Married Men: What's the real deal about marriage?

[semi-auto-mato]

married 20+ years. it's a bit of both. we had good times and bad times. we have hugged and we have fought. we have laughed and we have cried. we do it all together. I don't have any advice for anyone because your relationship will not be like mine. all I can say is do what feels right and what makes u happy. if u wanna be a bachelor forever then do that. if u want a wife then go out there and date with a purpose. u will know when the right one comes along. expect good and bad. good luck.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

get married for the right reason.

understanding peaks a valleys...weaknesses and strengths.

nip shit in the bud.

understand you are a team...a unit.

one might have to sacrifice for the others gain...but neither should become bigger than the team.

be each other's cheerleader....

make them the center of your world.

parents and kids come second. unless it's sickness.. even then it has limits.

don't show your fights in public.

don't talk to people about shit...talk to each other.

but see the world first...don't pick the best Apple out of a small bunch or the least rotten out of the rotten bunch.

last but not least and most important...

love yourself first. you can't live no one if you don't love yourself.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

most signs are there... we tend to put on blinderd cuz of greed.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

understand loyalties early.

um not talking cheating...

I'm talking if money, friends, credit or image takes precedence.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

don't be afraid to look bad for your mate.... as long as they aren't making you look bad.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

understand the difference between being spoiled and bring spoiled.

you could create a monster. but know your part in it.

 

[Lefty_]

I'll take what I gain over what I lose. The older you get, the more valuable that bond you created becomes. All I can think of that I lose is the ability to fuck any bitch, at any time. While I haven't totally stopped lookin at the fat ass in the jeans in front of me at Kroger as I post this, it's lost its luster a bit as I've matured.

Depth > Breadth

 

[warren98]

Prenups is a essential feature.

Marriage can be either great or not.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

take responsibility

 

[2stepz_ahead]

this just off the top....

let me think a bit more.

 

[TheNightKing]

grAss is always greener on the other side

 

[Trillfate]

Dissolving marriage, divorce lawyers, court appearances, alimony, child support etc is woat

 

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[bigbird_1]

Marriage takes a lot of work to maintain sometimes. Situations can go from sugar to shit if not handled properly. Whether it's finances, communication, or sex, you f up in any of those areas and not remedy the issues speedily you're gonna have problems. You also have moments of bliss where you and your wife can't get enough of each other. Bottom line is it takes effort on both parts to make it work and a man has to be patient at times.

 

[semi-auto-mato]

That "i got married too young" shit is resentment.

That man resents his spouse.

Dont think too much into it, he just made the wrong choice, dont mean you will.

Resentment... He shoulda left, now he gotta force himself to be around someone he would otherwise not be... That is the sign of people not being who they say they are... Which stems from dishonesty...likely done during the courting phase.

real shit

 

[HafBayked]

just depends on what you want in life.....at the moment

unfortunately that shit can switch with people

the same thing you marry somebody for could be the thing you cant stand and makes you leave later

shit I have times when I wanna hang out more, do what I wanna do, experience just a lil more "life"

but I look at people I know in their 50's talkin bout meetin somebody for a date and shit....that shit looks and sounds stupid

I know my shit is new and will probably wither with time like everybody elses but I really got a partner in life....thats my road dog, my nurse, my financial advisor, psychiatrist, you name it.....there's nothing like fully trusting somebody with all your shit and being comfortable with it....I can be 3 points down with 7 seconds left in the 4th and I'd give her the ball every time

TRUE ENOUGH, my dick dont be wantin to hear all that shit sometimes.....happens to the best of us.....its just about what you value more...

kids made a huge difference in my case.....I didnt care if I died ratchet and hopeless before them lol

now I got some shit I gotta stick around for, and I'd much rather have a sidekick for the ride

social media takeover, trannys, new diseases, drama, "stealthing" laws and revenge porn charges....single life lookin po ouchea right now

 

[MarcusGarvey]

Find the right person, even then it's work, but nothing better than a back rub when you sitting on the toilet w/ diarrhea. She's the one

 

[2stepz_ahead]

grAss is always greener on the other side

but it takes more maintenance.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Prenups is a essential feature.

Marriage can be either great or not.

I disagree....unless you already got money.

otherwise...maybe waiting

 

[Koltrain]

The grass is always greener. Somedays I wish I could be carefree and smash random broads with no attachment. But then I see some of the bs my single friends go through, and I'm like nah i made the right choice. These hoes out here ain't shyt and a quality woman is priceless. My wife and I are starting businesses and expecting our third child in October...I'm blessed and the happiest I've been in life. But, i will say this... If this doesn't work out for some reason, I don't think I'll do it again because I've already invested everything I can into another person.