Poly-life or nah...

[leftcoastkev]

It's your life. Live it how ever the fuck you want. Fuck what somebody who is NOT contributing to your happiness thinks.

 

[Max.]

How long has it been since you got pipe down

 

[Broddie]

You a mess. I ain’t finna sugarcoat shit. I ain’t about to say you progressive or anything like that. You’re debating being on a roster vs a stale relationship. You’re an idiot. You have five kids and willing to show them it’s okay to settle. Fuck a history with a mf because it’s obvious he’s taking advantage of your lack of empowerment. That nigga trying have you play a part of his fantasy and you’re actually contemplating it and disregarding the impact that shit will have on your kids. They will never be dedicated to anything because they won’t feel the need to. They will grow up selfish and disillusioned because their adults were too caught up in foolishness to actually know true discipline and self respect. I think you’re looking at the fact y’all have a history and he’s willing to provide majority of the financial support.

Idk you but if I did I would finesse you until you hated every fiber of my being. Stop being a silly bitch and build for your kids.

 

[CapitalB]

why cant you get a dildo an hold the nigga at night?

Because she thinks that he's a "nice guy". The minute a woman starts thinking that about her guy it's a wrap.

I actually want him to get another woman, but he doesn't think that she'll go for it.

Besides, who gets jealous over a nigga who plays the game all the time???

The fact that he feels that way plays a part in you not finding him attractive anymore subconsciously I'm sure. Now I see why you labeled him a "nice guy". He's at a point in life where he's always afraid to try. Wouldn't be surprised if people pleasing is a priority to him in life and it never should be.

He needs to work on himself cause it sounds like he's got self confidence/self love issues. If he doesn't nip it in the bud that will affect his love life and everything else for the rest of his days. No matter what until that is done every woman he encounters will want to be ghost and as far away from him as possible after a while just like you right now.

I don't believe that some men want to be monogamous.

I'd respect a man more for telling me what he is and isn't built for.

And he's not built for poly-life.

I wouldn't call it 'people-pleasing' but some of our problems stem from the fact that he doesn't want to have an argument. For me, that's an issue.

That's what happens when men become too passive. Women love conflict. That's why I stopped biting my tongue ages ago. No fucks left to give.

By not speaking up and telling me details that could prevent things from happening, you are creating a problem.

I.e., I wanted to order a pizza because I had some coupons.

I called, placed the order, and fell asleep. I would periodically wake up to see if the pizza came. Each time, he would go to the living room.

After an HOUR AND A HALF, he tells me 'idk why you ordered from there. They always messing up our orders'. He followed up with 'I kept asking my bro if it had came and him and his gf said the same thing..they always messing up orders'.

How would I have known that they mess up orders if he hadn't spoke up?

Whyyyy would you even let me order from them if that was the case??

The shit pmo because it was for MY SON. Smmfh

Wait, what? This is an argument? This shit so damn immature minded. And why you need to wait an hour and a half to figure out they fucked up the order. Maybe it just slipped his mind about how they be fucking up orders or he ain't know where you ordered from at first.

All that to say this, you seem immature as hell and if this is how you are with a one on one relationship. Trust me, there's no way you are level headed and forward thinking enough to handle all the challenges and nuances of your man having two women. If you were you wouldn't have 3 baby daddies.

Leave ibs boy if you're not happy, but don't move his baby away from him, that's super selfish. Oh and don't come to Detroit, niggas will scoop the other chick and have y'all forced back into monogamy lol

OUCH!

@Kai and hunby already plottin on the other bitch! DAMN!

 

[VIBE]

Wait. This dude is a gamer like that and he hasn't taken advantage of streaming or YouTube?

 

[VIBE]

If he was a streamer or youtuber and making money, wld this still be a big issue to you?

 

[MoneyPowerRespect]

Did you get with him thinking he was father material...was there ever any real love or just wishful thinking turned into pity

I definitely believe that he's father material.

I love his family. They can be a bit messy, but for the most part, everyone is close and pretty chill.

 

[MoneyPowerRespect]

You a mess. I ain’t finna sugarcoat shit. I ain’t about to say you progressive or anything like that. You’re debating being on a roster vs a stale relationship. You’re an idiot. You have five kids and willing to show them it’s okay to settle. Fuck a history with a mf because it’s obvious he’s taking advantage of your lack of empowerment. That nigga trying have you play a part of his fantasy and you’re actually contemplating it and disregarding the impact that shit will have on your kids. They will never be dedicated to anything because they won’t feel the need to. They will grow up selfish and disillusioned because their adults were too caught up in foolishness to actually know true discipline and self respect. I think you’re looking at the fact y’all have a history and he’s willing to provide majority of the financial support.

Idk you but if I did I would finesse you until you hated every fiber of my being. Stop being a silly bitch and build for your kids.

You said all that and haven't read nann response smh

It's my idea.

So no. This isn't his fantasy.

I only have 3 kids.

It's funny that you brought up history because I've known both of them for the same amount of time.

 

[MoneyPowerRespect]

If the polygamist life was like Big Love ....it might not be so bad lol

But realistically it's not and it's not for me. I don't want to share my man period.

Seems too complicated and y'all have kids too. Not even ones born into that life either. That lifestyle almost has to be taught from birth

I couldn't even imagine being told "babe it's Wednesday ....you know that means I'm with my other wife ...I'll see you on Friday "

That's why I'm saying she should just do her shit on the side and have her man know about it and keep it between them. Cuz if you start adding other ppls kids into the mix the repercussions of that poly relationship not working out will be way more intense than just her and her current dude not working out.

I've seen it.

Between CPS, food stamp fraud, and some extra shit, it can end horribly.

 

[MoneyPowerRespect]

@MoneyPowerRespect why you think you need an actual poly relationship instead of just having a side nigga that your current man knows about (or just knows about the situation)?

Everybody knowing each other and being everybody business seem messy to me and you got 2 other kids and their families to deal with behind that...I'd just keep it plain with my dude and keep that between us.

I tried JUST having a side nigga on the low AFTER we talked about poly-life.

Shit was cool but he started catching feelings and had to let him go.

What about a side boyfriend? Or just date a married nigga so yall both know it ain't going nowhere serious lol

Ask @2stepz_ahead about the logistics...

I talked to a married man before.

It was cool.

we began to make plans, but I got cold feet.

Shame on me

 

[Rozetta5tone]

Yet you’re still in the same position.

Black girl magic is real but tragically you’ve yet to discover it.

Log back off and come back with a success story.

Don’t quote me bro

 

[Hevalisk]

Ibs?

 

[MoneyPowerRespect]

Yet you’re still in the same position.

Black girl magic is real but tragically you’ve yet to discover it.

Log back off and come back with a success story.

Don’t quote me bro

Hhhhmmmm....

 

[Hevalisk]

There is a reason polygamy is mainly present in highly misogynistic societies nowadays.

"Well, why is that Hevalisk?"

I'm not in college anymore, I'm not explaining shit.

(that sounds like you're making some random statement and don't want to do any research)

Damn right.

 

[VulcanRaven]

Only read the first page

Man I ain't got time for this. Got to get this work done

 

[Go figure]

Sounds like IBS is tough enough for a guy to not wanna fuck. Hes got the meds now maybe that will change.

But your pizza example sounds petty af. If its any indication of the other shit u wanna argue with him about, might be why he stays in the videogames all the time.

Which means u both sound immature.

And dont say "i only have 3 kids". U gotta add in 'with 3 diff guys' or else youre false advertising out here.

 

[MoneyPowerRespect]

There is a reason polygamy is mainly present in highly misogynistic societies nowadays.

"Well, why is that Hevalisk?"

I'm not in college anymore, I'm not explaining shit.

(that sounds like you're making some random statement and don't want to do any research)

Damn right.

A nation can go no higher than it's women.

Those countries are highly mysogynistic and poor.

 

[JonnyRoccIT]

why cant you get a dildo an hold the nigga at night?

Because she thinks that he's a "nice guy". The minute a woman starts thinking that about her guy it's a wrap.

I actually want him to get another woman, but he doesn't think that she'll go for it.

Besides, who gets jealous over a nigga who plays the game all the time???

The fact that he feels that way plays a part in you not finding him attractive anymore subconsciously I'm sure. Now I see why you labeled him a "nice guy". He's at a point in life where he's always afraid to try. Wouldn't be surprised if people pleasing is a priority to him in life and it never should be.

He needs to work on himself cause it sounds like he's got self confidence/self love issues. If he doesn't nip it in the bud that will affect his love life and everything else for the rest of his days. No matter what until that is done every woman he encounters will want to be ghost and as far away from him as possible after a while just like you right now.

I don't believe that some men want to be monogamous.

I'd respect a man more for telling me what he is and isn't built for.

And he's not built for poly-life.

I wouldn't call it 'people-pleasing' but some of our problems stem from the fact that he doesn't want to have an argument. For me, that's an issue.

That's what happens when men become too passive. Women love conflict. That's why I stopped biting my tongue ages ago. No fucks left to give.

By not speaking up and telling me details that could prevent things from happening, you are creating a problem.

I.e., I wanted to order a pizza because I had some coupons.

I called, placed the order, and fell asleep. I would periodically wake up to see if the pizza came. Each time, he would go to the living room.

After an HOUR AND A HALF, he tells me 'idk why you ordered from there. They always messing up our orders'. He followed up with 'I kept asking my bro if it had came and him and his gf said the same thing..they always messing up orders'.

How would I have known that they mess up orders if he hadn't spoke up?

Whyyyy would you even let me order from them if that was the case??

The shit pmo because it was for MY SON. Smmfh

Ibs?

Irritable bowel syndrome.

:joy: I swear the IC is the like a Portal to some Fucked up Dimension brah

 

[blakfyahking]

it can work well if all the women are mature about it and work together

scary conditioned mofos are in here trying to discourage shorty

obviously what she was doing before wasn't working if ya'll trying to clown shorty for having more than one baby father

I think polygamy really scares simp niggaz and selfish women tho

 

[2stepz_ahead]

@MoneyPowerRespect why you think you need an actual poly relationship instead of just having a side nigga that your current man knows about (or just knows about the situation)?

Everybody knowing each other and being everybody business seem messy to me and you got 2 other kids and their families to deal with behind that...I'd just keep it plain with my dude and keep that between us.

I tried JUST having a side nigga on the low AFTER we talked about poly-life.

Shit was cool but he started catching feelings and had to let him go.

What about a side boyfriend? Or just date a married nigga so yall both know it ain't going nowhere serious lol

Ask @2stepz_ahead about the logistics...

im not following here

help me understand