Marriage, an archaic system....

[MazterChef]

I believe in 80% of what you wrote, but to be quite honest throwing away traditions because it doesn't suit the period we're in is stupid. The only people that seems to throw away traditions easily are poorer folks. Throwing away one tradition to suit some wishful thinking new age theory makes no sense. People keep traditions alive to benefit family prestige and power. So...nah

 

[s_a_m_r_i_o]

Just because marriage doesn't work for more than half this country doesn't mean it won't work for you but I see how people lose faith in it.

 

[gonemad44]

IMO men need to get back to being men and women need to get back to being women. It is way too much role-crossing. All the independent woman crap to a wrong turn and got lost in translation. And the men followed suit. I could go on for quite so time on this but I think there is hope.

 

[haute]

*shrugs*

Everyone in my family with exception of my parents have successful marriages

Although my grandma went through 4 husbands, they all died though so I guess that still counts

Marriage is what you make of it

If you don't want to get married

Then don't

No biggie

 

[truth spitter]

I believe in 80% of what you wrote, but to be quite honest throwing away traditions because it doesn't suit the period we're in is stupid. The only people that seems to throw away traditions easily are poorer folks. Throwing away one tradition to suit some wishful thinking new age theory makes no sense. People keep traditions alive to benefit family prestige and power. So...nah

Marriage wasn't even for poor people to begin with. So maybe we should throw it away?

 

[Real Lady]

You got people out here who think because people are not legally tied they are "everybody piece"...

The real marriage is a spiritual bond between two people and god.. the legal marriage is for others to realize that these two people are together..

In this world if people don't see it they don't believe it, so some people get a piece a paper.

 

[Shuffington]

OK... marriage is archaic ... yadda yadda... what would be your replacement? ... or atleast a viable alternative ?

blue sky thinking here.

 

[king hassan]

people are too self centered nowadays. these are the me first and its all about me times. plus ppl are on a mission to destroy gender roles. the media and the family court system has allbut destroyed men's role in family. watch a movie, TV show, or commercial and all they depict are feminized men or some dude who dumb as hell and the wife is the leader of the family.

IMO men need to get back to being men and women need to get back to being women. It is way too much role-crossing. All the independent woman crap to a wrong turn and got lost in translation. And the men followed suit. I could go on for quite so time on this but I think there is hope.

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[kevmic]

Marriage is like parenting, unless you're doing it yourself, you'll never fully understand.

Marriage only works for those who want it to work. The moment you stop caring the marriage isn't going to work.

Will and Jada are no exception to the rule. So many things can get in between a relationship, only if you let it. I don't think anyone knows the full details of their seperation, but I wouldn't be surprised if their lives were going in two seperate directions.

 

[Jay Pee]

You people need to be more open minded....firs prove love and god is real.....ok..then marriage is nothing but a social construct.....a worthless tradition....its not some natural order or law that "god" or evolution put us through....its a choice....that is all....its definately not natural......if people want to get married thats fine, but I think it is more about how they were raised and what was put in to peoples heads as they grew up. Remember marriage is not a natural law in this universe or planet earth its a construct made up by human beings.

 

[caddo man]

*shrugs*

Everyone in my family with exception of my parents have successful marriages

Although my grandma went through 4 husbands, they all died though so I guess that still counts

Marriage is what you make of it

If you don't want to get married

Then don't

No biggie

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is either sadly ironic or your grandma dont play that BS. Either they get in line or else!

REal irony my pops has been married three times and he still thinks it was their fault.

I plan on being married once! And I love being married. Since i am slow to catching onto hints and I have no real game (I have gotten plenty pussy mostly on looks alone), Marriage is perfect for me. *shrugs* Wife looks good. She is a excellent mother. She loves me.

 

[caddo man]

You got people out here who think because people are not legally tied they are "everybody piece"...

The real marriage is a spiritual bond between two people and god.. the legal marriage is for others to realize that these two people are together..

In this world if people don't see it they don't believe it, so some people get a piece a paper.

If only for insurance and inheritance purposes................GET THAT PAPER!!!!!

 

[MissLeading]

I think a lot of people today look at marriage as more of thing to do. Like it's part of being an adult. Work, marriage, kids.. That's the adult life.

When you ask someone why do they want to get married, you hear the same response, because I love him/her and I want to spend the rest of my life with this person but you don't need to get married to do that so why do people really want to get married? Because it's been ingrained in us that marriage is the final step to a complete life? All these women out here that are so pressed to wear that ring, not because of the man who gave it to them but because of what it represents. The most valuable time in marriage seems to be the wedding day. And some women seem to be the happiest on their wedding day because of the accomplishment not because of who they're marrying.

I don't think marriage is wrong but I do sometimes think it's pointless aside from the state and federal benefits

 

[Real Lady]

If only for insurance and inheritance purposes................GET THAT PAPER!!!!!

You got people out here who prior in others relationships when they don't have the paper. You can tell them to stay out of it, but it's like they don't respect the wishes until they know it's a legal document involved. It don't really mean u love the person.. However sometimes it's the only way for two people to SHOW others that they love each other.

The real marriage is the bond, the legal document is for the people who don't believe shit until they SEE IT.

sometimes it's to let the x know or a stalker know you are not available.. Some people don't believe it's over, and some people don't believe you are not theirs. It take a LEGAL DOCUMENT to show them.. (either a marriage license or a warrant.) The two people already know how they feel from jump.

 

[Real Lady]

Some people will prior into the relationship if the two people got the paper, but then thats when it's tested if it's a real bond, or a just a piece of paper.

 

[MissLeading]

You got people out here who prior in others relationships when they don't have the paper. You can tell them to stay out of it, but it's like they don't respect the wishes until they know it's a legal document involved. It don't really mean u love the person.. However sometimes it's the only way for two people to SHOW others that they love each other.

The real marriage is the bond, the legal document is for the people who don't believe shit until they SEE IT.

sometimes it's to let the x know or a stalker know you are not available.. Some people don't believe it's over, and some people don't believe you are not theirs. It take a LEGAL DOCUMENT to show them.. (either a marriage license or a warrant.) The two people already know how they feel from jump.

Not really..... Marriage won't stop a determined person.. As soon as they see that chink in the foundation, they're going to try and bust it wide open.

 

[haute]

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is either sadly ironic or your grandma dont play that BS. Either they get in line or else!

.

well the coroner and insurance company agreed it was all due to natural causes

and that's enough for me and my family

 

[Miles HIGH]

IMO, marriage ain't workin anymore because people aren't committed to the idea of marriage anymore...People jump into these motions with someone who they're really just infatuated with, or feel like they're somehow obligated to choose, and then when they realize that they made a mistake in the first place they just go for the easy way out...And it's gotten to the point where "taking the easy way out" is hardly looked down upon anymore...If at first you don't succeed, dust it off and try again...I believe people make mistakes, and should be able to make the decisions necessary to correct them, but we also need to be much more careful in making the initial decision of choosing a partner, and stop getting true love and compatibility mixed up with convenience and attraction...I swear if and when I ever get married, it's gonna be for life...And also, if I'm not mistaken Will&Jada had one of those "open" marriages, so if the rumors are true I'm honestly not too surprised.

 

[ibedamned]

IMO, marriage ain't workin anymore because people aren't committed to the idea of marriage anymore...People jump into these motions with someone who they're really just infatuated with, or feel like they're somehow obligated to choose, and then when they realize that they made a mistake in the first place they just go for the easy way out...And it's gotten to the point where "taking the easy way out" is hardly looked down upon anymore...If at first you don't succeed, dust it off and try again...I believe people make mistakes, and should be able to make the decisions necessary to correct them, but we also need to be much more careful in making the initial decision of choosing a partner, and stop getting true love and compatibility mixed up with convenience and attraction...I swear if and when I ever get married, it's gonna be for life...And also, if I'm not mistaken Will&Jada had one of those "open" marriages, so if the rumors are true I'm honestly not too surprised.

trill shit my nig.

 

[PURP_L_A_BOL]

The harsh reality that young people (18-30) fail to realize (or accept) is that the sole purpose for marriage up until 40 years ago, was that the woman stay home and tend to the children while the man goes out to work to provide for his family. Through that It was a necessary union. (then for religious beliefs) Families were forced to stay together for this dynamic alone. (and not to bring shame upon the family name) ,--whatever that means?

What you have now is an intstitution for tax purposes only. A court system that hangs over a mans head to force you to stay with the woman (or you will feel the wrath!!!) ---Lol
and media constantly reminding the woman that if in anyway she FEELS direspected..She can find "so much better" and theres NO reason to stay if she FEELS such a way. Thus its only a matter of time. People cant grow "together" imo.. Growth occurs individually and at differnet times for each party in the marriage.

Add to that mid life crises and menopause...

which is why Ill marry @ 48! you dont need to be wed to have offspring. and as men, you're going to end up paying for your kids one way or another.

But to those that are married Keep on truckin! and Good Luck.