Question.......

[BackInWhite]

that nigga said closet dykes
lol

 

[hummingbird]

hi muz!!!

Why be so mean :-(

Anyhoo I just think that the American household is changing so much, where women are becoming the primary income, I think it unrealistic to have such rigid roles

I make a good 20 grand more than my hubby does even tho he works more hours than I do, however I dont think the amount of income should have any bearing on who does what in the house. I jsut never understood the whole "He needs to do the cooking and cleaning because I pay the house note and he only pays the car note" type thing.

We pretty much follow very tradtional roles in our home. I cook, clean, do laundry and he takes care of the cars, repairs, and yard work.

But we do these things because this is whats comfortable to us and is the things we take the most pride in doing. I love when someone walks into my home and compliments me on how well kept it is or notices all the effort I put into making dinner And he is always gunning to get the award for best lawn that the HOA gives out.

I tried the whole single take care of myself I can do what a man does thing, and I really got no enjoyment out of it.

While my views are very similar to your s/o's mom, Im not as extreme as she is in thinking that it applies to all women because I know it doesnt. So I think it really just depends on the man and women and the dynamics of thier relationship.

I personally could never see myself with a man who wasnt into the tradtional roles, I tried it and it just didnt work for me. And as much as I usually disagree with Fabion I agree with his comment "Just cuz we have different responsibilities doesn't mean I'm more or less important."

 

[junegemini]

i wouldn't say its traditional with us. i'll cook, but we go half on the cleaning and i rarely take out trash. its more of a teamwork thing with us, and it was his idea and it works for us

but i think its because i make the most money...if he was breadwinner, he probably wouldnt wash dishes lol

 

[MsSouthern]

Since I just live with my kid.....

I take on ALL the roles. Except the taking out the trash and walking the dog. My son does those things.

 

[BackByDEMANDisCHINK]

I have very traditional views of women and their place in the household. Although, it would undoubtly depend on my career and my husbands career. I refuse to work 8 hours a day, run errands, come home to cook, clean, help the child(ren) with homework, prepare dinner, clean up again, get the child ready for bed, and satisfy my husband every day? Aint no way, aint no how. Thats where I would stress splitting duties between my husband and I. Now I CANNOT be a stay at home wife, I'll literally go crazy and I praise all stay at home wives who have 2, 3 and 4 kids...that job is more stressful than holding any upper echelon position at a fourtune 500 company. I do agree that as the women has left their 'position' in the house, things have went downhill in the family infastructure though.

 

[haute]

so if you were able to how many of you would be a full time stay at home mom????

 

[hummingbird]

so if you were able to how many of you would be a full time stay at home mom????

The hubby says I can if I want to, but all of our kids are school age so id just being sitting home bored all day. If they were not in school then I would stay home fulltime

We're working on a baby right now, so once we get preggo and the baby comes then I will stay home until he/she is school age. But then again I would prob end up doing a little consulting work on the side.

 

[MsSouthern]

when my son was younger I was lucky enough to get to stay home till he was almost 2

I would have loved to stay till he started kindergarten. When he was in 4th and 5th grade , I went back to school. The only thing I miss about that is how active I was in his school. I was able to be at all PTA meetings, help out with school parties, and be there for hiim the minute he got home from school. My house was always spotless and dinner was always ready by 6pm. Now not so much but since he's in Jr High now... I'm fine with being a working mom.

 

[Nthngis4vr]

so if you were able to how many of you would be a full time stay at home mom????

I would..I was Suzy homemaker for a whole year when I got married. I watched my sister's baby too and being at work was so much easier. My husband really wanted me to stay at home with the kids. Now looking back, I should have just stayed home. The lil one is about to be in kindergarten soon so there's no point now. If I have another one, I'm not working.

 

[junegemini]

I'd only want to stay home for the first year or so...i can't see myself just sitting at home all day, i'd go crazy...

 

[Iheart~Cali]

Cook, clean, decorate (in that order)

Edit: I'd love nothing more than to be a stay-at-home mom.