those two traits aren't exclusive to someone who is a virgin...another assumption you're making about a person there isn't a big deal about having sex before marriage...i had lost my virginity when I was 16...i don't see a big deal about people who fuck or people who choose not to fuck until they're married...being a virgin past a certain age has nothing to do with ohlding on to fanatical beliefs about sex...you're just assuming someone who doesn't have sex just MUST have some fairy tale land idea of what it's supposed to be like and that's just false...there's plenty of people, especially women, who fuck like rabbits and still believe in that knight in shining armor bullshit......of course you can have discipline and self control and still have sex...common sense should tell you there's more than one way to exhibit certain traits...abstaining from sex is just one of them...but to say that seeing those traits being shown in someone that you could have a potential romantic interest in and saying those same traits are unattractive or a turn off is just ass backwards because you're saying that you want the opposite of that...