My point was, if you ask someone about their sexual history, do you think a person is going to be 100% honest about what they did, or their body count? We all know the social stigmas attached to sex, and what it would mean, in this case, for a female to have a high body count. We also know what it means if a guy were to ever admit to having homosexual contact.
So, even if I were to ask, is it wrong for me to expect that this person more than likely will lie to me? Should I even put myself in such a position? Or should I let the past be the past, worry about what is going on now, getting tested to be safe, and continuing on?
As you said, if I can't pick up on certain things he does as a man that may send off the gaydar, then I'm fucking up as a woman.