Lol most of the time turn on and the orgasms and shit happen mentally. Men get turned on and worked up like that visually, women by what they hear and think in their heads. You gotta get inside your woman's head and she can do it on her own too. Most women can't get turned on, orgasm or get into anything unless she's mentally relaxed and conditioned by prepartion. Most orgasms by penile penetration don't even happen because of the man's sexual prowess but by simply symmetry, and they happen more frequently by clitorial stimulation anyway, not commonly by penetration within the certain age range.