SMH at so many men allowing their sisters to get beatdown by their s/o's

[bull6599]

alil off topic. but smdh @ yall view of women in abusive relationships....ending a relationship even an abusive one is much more complex than just making the decision to leave...

anyways not a man but if it were my sister, mother, cousin, aunt, friend i would do anything in my power to help them financial/mental or w/e so they feel as though they could leave... i dunno about yall but the safety and well being of my family is very important to me...

U can be willing to help as much as possible, but if a mufucka doesn't want to help themselves it doesn't matter. I had a cousin in the same situation back in 07. My cousin was 25 w/ a 6 year old son & a 1 year old daughter (different fathers). She was living w/ her daughter's father and about a year after she was born he started drinking heavily & became abusive. The first 2 times my cousin (her older brother) went over & got into w/ dude & she went back to him both times. After that he just said "fuck it". He was on probation & had already risked going in by fighting w/ dude the first 2 times.

Afterwards my mom (her aunt...my mom & her dad are bro & sis) stepped in. My older brother had graduated college, found a job, & moved out. I was leaving in a couple months to come live w/ my pops in NC so my mom was about to be solo in a 3 BR house. She offered to let my cousin (& her kids) stay w/ her rent free until she saved enough $ to get a place of her own or finish school & get a better job. All she woulda had to do was buy groceries & cook. This dumb heffer said no! And why u ask...b/c my mom said she had to leave dude alone completely (@ least until he got his drinking under control).

 

[aneed123]

aint but so much u can do.... My man pride wont allow me to let it slide initially. so Id check dude...Iid its comes to it fight ir shoot him.... I gotta live with it tho. With that said I done seen too many deaths and sad situations over women not leaving abusive niggas.. Its a catch 22

 

[ocelot]

Yall niggas gonna end up like Sonny from the Godfather...

 

[WhoisDonG???]

Man I seen plenty brothers get killed or fucked up over a female rather it be a sister or cousin or even a God Sister. Funny thing they go back to the deadbeat ass nigga every time. So I mine my business.