pico rivera;2803850 said:
as far as the bondage S&M thing goes???
Funny but me and my homegirl (we used to fuck years ago) talked about this the other day and how she explained it to me was this 2 words: POWER, CONTROL
She said that guys aren't gonna be just oh hell yeah and volunteering to do it because they feel like they'll lose power and/or control to the female since she'd be in a dominant position and we as men are raised/taught to be aggressive.
In her words the purpose of bondage is about the woman controlling the moment, and the man being cool with being submissive even if its just in this brief instance.
" Communication is important and there must be a reassurance that the dominatrix is in it to dominate you NOT belittle, and beat the shit out of you"
She said that T.V and media stories have distorted the true intention of bondage. For example, movies where a man dresses up in women's clothes, dressed like the Gimp from Pulp Fiction, is just that FICTION.
"The Dominatrix isn't supposed to be getting her rocks off to whipping mufukkas till the skin bleeds, gagging him, basically taking shit too far to the extreme,etc. it's all about control and if the man is open-minded, strong-willed enough for him to be kosher with relinquishing his power/control to his woman again just for this brief instance".
"Assure the partner through effective communication that it's true intention is to be pleasurable not painful; also that you've established boundaries and that you're aware of the certain boundaries that aren't to be crossed"
Pico homeskillet,
all I can say is take heed to what my homegirl said and if you pull it off YOU CAN SEND HER A THANK YOU CARD LOL
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