if you play stepfather to another mans kid(s).......

[1of1]

No, more so about the attention you gotten for your hiding your kids statement , you have been the focal point for each page. I wish somebody else wit a kid(s) to share an opinion.

Paraphrase what was said... cuz I don't want to read this or any other thread.

 

[fuc_i_look_like]

She goin say all chicks out here getting nutted in. No, YOU were out here getting nutted in.

All women dont live they lives making dumb ass decisions, Just the dumb asses

One word: projection

lmao my thoughts exactly

 

[jay83]

Its easier for a dude with kids to get dates with single women, than the other way around.

-If a guy has a son, he handles that. All the girl gotta dude is sit back and let the dude handle it.

-But if its a female with a son, its a little tougher. A guy is supposed to be the leader, so it would be tough to have a son talking shit to his mom and you as the guy just sit back and let it happen because he aint your kid.
-Plus, most guys want to raise kids with their own philosophy or morals they were raised with. I think its best if single moms hook up with single dads. That way they both can understand each other a little better and are on the same level.

Plus I think guys have more options when dating so if you are dating a woman and you find out she has kids, you just keep it moving. unless she looks like Stacy Dash, and a excellent cook, and is smart and just has all these crazy intangibles that you just couldnt pass up. lol.

Although im sure men in China would date Single moms. Theres a short supply of females over there. lol

 

[Stephen-r]

fuck that cause that kid will never respect you.. and you will never respect them

i have treid it twice

the first time i love kids loads and they did me but the first time me and the mum had a argument they hated me and said you aint our dad.. blah blah

the second time

she was 19 year old daughter and i was only 30 and she had the hots for me! she treid it on with me she was hot but dayum

who would'nt in the end?

 

[jay83]

fuck that cause that kid will never respect you.. and you will never respect them

i have treid it twice

the first time i love kids loads and they did me but the first time me and the mum had a argument they hated me and said you aint our dad.. blah blah

the second time

she was 19 year old daughter and i was only 30 and she had the hots for me! she treid it on with me she was hot but dayum

who would'nt in the end?

so you hooked up with her? or you didnt? dont be vague negro. lol.

 

[Stephen-r]

so you hooked up with her? or you didnt? dont be vague negro. lol.

yes i did and it cause massive issues

 

[jay83]

yes i did and it cause massive issues

im sure it did.

Her mom can never get her to do anything now.

Her daughter has that claim to fame for the rest of her life. lol

 

[Stephen-r]

I should not of done it

she looked like charlie lane

and i could not help my self

 

[blackrain]

ms jones be on point with 99% of the stuff she say

but iono ... if i asked a chick if she had kids and she replied "does it matter"

that'd definitely throw me off.

and if i never asked, and you never brought them up, i'd probably assume you didnt have any (i dont know a parent on earth who NEVER mentions their kids)

so if i really fell deep for a chick, then all of a sudden, she drops the fact that she has kids outta nowhere, that'd fuck me up too

If after dating for a year, even just casually, to just something like that on a person yeah that'd throw most people off...I can understand not having the person you're dating meet your kids for a certain amount of time...that's something I 100% support, but to just not tell the person you're seeing for up to a year that your kids even exist, and then to tell them out the blue...that's a bit more about protecting yourself than your kids...

 

[yroholla]

Much respect to those who do it....and I'm sure many of y'all are either playing step pops or was raised by one....but assuming the real father isnt locked up for life or dead, id prolly feel a way playing step dad....understandable u can't make anybody take care of their responsibilities if they don't wanna do it, but I couldn't help but feel I'm doin that lazy ass niggas job for him....an extremely tough job at that...shit I couldn't even see myself taking the next mans trash out for him much less take care of his kid...and of course pride comes into play as well....which is crazy cause if i was a single father id want a woman to play "step mom" as well

I won't say ill never do it tho cause u never kno what the future holds but that's where I stand as off right now...

 

[Sh0t]

Fear of being judged is my guess. Letting a man judge you on the kid issue can be a big blow to some. Just look at all those sites/forums dedicated to the problems single moms have in the dating world.

Or maybe we are just haters

 

[edwardnigma]

I don't see myself doing something like this, but If I did, the child would be mine wholeheartedly, I would give the child my name,my guidance and my all. When it comes to kds, I feel like go all the way or don't start at all.

 

[IamtheVILLE]

damn no f.o.f for me. this shit is great.