Should We Continue to Paint this Picture of Marriage to the Next Gen?

[goldenja]

of course. id feel like a failure if i didn't.

 

[American.Loo]

what is the point of remaining married for years and years and you're miserable.

i have a supervisor and i can tell he loathes going home.

 

[sonofliberty]

im with the idea of what the t/s is saying, but as mentioned above...what is the alternative? temporary emotional relationship leases?

You just might be on to something there. Kinda like a marriage in the form of a sports contract that way all possibilities can be insured during yall time together.

 

[American.Loo]

it aint for most people, but most people feel otherwise.

 

[7figz]

The more i think about it, the dumber the idea becomes.

Life aint a fucking fairytale. All that happily ever after shit is a god damn joke. You want an example? You want to see what i'm talking about?

Take your lunch break between 12-3PM and go to any fast-food joint in the continental US. i guarantee that you will see atleast 2 couples...OLDER than a sumbitch, sitting at a table. They will be eating. The man may be sipping his coffee AND/OR reading the the paper. The wife will be dressed as if shes going somewhere, but obviously she aint. And to top it off, these couples will eat and stare into space without saying a WORD to each other.lets face it, these people aint fucked in decades.

i dunno if i want that life, mang. I dunno if thats for me. Like, i completely understand that when you are about 100 or so and you been with the same motherfucker for the last 60 years, aint SHIT to talk about!! why put yourself thru the torture? why not develop and enjoy as many safe monogamous relationships as possible? or atleast swing? SOMETHIN, shit.

the marriage game seems boring after the smoke, glitter and confetti clears.

speak on it.

Add the fact that men get "raped" in a divorce and you have the nail in the coffin.

 

[7figz]

...

One of those "Marriage is better (with no concrete non-religious, non-traditional, no explanation as to why it's necessary, no reason why you can't have true love and a great relationship without marriage....)" responses ....

 

[Shuffington]

well... if it's something that you cant see and feel or something not in your immediate grasp... .. its very easy to say "f*ck marriage"....

but if you meet someone who you eventually grow to love and trust... and you can willingly say to yourself... "hey, I can see myself being with this person for quite sometime" Than maybe that should tell you something.

 

[7figz]

got dayum hoe hear we go again LOL...



marriage is a big deal & its very important to society. It keeps ppl in check & holds ppl to make better decisions & be more responsible, w/o it niggas wouldnt care about unity, theyd fuck maaad broads get em pregnant, leave & the family structure would be even more broken & non existent. Wen u decide to take that step u look at the person & decide LONG TERM if its worth it & if u can trust them, etc , cuz lets be real here even wen ur just thinkin of chicks in ur head theres a certain calibre of woman u say "i'd wife or she wifey". Even tho sometimes it dont work for others, its the mere thought that most ppl do it to make the best of their situation & to be together, so that mentality shows me that it has use in that area as well. 50% fail but 50% succeed so dont try to bring stats into this LOL. Marriage is the union of families also (plz dont tell me its a business arrangement b/c 90% of the country isnt even in that bracket to make it such sorry nigga), & having religion into it is just another standard for ppl to uphold themselves to & is binded into marriage b/c its complimentary. As for the consequences.... theyre necessary, if u dont plan to do each other wrong & u dont plan to fuck it up then u have nothing to worry about. Losing half ur shit or alimony is a consequence just like if u were to steal something u could be jailed. In relationships sure ppl make mistakes but shitting on marriage doesnt fix things & being tryna be single forever cuz u got hurt almost NEVER works.

Marriage is necessary to society , the concept of family, law & union. Sure u could have a good relationship w/o marriage but using that as a means to say it completely nullifies the concept of marriage then is inconsistent & reeks w/ insecurity. Some ppl can do the long term thing, some ppl cannot. ppl are diff't.

I'm a dude bruh.

Anyway, these marriage pro/con arguments seem to go back and forth forever. Nobody said marriage should be illegal (at this point anyway( but I do have major problems with your particular argument for marriage.

T/S said he doesn't want to get married. I respect his argument, he made valid points. Your points however seem to think that everyone is irresponsible and marriage is something to keep people in check. That's just pathetic on some old "I'll make you love me... or else..." shit.

So many holes in your argument, I get tired just trying to find where each point ends and begins so I could counter it. For instance, you say people who have a good relationship and don't see the need for marriage are insecure. However earlier you say that there should be consequences, etc... that sounds really insecure to me.

I could go on... try using bullets next time.

 

[Iheart~Cali]

So you're saying it wouldn't be boring if you were in a relationship with this same person, just not married?

 

[showkase2]

Until America reforms alimony/child support laws, the idea of marriage will continue down the drain. Women will find ways to milk the system, and every man will be afraid that HIS fiancé is just looking for a lifetime welfare check.

 

[7figz]

Until America reforms alimony/child support laws, the idea of marriage will continue down the drain. Women will find ways to milk the system, and every man will be afraid that HIS fiancé is just looking for a lifetime welfare check.

^^^^ Agreed.

 

[Koko888]

Marriage is undoubtedly a good thing if done properly and for the right reasons. But more often that not, this isn't the case. Personally, don't know if I want to get married, my feelings might change as I get older.

 

[Dupac]

i feel like as long as my kids see me and their mother happily married and working as a team, when they get old enough to actually consider it themselves.. whatever i tell them will be much better recieved than if they weren't able to see that...

 

[Kid Dynasty]

fuck marriage man, seriously