if you play stepfather to another mans kid(s).......

[American.Loo]

you sound mad young.

ideally, i wouldnt want to raise another mans child either

but i'm old enough to understand that the world isnt black or white

and being a step father neither makes you a simp or a real man.

 

[Mr.Bocario]

In the true definition of a simp yea, but it more about you loving a woman and wanting to take that responsibility. But raising a kid in your house thats not your will be difficult especially if that child's father decides to pop back into their life.

 

[American.Loo]

well im glad my girl is not a single mom.....no microwave family for me, not knocking it , I tried it , was wack.

tell us your story

 

[kay-g314]

My girl has 1 child. At 1st the shit was extremely akward for me and I had some of those same thoughts. I found that it's definitely something that you have to gradually invest yourself into only if you really love the girl and want to be with her.
I feel my girl went about the situation in the correct manner though: I knew of but didnt even meet her child until we were well into dating (maybe 7-8 months) and on the brink of becoming serious. So it aint like I had to take in the whole situation from the jump. I was allowed to learn and get to know her 1st, decide if I wanted to go all the way in, then consider the kid. Everything is good though. Luckily he aint no bad ass kid and his father is in his life so he's there a good portion of the time. Me & that nigga (the father) dont get along though...dude is straight bitch but I stay out of their business for the most part.

You have to consider the whole equation though. Is she worth it? For instance, outside of me loving the girl, she has a career ahead of her and there is little to no drama. So in my case I feel other factors outweigh the fact that she has a kid.

 

[G Mack]

sometimes i forget this site aint reality

 

[ms.jones]

In my age bracket, there are very few men without a child or children...so, if I can love his children as my own, I expect the same.

In regards to meeting a man with no children, I don't put my children into the relationship unless I know something real is going to come from what we are doing. The relationships that involved men with no children, they fell harder for my kids. They still call to check on them, and take care of them when needed. I don't think any less of them, and I'm pretty sure they don't feel like complete asses for loving children that didn't come from their loins.

 

[And Step]

It makes you a man to the highest degree. It takes a man with a heart of gold to raise and treat a child not from him, like it is from his loins. Sure it is not ideal, but a real man doesn't give a fuck about what anybody thinks. He just does what is right. There is nothing simp about being a responsible stand up dude.

Weak niggas seek validation from other weak niggas.

 

[6ft5]

I think if you truly love someone them having a child isn't a problem

 

[kay-g314]

It makes you a man to the highest degree. It takes a man with a heart of gold to raise and treat a child not from him, like it is from his loins. Sure it is not ideal, but a real man doesn't give a fuck about what anybody thinks. He just does what is right. There is nothing simp about being a responsible stand up dude.

Weak niggas seek validation from other weak niggas.

^^^^^^^^
sums it all up

 

[dalyricalbandit]

you sound mad young.

ideally, i wouldnt want to raise another mans child either

but i'm old enough to understand that the world isnt black or white

and being a step father neither makes you a simp or a real man.

..............

 

[CapitalB]

It makes you a man to the highest degree. It takes a man with a heart of gold to raise and treat a child not from him, like it is from his loins. Sure it is not ideal, but a real man doesn't give a fuck about what anybody thinks. He just does what is right. There is nothing simp about being a responsible stand up dude.

Weak niggas seek validation from other weak niggas.

real shit!

i can see people bein deterred from dealin with a female with kids due to "baby daddy drama" or a bitch not lettin u be the man in the situation.. but to not want to to seem like a simp to other people will make u look like a lame to most..

i grew up with a stepfather and i have the UPMOST respect for that MAN!

i swear i dont get yall niggas logic..
if that bitch is takin care of that kid by herself thats not "another man's child" thats HER child..
and if u fuck with her it becomes YALL child..

 

[CapitalB]

Lol jus was young and in love . But looking back she was lil on the nutcase side tho. But I couldnt get passed the kid wasnt mine feeling. I was 19 she was 20 . Lasted for a year but I couldnt get used to goin out wit her one year old daughter, from ppl smiling , to jus feeling out of place. I NEVER went INSIDE her crib only outside the door. She was afraid how her mother would react( first dude after her baby father). She was really self concious of how ppl viewed her. Also from not beimg able to be spontaneous and basically being 2nd to her child . We generally had alot of love for eachother, n she showed in various ways that I hold dear to me but eventually we jus grew apart. Split ....then reconnected couple times to fuck , then she was holding the pussy out sayin im hurting her emotionally and she wanted to be wit me BUT by then I smartened up realized I would only gotten back wit her if she didnt have her kid .

Im big on having that special moment of pregnancy and us both experiencing this life changing event together for the first time and I jus dont wanna have that moment wit a girl who already has experienced that.

Ive posted pics of her , she is an F.I.T GRAD and aspiring model

u watch too many disney movies bruh..

 

[6ft5]

It makes you a man to the highest degree. It takes a man with a heart of gold to raise and treat a child not from him, like it is from his loins. Sure it is not ideal, but a real man doesn't give a fuck about what anybody thinks. He just does what is right. There is nothing simp about being a responsible stand up dude.

Weak niggas seek validation from other weak niggas.

Powerful post!

 

[G Mack]

shawty look like a serpent cuhz

 

[CapitalB]

damn my nigga.. u into pubescent bitches??
she not only look young.. but under developed..

 

[ms.jones]

Im big on having that special moment of pregnancy and us both experiencing this life changing event together for the first time and I jus dont wanna have that moment wit a girl who already has experienced that.

Soo, that means you are going to marry a virgin that has never been out on a date before, right?

 

[CapitalB]

Lol no, I jus value that moment , not tryin to have kid til about 28 29 30...

i shootin for 35. lol

but yeh.. the way u wrote that was like u had a twinkle in ur eye and had a heavy sigh at the end..

life aint perfect.. u jus gotta make shit work..
that ideal shit is fantasy..

 

[CapitalB]

Soo, that means you are going to marry a virgin that has never been out on a date before, right?

see! thats why i fux with u.. we on the same page..

 

[ms.jones]

see! thats why i fux with u.. we on the same page..

Dig that.

 

[ms.jones]

Wat does that have to do wit dealing wit a girl having kid?

Life is full of special moments and first times...when you meet your lady, you aren't the first dick up in her. You aren't the first dick she sucked. You aren't the first guy she said "I Love You" to....did any of that matter to you? If you made her your lady, or wife, I'm sure it didn't. You took those moments, and made them special for you.