OPEN RELATIONSHIP/OPEN MARRIAGE(For Men Only) - Could It Work?

[KingFreeman]

I'll never forget the sound of my homeboys laughter when I told him this chick I was with said wanted a open relationship. Nigga laughed hard as fuck patted me on the shoulder and shook his head. Didn't say a word but I knew I had just made a young mistake. Never again.

Lol at "she allowing me" nigga foh.That shit can only work for one of you. Whoever initiates that convo or is passive about it is fucking somebody else already.

U sharing.

 

[LPast]

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Both.

It's a one way hall pass.

She's allowing ME to do this only. Not her.

Basically... I told her that there's no WAY I could completely commit UNLESS I found a girl that was a virgin to commit to. Also that, it didn't make sense for me to commit to her in a way that I know I could when she's been in previous relationships, few it may be.

I told her, she's charismatic, sexy, smart, sensible, and pragmatic... she has ALL THE QUALITIES I look for in a woman, and a wife... EXCEPT that she has a past. I basically said I couldn't give all to her for that reason.

But I also think she will make a great mother and wife. She's feminine, she's not money hungry, she knows how to make me feel like a man, and all that. And she WANTS ME.

She cried, but she understood where I came from, and basically we both know I've got options... that's how this agreement came about.

That reasoning isn't really that good...sounds like insecurity on your part if her past bothers you that much. So based on that reasoning how would you feel of she flipped that on you and said "because you been with other women in the past I can't fully commit and I need to be able to fuck other niggas from time to time"

If she does that, I'm dropping her.

That means she doesn't want me as much as she thought she did.

That's fine by me.

Like I said... I got nothing to lose and everything to gain.

If you OK with your girl leaving, she not that important to you. Everything goes both ways. So at the end of the day you both would be happy if things don't work out.

As for the open relationship... We are humans. It would be very rare for a woman to be faithful to one man while you fuck who ever you want.

I guarantee your woman would be EASIER to smash if you are in an open relationship.

Dudes are going to be gassing her, telling her she is the only one they need... Boom smash

 

[taeboo]

So you want a woman who is damn near virginal to not only let you go out fuck other women, but from out of the blue develop an attraction to women and lick twat with you from time to time????

 

[blackrain]

I think if u can check your ego and u can get to a point where u believe sex isn't the determining factor in a relationship, u can do it. I've been in a modified open relationship where I could fuck other girls and my girl fucked girls but she couldn't fuck any niggas. Shit is refreshing to have things out on the table like that. We loved each other but still wanted to explore other people. I don't know how I would have reacted if she wanted to fuck other guys. I guess my question is, how big a role does sex play in loving someone. If u still got the pussy and was able to smash other bitches, could u deal with another nigga beating yo wife's cheeks up. I'd say most niggas ain't built for the reciprocal part of that life

Guys CAN get away with this on ONE WAY shit... IF, and ONLY IF that dude got options.

I don't want to brag but I got options... and future.

If she fucks other dudes, that means I let it be known she's gonna become used up and won't be able to find another one like me.(we already had this talk...)

From MY side... I'm doing her a favor by staying with her... BUT only on that agreement. If she wants me all her life.

I can win in this ONLY because I don't love her. I WILL become jealous and angry if she goes and fucks another guy, but I can drop her like nothing if that happened.

Truthfully speaking, this is doable for me because I believe and I know I can find someone better than her... I don't think she can do the same without me.

This shit sounds like you're settling for someone you can manipulate as opposed to having an actual relationship. Why stay with a person when you know you can do better?

 

[blackrain]

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Both.

It's a one way hall pass.

She's allowing ME to do this only. Not her.

Basically... I told her that there's no WAY I could completely commit UNLESS I found a girl that was a virgin to commit to. Also that, it didn't make sense for me to commit to her in a way that I know I could when she's been in previous relationships, few it may be.

I told her, she's charismatic, sexy, smart, sensible, and pragmatic... she has ALL THE QUALITIES I look for in a woman, and a wife... EXCEPT that she has a past. I basically said I couldn't give all to her for that reason.

But I also think she will make a great mother and wife. She's feminine, she's not money hungry, she knows how to make me feel like a man, and all that. And she WANTS ME.

She cried, but she understood where I came from, and basically we both know I've got options... that's how this agreement came about.

That reasoning isn't really that good...sounds like insecurity on your part if her past bothers you that much. So based on that reasoning how would you feel of she flipped that on you and said "because you been with other women in the past I can't fully commit and I need to be able to fuck other niggas from time to time"

If she does that, I'm dropping her.

That means she doesn't want me as much as she thought she did.

That's fine by me.

Like I said... I got nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Not really. It's not what you're doing but the reasons you're giving as to why it's not a win really. You're deluding yourself because you're admittedly scared of developing feelings for someone

 

[2stepz_ahead]

So you want a woman who is damn near virginal to not only let you go out fuck other women, but from out of the blue develop an attraction to women and lick twat with you from time to time????

you making it seem like he asking for too much

 

[YC11]

So you want a woman who is damn near virginal to not only let you go out fuck other women, but from out of the blue develop an attraction to women and lick twat with you from time to time????

Lol.

No. I told her ONLY woman I WOULD stay faithful and 100% committed to is a virgin girl.

I wouldn't fuck other women as long as I am with that person.

She is not.

 

[YC11]

This shit sounds like you're settling for someone you can manipulate as opposed to having an actual relationship. Why stay with a person when you know you can do better?

It almost kind of is.

Mostly because she is perfect in every other sense.

But when I get to a certain age and I know that I can pull a younger, sweet girl... I'm going to be tempted. But I want a family with a women of similar intelligence as well who can raise the kid properly as well. So this is my compromise with her and her compromise with me.

No man is different from me in that sense, all men are attracted to young women, it's just a matter of whether they can get it or not.

 

[YC11]

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Pretty much.

Also, as you both get older. Perspectives do change, and certain things become more tolerable too.

You become less lustful(aka crazy love), so you start thinking more with your brain. With acknowledgements, arrangements can be made... to a certain extent. Though it IS easier for a women to allow men to do so... I'm not sure how many men would allow their women to do the same. But it's known fact, beside from one real life couple I know where wife allows this without getting her piece of the pie(or pipe in this case) celebrities like Jada Pinkett and Monica have allowed their men to do so without them getting theirs.(supposedly... whether they did themselves or not is mute)

 

[blackrain]

This shit sounds like you're settling for someone you can manipulate as opposed to having an actual relationship. Why stay with a person when you know you can do better?

It almost kind of is.

Mostly because she is perfect in every other sense.

But when I get to a certain age and I know that I can pull a younger, sweet girl... I'm going to be tempted. But I want a family with a women of similar intelligence as well who can raise the kid properly as well. So this is my compromise with her and her compromise with me.

No man is different from me in that sense, all men are attracted to young women, it's just a matter of whether they can get it or not.

Or a matter of if they want to go get it or not. If you can't fight the temptation to be with other women then just say that's the reason. There's plenty women who will agree that a man shouldn't even have to fight that temptation and will tell you to go do whatever you want so long as you don't embarrass her and bring anything home. All this "I can't be faithful to a woman who isn't a virgin" and "I'm settling for someone when I know I could do better" just makes you sound insecure in who you are as a person. It's shit niggas clown women for doing/saying daily.

 

[taeboo]

So you want a woman who is damn near virginal to not only let you go out fuck other women, but from out of the blue develop an attraction to women and lick twat with you from time to time????

you making it seem like he asking for too much

IMO he is. It's one thing to meet a woman who is already bisexual and wants to bring a girl around from time to time or a woman who feels that as long as home is taken care of, a man can have a fling. This dude is trying to manipulate a woman into a kind of relationship she more than likely is not okay with because of his own insecurities. No solid relationship can be built from that no matter if it's an open one or not.

 

[soul rattler]

Every relationship is bound to fail eventually.

Open or monogamous, it doesn't matter. If it's monogamous, you'll eventually fall out of love. If it's open, eventually you'll fall in love with someone else. Either that or you die first.

Just stay single and fuck freely. Marriage is a dying institution.

 

[Negro_Caesar]

I think if u can check your ego and u can get to a point where u believe sex isn't the determining factor in a relationship, u can do it. I've been in a modified open relationship where I could fuck other girls and my girl fucked girls but she couldn't fuck any niggas. Shit is refreshing to have things out on the table like that. We loved each other but still wanted to explore other people. I don't know how I would have reacted if she wanted to fuck other guys. I guess my question is, how big a role does sex play in loving someone. If u still got the pussy and was able to smash other bitches, could u deal with another nigga beating yo wife's cheeks up. I'd say most niggas ain't built for the reciprocal part of that life

Guys CAN get away with this on ONE WAY shit... IF, and ONLY IF that dude got options.

I don't want to brag but I got options... and future.

If she fucks other dudes, that means I let it be known she's gonna become used up and won't be able to find another one like me.(we already had this talk...)

From MY side... I'm doing her a favor by staying with her... BUT only on that agreement. If she wants me all her life.

I can win in this ONLY because I don't love her. I WILL become jealous and angry if she goes and fucks another guy, but I can drop her like nothing if that happened.

Truthfully speaking, this is doable for me because I believe and I know I can find someone better than her... I don't think she can do the same without me.

Y r u with her then? Makes no sense? Ur with her cause you know ahes weak minded which in turn makes u weak. Y make a deal with a bitch u dont love and think ur better than, be single and do what u do without any type of permission

 

[taylornathaniel]

I've had the talk with my girl of 2 years. I basically told her that I can give her everything while we are together... just not the 100% commitment from me to her only.

We talked about the divorce rates, cheating, anger and bitterness slowly building up by ignoring the obvious problems that may arise from long term relationships.

Personally speaking, unless you want a KID(S) and a family, I don't see any reason why a men in this day and age should get married or be with one woman exclusively. It's not natural. It's institutional, not natural.

I thought the best way to keep the lifetime "commitment" fresh and renewed without slowly and unknowingly drifting apart... would be to have more flexible freedom in the romantic department. SEX, not love.

She wants to be with me, and only me. She wants to have kids with me. She's allowing me, as long as I let her know and don't hide anything from her, and don't bring back anything TO her.(pregnancy, STD, etc) Meaning always getting tested, staying clean, wearing condom, etc.

Is this actually realistic way of keeping things together in the long term, should things get stale, like in all marriages?

P.S. Threesome is my ultimate goal but yeah. Otherwise... think Will and Jada.

I don't see how this can work without emotions getting involved. this type of life style is nothing new; they even have TV shows about this shit. In addition, a lot of you females are living this life style now but are in denial. Your man is cheating on you, however, you are still with him. Nothing new here. me personally, why would i want my wife fucking other men and vis versa.

 

[LEMZIMUS_RAMSEY]

I've had the talk with my girl of 2 years. I basically told her that I can give her everything while we are together... just not the 100% commitment from me to her only.

We talked about the divorce rates, cheating, anger and bitterness slowly building up by ignoring the obvious problems that may arise from long term relationships.

Personally speaking, unless you want a KID(S) and a family, I don't see any reason why a men in this day and age should get married or be with one woman exclusively. It's not natural. It's institutional, not natural.

I thought the best way to keep the lifetime "commitment" fresh and renewed without slowly and unknowingly drifting apart... would be to have more flexible freedom in the romantic department. SEX, not love.

She wants to be with me, and only me. She wants to have kids with me. She's allowing me, as long as I let her know and don't hide anything from her, and don't bring back anything TO her.(pregnancy, STD, etc) Meaning always getting tested, staying clean, wearing condom, etc.

Is this actually realistic way of keeping things together in the long term, should things get stale, like in all marriages?

P.S. Threesome is my ultimate goal but yeah. Otherwise... think Will and Jada.

Its some type of lifestyle that belongs to MATURE COUPLES. Imo you have a lot to discover and chare from and to each other. Its way to early and it can be highly destructive for young people couples.

 

[MrMinimalist]

These females still gonna be bringing dudes around their kids saying he's an uncle. Smh.

 

[Kwan Dai]

Yes, it can work. Everyone just has to be in agreement.

I am just perplexed that brothers are this mentally, and spiritually inept. Life isn't just about the next or last piece of pussy.

 

[kingofkingz]

Open relationships are the new trend now a days. This chick told me the other day she don't care who her man fuckin or let suck him off long as he comes home to her at the end of night

 

[LPast]

To answer the thread, yes it can work. But the TS is trying to do a half open relationship. That can only work in rare situations.

 

[MsSouthern]

I don't think some of yall know what cuckold means ....lol