So you just got married(2-3months), and your mates parents ......

[LPast]

She could say no... All or nothing...

 

[Chi Snow]

Wouldn't care either way, it's our house regardless of who name on the title

Now if you in one of those, 'we married but I always got one foot out the door' type of nigga, then yeah, I can see how this would offend you.

Me tho, at some point it's gonna be GIVEN to one of our children, and one of there children's children, and......

after all u have been thru its nice to see that u still believe in fairytales...

Lol sorry bruh, I can't jump on the Bitter Divorced Black Man bandwagon

 

[Brother_Five]

Wouldn't care either way, it's our house regardless of who name on the title

Now if you in one of those, 'we married but I always got one foot out the door' type of nigga, then yeah, I can see how this would offend you.

Me tho, at some point it's gonna be GIVEN to one of our children, and one of there children's children, and......

after all u have been thru its nice to see that u still believe in fairytales...

Lol sorry bruh, I can't jump on the Bitter Divorced Black Man bandwagon

 

[The Lonious Monk]

I'm perfectly happy with that arrangement. It means that if we get divorced, the house would then be my wife's burden not mine. I could walk away clean.

 

[zzombie]

I don't see anything wrong with that. Yeah, it's obvious the parents don't fully trust me but so what trust can be earned and if the marriage lasts we can always put the house on both our names later on.

but if they trust their child with you....what is a house really?

i am sure the marriage would need to be "blessed" by the parents whether is being given away or asking for hand in marraige..

whos to say who trust someone in a marraige im not it?

thats like buying a honeymoon vacation and only buying insurance for one person because you dont trust someone.

at this point the union has started.

Maybe they don't trust you and they only consented to the marriage for her sake.

Yeah,the union has started but it's quite possible the parents are already planning for what they see coming, a potential divorce.

understood but why even go to those lengths if thats what they see......they are setting up a potential headache and even a gamble when they support the union.

why set up for happiness only to wait for divorce?

if the mate aint worthy....they just aint worthy.

Yeah you may think the mate is not worthy but if your daughter wants him what are you going to do??? Some parents simply won't give consent others play it differently.

what if the husband lives in a ghetto or in a bad side of town. The parents may not like him but for their daughters sake they say fuck it you guys can live in this house.

And if the husband cannot provide a better place then he really shouldn't be angry

 

[GodSpeed215]

I'm perfectly happy with that arrangement. It means that if we get divorced, the house would then be my wife's burden not mine. I could walk away clean.

This is a great point but the fact that she doesn’t seem to have a problem with it would make me think subconsciously she doesn't think it'll work either.

The money we was saving from not paying a mortgage I would quietly be hoarding just in case.

 

[mryounggun]

I'm perfectly happy with that arrangement. It means that if we get divorced, the house would then be my wife's burden not mine. I could walk away clean.

This is a great point but the fact that she doesn’t seem to have a problem with it would make me think subconsciously she doesn't think it'll work either.

The money we was saving from not paying a mortgage I would quietly be hoarding just in case.

This is one of those scenarios that people shade with their own fears and experiences, ya know? You could just as easily say that the fact that she doesn't have a problem with it shows that she knows you'll be together forever so who gives a fuck who's name the house is in.

Not saying that either is correct, just an example.

 

[deadeye]

buys a house for you two to live in but only wants the house in your mates name and your mate is ok with it that way.

now outside of the very surface answer "at least we have somewhere to live".

how would you feel?

If they're the ones paying for the house there's nothing to complain about.

 

[deadeye]

help me out..

i dont know shit bout divorce laws but wouldnt the bitch have to sell it and half the proceeds go to me anyway??

if so who cares??

That's true in community property states like Cali.

Not sure about other states though.

 

[nawledge_god]

I Get To Fuck They Daughter In A House I'm Not Paying For??? SHIIIIEEETTTT

 

[TheNightKing]

help me out..

i dont know shit bout divorce laws but wouldnt the bitch have to sell it and half the proceeds go to me anyway??

if so who cares??

I'm not 100% on this, but if it was a gift to the wife it wouldn't be considered community property, thus would not be split in the divorce. That probably changes state to state though.