Coby Vibes]

that's why you gotta get a female that is secure with herself and isn't on that jealous tip

that way you won't have to put up with that bullshit

exactly... let you be insecure about yourself. many black men cannot handle a secure black woman.... makes them second guess themselves.

 

[HustleThaDon]

i don't understand how people can put up wit this in relationships. i remember how much i hated living wit my mother and having her constantly give me the 3rd degree, i couldn't do that to someone else. i'm his woman not his mama and i'm sure he wouldn't want me actin like i was. people are gonna do what they want to do regardless of what u do. like if a nigga wants to cheat he's gonna cheat whether you're constantly on his ass or not. knowing that why waste time and energy into something u can't control? my approach to relationships and my marriage is kinda diff. i don't have one jealous bone in my body, security and self-confidence play into that also. i know i'm pretty great and am being the best wife i can be, there's nothing more i can do. if he wants to cheat and/or leave no one is holding him back.

my man goes out when he wants, does what he wants wit whomever he wants, cuz i know he's coming home to me. that shit is real annoying. we are considerate of the other and will call each other so the other won't worry, but no one is asking for permission.

/thread.....

 

[The BAPHOMET]

jealousy and insecurity holds no weight in a relationship and its not like either trait is going to prevent a cheater from being a cheater, may as well be happy in your situation and live, cuz whats down in the dark will soon come to light, so just pray you walk away with no std or disease that can't be cured................be smart when choosing your mate............

 

[Dupac]

Have any examples?

like if an ex is attempting to reach out under the disguise of "just a friend"

or a co-worker calling u on the weekend about shit that in't got nuffin at all to do with work...

ppl try to play innocent all the time.....shit's agame, and u just gotta watch out for it

 

[Djunior]

like if an ex is attempting to reach out under the disguise of "just a friend"

or a co-worker calling u on the weekend about shit that in't got nuffin at all to do with work...

ppl try to play innocent all the time.....shit's agame, and u just gotta watch out for it

Right don't try to play a nigga like boo boo the fool. Simple explanation and it's put to bed.

 

[Blue Virgo]

I dont' chase broads nor do I sweat them. My girl calls and if I don't answer she gets more paranoid than a black man at a klan rally

But this doesn't have to just be a jealous/insecure thing....
If I call my boyfriend and he doesn't answer, I'm like "wtf....this isn't like him--he usually answers, something must be wrong"

I'm a worrier.
=~(*

 

[Ol Jay's]

like if an ex is attempting to reach out under the disguise of "just a friend"

or a co-worker calling u on the weekend about shit that in't got nuffin at all to do with work...

ppl try to play innocent all the time.....shit's agame, and u just gotta watch out for it

my guy almost lost his relationship over this, he's a manager and his assistant's man works with him and her, her man was downing a young sweetie at the gig, so the assistant tried playing extra friendly with my guy to make her man jealous calling him on off days, and having convo's at work getting loud at certain parts, she be like.............."i called my friend up like, LETS DO LUNCH, so I'll be back in a hour"...........and all everbody else here is "LETS DO LUNCH", and they run back and tell her man

 

[blackrain]

well the whole thing is the job place is a hunting ground, and u know ppl always on the prowl...

it's all a matter of knowing the type of person u with, and how much u trust them...

however... u gotta be realistic....if u park a 50K+ car in the projects.....locked doors, club, alramsystem and all..... u still gonna peek out the window to check on that shit every now n then....

and if u see some hungry looking negroes standing too close to ur shit...

"ay....back the fuck up off my shit!!...yea u nigga"

that's not jealousy though...that's just letting it known not to fuck with your shit...i think T/S is talking about people who can't seem to go to 7-Eleven w/o it becoming a "how long you gonna be gone" argument or even something like what's being talked about in the other thread about doing a favor for a co-worker of the opposite sex...yes people do plot but it's up to the person you're with to decide whether or not to cheat...and since it's something I know I can't control I don't stress myself over it...

 

[Blue Virgo]

my guy almost lost his relationship over this, he's a manager and his assistant's man works with him and her, her man was downing a young sweetie at the gig, so the assistant tried playing extra friendly with my guy to make her man jealous calling him on off days, and having convo's at work getting loud at certain parts, she be like.............."i called my friend up like, LETS DO LUNCH, so I'll be back in a hour"...........and all everbody else here is "LETS DO LUNCH", and they run back and tell her man

That's childish.

 

[junegemini]

But this doesn't have to just be a jealous/insecure thing....
If I call my boyfriend and he doesn't answer, I'm like "wtf....this isn't like him--he usually answers, something must be wrong"

I'm a worrier.
=~(*

have some back bone woman geez

 

[Blue Virgo]

have some back bone woman geez

Lol, he tells me all the time "stop worrying about me, I'm fine!"

But when I do the same thing, and finally get back with him, he's like, "I was worried about you"
LMAO.

 

[Rocket Kidd]

Those relationships make for some funny ass stories. My boy was so insecure in his relationship he showed up at a club in sleep gear and chancletas, when he heard his girl talking to another guy over the phone.

But no I can't do that shit I rather be single and have peace of mind.

lol ya boy was on some martin lawrence shit..

talmbout "GET YO SHIT AND LETS GO!!"

 

[Zone6reppa]

lol ya boy was on some martin lawrence shit..

talmbout "GET YO SHIT AND LETS GO!!"

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

 

[Ol Jay's]

That's childish.

very........but he played into the dumbness, when she first came to him puttin him in her business bout the situation and wasn't seeking advice he shoulda cut her short, hell I told him what was up, he wasn't hearing it till she called during off hours asking stupid sh!t while his girl sitting under him hearing the whole convo, they were into it bad over the mess, then and then only he wanna come to me talkin bout "man you know what you be talkin bout, how do I make this right", by that point I'm like it'll cost ya a bag of kush for my advice now

 

[J-GUTTA]

lol ya boy was on some martin lawrence shit..

talmbout "GET YO SHIT AND LETS GO!!"

Honestly it was like that too LOL! I was standing there with my other boy and he comes walking in stands behind us and say's "yall seen my girl?." When he did find her she was following from behind and was yelling "But Brandon"

 

[D-Marco]

Im not insecure or get jealous, if my girl think another dude can treat her better than me then by all means go be with him. Its to many women out here to be trying to handcuff 1

My thoughts exactly. I aint wit that shit.

 

[Nthngis4vr]

Eh...it's annoying as all hell.

Even having friends with a jealous s/o gets frustrating. My brother has a thing for those crazy broads. I would ask him to take me some where and he'd have to call her first. "I'm taking my sister to the store...uh like 15 mins....yeah I'm just going there and back home.....you can ask her" *hands me the phone. smh.

If someone was played in the past, it can be hard to be confident, secure and trusting so I understand insecurity. But damn it's just a lose lose situation to be in.

 

[Rocket Kidd]

Eh...it's annoying as all hell.

Even having friends with a jealous s/o gets frustrating. My brother has a thing for those crazy broads. I would ask him to take me some where and he'd have to call her first. "I'm taking my sister to the store...uh like 15 mins....yeah I'm just going there and back home.....you can ask her" *hands me the phone. smh.

If someone was played in the past, it can be hard to be confident, secure and trusting so I understand insecurity. But damn it's just a lose lose situation to be in.

dead @ that scenario LOL

 

[oldhead77]

some folks are miserably happy meaning that they get happy off other's misery.....fucked up I know but it is what it is

 

[Real Lady]

I dont' deal with relationship that give me alot of problems. It's not worth it. if you not compatible move along. No need to go thru a bunch of bullshit. But I wonder why some people hate you because the relationship didnt work out or come into existance the way it was planned. Just accept that not everyone is meant to be. Hate and bitterness will only stop you from meeting the one. You can't get stuck on a person, you gotta learn when to let go. If you are arguing left and right, let it go, it's not worth the stress.