ladies with kids... what should i expect???

[Dupac]

damn nigga i thiught we agreed you wasn't gonna make thee same silly mistake of having a kid before marriage wtf??? Why do people keep doing this shit? Enjoy each other first before you bring kids into the equation. Well hopefully you can make it work but you starting off on the wrong foot, sorry to break the news to you. Good luck thou, I;ve gone thru the pregnant shit once (wasn't mine) and lived it through my cuz for another...good luck nigga I hope you got thick skin lol

we'llbe married befor the kid gets here...

@ june...u know me too well...

 

[MsSouthern]

be smart and stock up on diapers , wipes, bath soap, lotion, etc now

you won't believe how fast you run thru stuff. Don't buy alot of newborn diapers... they grow out of those FAST. Size 1 and Size 2 for sure.

Also every once and a while surprise your girl with stuff that has nothing to do with the baby. Like a date night or cook her fav meal. Her mind and body are going thru so much now ... it feels good to "take a break from reality"

 

[Dupac]

be smart and stock up on diapers , wipes, bath soap, lotion, etc now

you won't believe how fast you run thru stuff. Don't buy alot of newborn diapers... they grow out of those FAST. Size 1 and Size 2 for sure.

Also every once and a while surprise your girl with stuff that has nothing to do with the baby. Like a date night or cook her fav meal. Her mind and body are going thru so much now ... it feels good to "take a break from reality"

that's whassup.....imma keep that in mind, we go on dates ALOT, and she did look kinda sad when she said we're not going to get to go out as much now..

 

[DEE-LICIOUS]

Awww congrats Du! U betta grow up quick fast! Babies are no damn joke

I learned wayyyy too much about babies last yr, taking care of my bookie boo boo nephew wit his adorable self. Those cravings, the hormones...oh lawd the crying. Before and AFTER she has the baby. Man...after the baby comes is when the real stress begins. Having to feed that lil person every 3 hours or whatever it is....that ish was stressful. And I only did it for like 3 weeks! The payout is priceless though....

And omg @ those pretty lil girls!!! Adorable! LMAO @ their wild ass hair...I can't do hair so I woulda put 3 ponytails in their head and kept it movin lol

 

[MICHAEL-V.I.]

Awww congrats Du! U betta grow up quick fast! Babies are no damn joke

I learned wayyyy too much about babies last yr, taking care of my bookie boo boo nephew wit his adorable self. Those cravings, the hormones...oh lawd the crying. Before and AFTER she has the baby. Man...after the baby

comes is when the real stress begins. Having to feed that lil person every 3 hours or whatever it is....that ish was stressful. And I only did it for like 3 weeks! The payout is priceless though....

And omg @ those pretty lil girls!!! Adorable! LMAO @ their wild ass hair...I can't do hair so I woulda put 3 ponytails in their head and kept it movin lol

Sound's like so,e one's biological clock is ticking and ready to be a mamma

You preggo DEE?

 

[Dupac]

saturday morning...i had togo to church for a meeting.....figured on the way back home i'd pick up shit for omelets at the market...she LOVES omelets

fresh spinach leaves, fresh mushrooms, green peppers, onions, tomatoes, garlic, 2 different cheese blends...got some cinnamon buns... she LOVES cinnamon buns...and some calcium and vitamin A fortified orange juice.....

she took two bites ran upstairs and puked....

' ____'

i'm like..... really?

she ate toast for breakfast...toast and a glass of water......

 

[MsSouthern]

morning sickness sucks

even smells will make you puke

I ate frozen green grapes and that helped

 

[stilldat_dude]

Dui did you consult females wit kids already lol, you should have expect 90% of the shit you have talked about. People think oh if I have love for my child and we good people shit will just work out, lol like uptown said you gotta really prepare for pregnancy, marriage, etc. Shit gonna get alot worse before it get better, just wait until you get to the stage when yall ain't fucking no more and the baby first get here...NIGGA LMAO. I don't even have a kid (thank god) but I know what to expect having gone through the situation a couple of times. Women don't even understand how much they will/are changing until they experience it.

 

[Dupac]

i have gotten a nice deal of expectatons from various conversations with different women in my life....and reading shit online, as well as in books, so i don't really feel unprepared...

but expectations, and knowing about shit is much diffreent than dealing with it, so i like to share my experinces as much as possible, and recieve as much feed back as possible....

i actually haven't heard anything new in this thread at all except for the wiping shit with the initials for changing girls diapers....

i've talked about it before, but never saw it refered to like that....

but i fully want people to share their experinces...hence the reason for this thread.. i just wanted to encourage as much conversation as possible....

 

[American.Loo]

imma tell you like this Du.

itll never be the same.

 

[Dupac]

imma tell you like this Du.

itll never be the same.

word, i actually saw signs this weekend of it getting better, she's much more dependent on me than she's ever been.....and while i wasn't thrilled with it at the beginning, i've noticed that the trust is really really getting stronger between us...she;s allowing herself to submit herself to me in a manner that i think she had too much pride and independence to do in the past...

i just pray a resentment doesn't develope..so i'm doing my best to handle her very very very carefully with all this new control and responsibility i seem to have over her....

 

[American.Loo]

my issue in the beginning was that i rebelled AGAINST how the dynamic of our relationship had changed now that the baby was here. my girl and i were best friends, now that she's pregnant, she's gonna be a mother first. you will be second.

that, coupled with my infedilty (which im sure you'll handle better) created a very tough situation.

lastly, there will be days that the baby will frustrate you, which will cause you to frustrate her, which is gonna lead to tension.

ok so now what....

my son will be 2 in february; and i'm finally in a space i need to be. so check this out:

--accept that things are different. make sure she has what she needs, and try to make her situation and stress free as possible. the sex life is gonna be dry for a minute. dont let it die though.

--youre gonna have to find another outlet when she's too tired to joke, be intimate or whatever. buy a ps3, read, build a train set. she'll need her time.

--those days where baby is causing a rift. BREATHE. let things de-escalate. TRUST ME, a day will come when you guys are arguing and yelling and in the background a baby is screaming...those are the days where you gotta breathe and take a walk.

good luck, if you can make it to 24 months, the most stressful part will be over.

 

[Dupac]

my issue in the beginning was that i rebelled AGAINST how the dynamic of our relationship had changed now that the baby was here. my girl and i were best friends, now that she's pregnant, she's gonna be a mother first. you will be second.

that, coupled with my infedilty (which im sure you'll handle better) created a very tough situation.

lastly, there will be days that the baby will frustrate you, which will cause you to frustrate her, which is gonna lead to tension.

ok so now what....

my son will be 2 in february; and i'm finally in a space i need to be. so check this out:

--accept that things are different. make sure she has what she needs, and try to make her situation and stress free as possible. the sex life is gonna be dry for a minute. dont let it die though.

--youre gonna have to find another outlet when she's too tired to joke, be intimate or whatever. buy a ps3, read, build a train set. she'll need her time.

--those days where baby is causing a rift. BREATHE. let things de-escalate. TRUST ME, a day will come when you guys are arguing and yelling and in the background a baby is screaming...those are the days where you gotta breathe and take a walk.

good luck, if you can make it to 24 months, the most stressful part will be over.

lol, just got the ps3 a few weeks ago....and that's all good advice forreal....

i've had to assume a complete support role as of right now... i just pretty much support almost anything she says or wants to do unless i deem it harmful, and instead of going back n forth on those things, i pretty much just tell her what it is...

example she was sick all weekend long, and found herself leaving work early and going to her mothers...when i called she was still in the bed and wasn't eating, so i got her mother on the phone and told her mother exactly what to feed her and how to do it, and then let her go back to sleep...when she got home i made her eat dinner before going to bed.....and periodicaly woke her up to make her drink some water to stay hydrated....cuz she was getting sick alot....

and i kept stressing her to call the doctor in the morning....when she went on her lunch she called me to let me know she spoke to the doctor and what their conversation was about.....

she knows i have her absolute best interst n mind, but she's still a little worried about other things.. but when it comes to me....she's just mad dependent

 

[MICHAEL-V.I.]

lol, just got the ps3 a few weeks ago....and that's all good advice forreal....

i've had to assume a complete support role as of right now... i just pretty much support almost anything she says or wants to do unless i deem it harmful, and instead of going back n forth on those things, i pretty much just tell her what it is...

example she was sick all weekend long, and found herself leaving work early and going to her mothers...when i called she was still in the bed and wasn't eating, so i got her mother on the phone and told her mother exactly what to feed her and how to do it, and then let her go back to sleep...when she got home i made her eat dinner before going to bed.....and periodicaly woke her up to make her drink some water to stay hydrated....cuz she was getting sick alot....

and i kept stressing her to call the doctor in the morning....when she went on her lunch she called me to let me know she spoke to the doctor and what their conversation was about.....

she knows i have her absolute best interst n mind, but she's still a little worried about other things.. but when it comes to me....she's just mad dependent

Pardon Me B

I aint read in day's

You don't want no PS3 or 360

^^^ Matter of fact

I'm talkin to ALL YALL

Don't get embarassed on LIVE or PSN

Step up

Bean's and Bleek WHO THE FUCK WANT WHAT ? , HUH? WHO WANT WHAT?

 

[MICHAEL-V.I.]

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]negative .[/COLOR]

what's the result's?

Not positive

 

[kevmic]

well... IC....and i know this is gonna get outta hand pretty soon, but just to throw it out there.. the old lady is pregnant....

and already the elevated hormone levels are taking their toll....

for the past 2 years... m lady has been my absolute best friend, and even now she still is, ....we're planing a wedding in june,...trying to hustle an old man to let us rent us a house for $600, and possible trading in my car this year all on top of planing for a kid,...

and with everything that's going on..i need those moments where i can lay back wth a few drinks, crack a few jokes about life and shit.... and just laugh shit off...but with her pregnancy hormones....it's like i almost lost my best friend.....shit that i KNOW she woulda found funny, she just stares at me and looks liek a complete different person....this shit is finally starting to hit me... 've seen other pregnant women and their hormones before..and that shit was normally funny to me.. but now it's not so funny...it's real.....

i have no one to laugh with...cuz she takes everything to heart now....it's like she's super duper sensitive..and that cut buddy who laughed at everything with me is lying dormant...

is this how the whole pregnancy is going to be? will my old friend ever resurface?

Best advice for dealing with a woman you live with who is pregnant. STAY THE FUCK OUT OF HER WAY FOR 9 MONTHS!! Nothing you do will be right, nothing you say will be funny, and you gotta let every fucked up thing she may say slide because it's her demon hormones talking. But congrats though!!

 

[Dupac]

Best advice for dealing with a woman you live with who is pregnant. STAY THE FUCK OUT OF HER WAY FOR 9 MONTHS!! Nothing you do will be right, nothing you say will be funny, and you gotta let every fucked up thing she may say slide because it's her demon hormones talking. But congrats though!!

nw i cna't be creating no sense of abandoment here.. lol..i'm just learning more and more my place as time rolls by..

 

[kevmic]

nw i cna't be creating no sense of abandoment here.. lol..i'm just learning more and more my place as time rolls by..

No abandoment homie, just steer clear of any potential arguments during this time. If it looks like a situation that's gonna turn sour, then abort by simply leaving it alone, and letting her have it. Reading and video games helps alot. Also just letting her be, when you are constantly in her face asking if there is something you can do for her of if she's okay(not saying you are), can annoy her more then seem like you're helping.

 

[BeardedFreak]

Problem:

Your woman's preggo and has suddenly become hyper sensistive and almost a different person. You on the otherhand, are excicted about baby and want to take a more active role in the process.

Real Nigga Solution:

Don't become a YES man.

This is a hard concept for some new fathers to understand. They believe that if they just ease up and relax on EVERYTHING during this time, it will make shit go smoothly. IT WON'T and at the end of the day, you will have two problems; an always crying newborn AND a woman who thinks you're WEAK.

Stay consistent with the same pattern of behavior you have already set. Challenging times is when you really find out who people are. If you weaken up now, then you just showing your true coward colors. It sounds crazy...BUT ITS TRUE...this is a critical time that can easily turn your relationship into a sorry ass TV sitcom with yes men, weak, ass fathers

I'm not saying to start shit...just be consistent with whoever you been all along...this ain't the time to turn into Mr. Whatever You Say.

Congrats

 

[Iheart~Cali]

Conratulations. Ummm Idk..Just stay tipsy for 9 months. I know I'm always more easygoing when I knock a couple back.