Married Men: What's the real deal about marriage?

[Plutarch]

My girl desperately wants to get married. She's into me...heavy... and I get it... Ima great catch...

But for some odd reason, I don't want her to be so desperate about it. I want to be with someone whom

we just up and decide kind of like a second thought ....

"hey... you wanna get married?."

"OK"

"Cool"

I find that a lot of women including my girl stack to much meaning on top of Marriage when for me it doesn't

mean any more or less to me than a normal loving relationship.

If we follow the basic parameters of a relationship we should be good to go.

ANOTHER personal issue of minds..... is that I like my space. .. Like, I love my f*cking space.

I have a home with a garage... my own bedroom where can jerk off in peace ... I love my ME-Time.

yeah, this post definitely resonates with a lot of men, not just me and a couple of others on here. It's kind of oxymoronic (or paradoxical?). Guys like girl, girl like guy, girl likes guy a lot more, guy likes girl a bit less.

I hear women complain about this a lot, and honestly, I guess they have some reason to complain. But at the same time whereas men need to understand where women are coming from, women need to understand where men are coming from. And neither party has to necessarily be wrong. Just gotta have that respect and talk things out. It aint easy though...

I'm the worst. I can be a "good catch," but I'm not the ideal husband, let alone boyfriend. I couldn't care less about a wedding, anniversary, etc. I'm not even that partial to having children, not in this world, that is. And I loooove my freedom and independence.

 

[Plutarch]

Do people still not understand that prenups can be nullified in court? I wouldn't depend on them.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Women love stability.

But they have to be helping with the foundation .

Seen too many times. A chick making claims but not helping

 

[grYmes]

I got married at 19 after just 6 months of dating. Almost 11 years later & we been through it all. I personally don't recommend marrying at a young age unless you're emotionally mature enough to understand what lies ahead. Monogamy is a muthafucka. I didn't truly start to be the man I needed to be until my late 20s. I see these kids now quick to get hitched cuz we in the military & it means more money & I just shake my head.

Communication & respect is key.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Its one thing I have learned....

Most time Men will keep it 100. Sounds like a bunch of think about the thought when you think it type shit....but we real about marraige.

When my wife told people she was getting married....they sold her the fantasy an didn't keep it real about the struggles.

14 years later.8 married...we see who was full of shit.

We one of a few still married. We struggled like hell an we still have our days....

An her girls ...damn shame how they look at things. But. I can understand ...they husband don't do shit for them.

Flowers on bday an valentines. Nothing to make them feel special or pretty just because.

You really have to put your best foot forward

 

[The Lonious Monk]

If you actually want to be married and you find the right one for you, it's great. It's not perfect, but it's better than the alternative.

 

[Lefty_]

If you actually want to be married and you find the right one for you, it's great. It's not perfect, but it's better than the alternative.

For the insurance benefits alone.

 

[illestni99ainne]

Like I love my wife. I LOVE MY WiFE. I love my kids wouldn't trade them for the world but...

Shit is WOAT right now. I feel like a Mr Meseeks that hasn't completed my task yet and has been here too long. I feel the worst. Next week I'll probably feel different

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Learn to laugh with and at each other .

Take tome to reconnect. Vacations or change of scenery with no distractions...just you two can do wonders

 

[Lurkristocrat]

just depends on what you want in life.....at the moment

unfortunately that shit can switch with people

the same thing you marry somebody for could be the thing you cant stand and makes you leave later

shit I have times when I wanna hang out more, do what I wanna do, experience just a lil more "life"

but I look at people I know in their 50's talkin bout meetin somebody for a date and shit....that shit looks and sounds stupid

I know my shit is new and will probably wither with time like everybody elses but I really got a partner in life....thats my road dog, my nurse, my financial advisor, psychiatrist, you name it.....there's nothing like fully trusting somebody with all your shit and being comfortable with it....I can be 3 points down with 7 seconds left in the 4th and I'd give her the ball every time

TRUE ENOUGH, my dick dont be wantin to hear all that shit sometimes.....happens to the best of us.....its just about what you value more...

kids made a huge difference in my case.....I didnt care if I died ratchet and hopeless before them lol

now I got some shit I gotta stick around for, and I'd much rather have a sidekick for the ride

social media takeover, trannys, new diseases, drama, "stealthing" laws and revenge porn charges....single life lookin po ouchea right now

Nigga wasnt you bout to lose it all over @kat tho? Man shut yo ass up

 

[Lurkristocrat]

Lmao na but thats goat advice.

 

[Kat]

just depends on what you want in life.....at the moment

unfortunately that shit can switch with people

the same thing you marry somebody for could be the thing you cant stand and makes you leave later

shit I have times when I wanna hang out more, do what I wanna do, experience just a lil more "life"

but I look at people I know in their 50's talkin bout meetin somebody for a date and shit....that shit looks and sounds stupid

I know my shit is new and will probably wither with time like everybody elses but I really got a partner in life....thats my road dog, my nurse, my financial advisor, psychiatrist, you name it.....there's nothing like fully trusting somebody with all your shit and being comfortable with it....I can be 3 points down with 7 seconds left in the 4th and I'd give her the ball every time

TRUE ENOUGH, my dick dont be wantin to hear all that shit sometimes.....happens to the best of us.....its just about what you value more...

kids made a huge difference in my case.....I didnt care if I died ratchet and hopeless before them lol

now I got some shit I gotta stick around for, and I'd much rather have a sidekick for the ride

social media takeover, trannys, new diseases, drama, "stealthing" laws and revenge porn charges....single life lookin po ouchea right now

Nigga wasnt you bout to lose it all over @kat tho? Man shut yo ass up

Stop speaking on what you don't know about..and don't @ me to dumb shit.

 

[LUClEN]

Hey fuck you this isn't a dumb thread

 

[Kat]

Hey fuck you this isn't a dumb thread

I wasn't referring to the thread.

 

[damnkp]

Best decision I ever made. No regrets.

 

[Trillfate]

just depends on what you want in life.....at the moment

unfortunately that shit can switch with people

the same thing you marry somebody for could be the thing you cant stand and makes you leave later

shit I have times when I wanna hang out more, do what I wanna do, experience just a lil more "life"

but I look at people I know in their 50's talkin bout meetin somebody for a date and shit....that shit looks and sounds stupid

I know my shit is new and will probably wither with time like everybody elses but I really got a partner in life....thats my road dog, my nurse, my financial advisor, psychiatrist, you name it.....there's nothing like fully trusting somebody with all your shit and being comfortable with it....I can be 3 points down with 7 seconds left in the 4th and I'd give her the ball every time

TRUE ENOUGH, my dick dont be wantin to hear all that shit sometimes.....happens to the best of us.....its just about what you value more...

kids made a huge difference in my case.....I didnt care if I died ratchet and hopeless before them lol

now I got some shit I gotta stick around for, and I'd much rather have a sidekick for the ride

social media takeover, trannys, new diseases, drama, "stealthing" laws and revenge porn charges....single life lookin po ouchea right now

Nigga wasnt you bout to lose it all over @kat tho? Man shut yo ass up

Stop speaking on what you don't know about..and don't @ me to dumb shit.

So speak on the topic, newlywed...

 

[Kat]

I'm not a married man.

 

[Trillfate]

I'm not a married man.

Semantics! Ok.. How would he rate yalls new marriage?

 

[Kat]

Nothing in life is perfect. Marriage, parenthood, friendships..they all come with pros and cons.

That said, there is something special about navigating through life with that special person.

I think the fact that I didn't rush into marriage due to social pressure allows me to appreciate it more. Plus we're both kinda contemporary with our views on life and relationships. We do things how we want instead of trying to force ourselves into this mold of what people feel a marriage needs to be to be real.

 

[twenty2]

I think cats in here have covered it pretty good. I'll add this...

It is what you make it... How hard you AND your partner WORK is what you will get out of it.

And I can tell you this... EVERY marriage (hell, relationship period) has gone/will go through an event or period of time where the two parties involved had/will have every reason under the sun to part ways. The only difference between those who split and those who continue to rack up the years is that the latter simply chose/choose to tough it out.

Shit ain't no cakewalk... And there's nothing wrong with "wanting" to quit...just don't do it... Of course there's varying factors that get weighed into it so it's not that cut and dry, but general rule of thumb...if both parties are willing to "work", then damnit, that's what y'all do...