How do you truly feel about monogamy? Is it your true preference?

[Rasta.]

Just do what works for you. Sure, it's not natural, which is why it's considered a virtue in the first place. If it were easy, there would be no reason to commend the efforts of DoYouWanttoGotoHeaven as some praiseworthy feat. It's difficult and not natural, but the human story is one in which we have risen above our animal instincts, learned to control our more basal desires in order to have the mindspace for higher concepts. Like flying without wings....

The same nigga that wants to lick nutella off someone's feet?

 

[LPast]

it just takes discipline...

just like you can control you rage, you can control your lust....

one could argue that murder is natural....it certainly takes place normally in the animal kingdom....but part of conforming to society is to resit your urge to rage out violently anytime you feel like it...

and while most people chose to resist that urge, most of us personally know a few folk who chose not to.....some walking the streets, some not

only difference is violence is punishable by law...which is why we find shit like boxing, and mma, and other forms of controlled violence almost as appealing as we find watching shit like porn......

something about those extreme urges that peaks our interest.....

while there are many people argue that monogamy isn't natural it's still a choice.....and people make choices on the most favorable outcome.....people who choose to be monogamous do so because they feel that is the best way to accomplish their desired goals in a relatinoship

This is what I never bought about the 'monogamy ain't natural' argument. We don't make that same argument about any other thing that isn't natural.

That's why I always go on say... STDs are natural and condoms are not..

 

[IgnorantSole]

I can see your standpoint on that.

I just see shit as busting the best nut you ever got for the rest of your life.

That shit can never get old, or tiresome

 

[Rasta.]

I've done it 7 out of the last 12 years.....i felt like a dog out of the cage anytime i became single. I know now monogamy simply ain't for me and i'd be a fool to put myself through it, even though i'm capable of controlling the urges.

 

[Shizlansky]

it just takes discipline...

just like you can control you rage, you can control your lust....

one could argue that murder is natural....it certainly takes place normally in the animal kingdom....but part of conforming to society is to resit your urge to rage out violently anytime you feel like it...

and while most people chose to resist that urge, most of us personally know a few folk who chose not to.....some walking the streets, some not

only difference is violence is punishable by law...which is why we find shit like boxing, and mma, and other forms of controlled violence almost as appealing as we find watching shit like porn......

something about those extreme urges that peaks our interest.....

while there are many people argue that monogamy isn't natural it's still a choice.....and people make choices on the most favorable outcome.....people who choose to be monogamous do so because they feel that is the best way to accomplish their desired goals in a relatinoship

Animals kill other animals for food 90% of the time.

Animals don't kill for fun.

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

Self control is a virtuous trait. @obnoxiouslyfresh‌ said what I came on here to say.

True love basically the mastery of self restraint. We are carnal, and sex is good. If you are willing and capable of denying your own selfish lusts for your partner, despite their faults, better lock that down.

 

[damobb2deep]

I'm all for monogamy. .. it's natural for me *shrugs*

 

[Dupac]

it just takes discipline...

just like you can control you rage, you can control your lust....

one could argue that murder is natural....it certainly takes place normally in the animal kingdom....but part of conforming to society is to resit your urge to rage out violently anytime you feel like it...

and while most people chose to resist that urge, most of us personally know a few folk who chose not to.....some walking the streets, some not

only difference is violence is punishable by law...which is why we find shit like boxing, and mma, and other forms of controlled violence almost as appealing as we find watching shit like porn......

something about those extreme urges that peaks our interest.....

while there are many people argue that monogamy isn't natural it's still a choice.....and people make choices on the most favorable outcome.....people who choose to be monogamous do so because they feel that is the best way to accomplish their desired goals in a relatinoship

Animals kill other animals for food 90% of the time.

Animals don't kill for fun.

plenty of animals kill for fun.....all the damn time

domestic house cats are notorious for this shit

 

[The_Jackal]

it just takes discipline...

just like you can control you rage, you can control your lust....

one could argue that murder is natural....it certainly takes place normally in the animal kingdom....but part of conforming to society is to resit your urge to rage out violently anytime you feel like it...

and while most people chose to resist that urge, most of us personally know a few folk who chose not to.....some walking the streets, some not

only difference is violence is punishable by law...which is why we find shit like boxing, and mma, and other forms of controlled violence almost as appealing as we find watching shit like porn......

something about those extreme urges that peaks our interest.....

while there are many people argue that monogamy isn't natural it's still a choice.....and people make choices on the most favorable outcome.....people who choose to be monogamous do so because they feel that is the best way to accomplish their desired goals in a relatinoship

Animals kill other animals for food 90% of the time.

Animals don't kill for fun.

plenty of animals kill for fun.....all the damn time

domestic house cats are notorious for this shit

My nigga cat leaves rats and other small animals at his doorstep.

 

[The Iconoclast]

monogamy is easy for me and is my preferred life style and is better for society.with that beings said prostitution should be legal

With all due respect, the bolded is debatable. I wish there was a way to quantify it though.

It also brings up another interesting topic:

People subconsciously associate monogamy as key element of humanity. So we even dehumanize anyone who is openly non-monogamous even if they refrain from violating established trust.

Which explains this forum's negative visceral reaction to @hoesarefun‌ . Personally I can respect someone like that who has the decency to let his significant others know upfront that he isn't monogamous.

Fuck monogamy. Although I am an advocate for doing whatever the fuck you want as long as It doesn't hurt kids.

Agreed fam.

Any form of relationship that doesn't violate established trust, cares about respecting all parties involved and prioritizes raising children and caring for their well-being. Is a good, healthy relationship imo. Who am I to judge?

The common misconception about non-monogamous relationships is that they can't possibly be rooted in trust and respect.

Just do what works for you. Sure, it's not natural, which is why it's considered a virtue in the first place. If it were easy, there would be no reason to commend the efforts of DoYouWanttoGotoHeaven as some praiseworthy feat. It's difficult and not natural, but the human story is one in which we have risen above our animal instincts, learned to control our more basal desires in order to have the mindspace for higher concepts. Like flying without wings....

Well said, ObnoxFresh. I couldn't have said it better. GOAT.

 

[Rasta.]

I'm all for monogamy. .. it's natural for me *shrugs*

Nigga do you actually shrug in your everyday conversations?

 

[Dupac]

have you niggaz ever heard about my gripe with raccoons?

a family murdered a ladies entire chicken farm...30 birds....didn't eat one.....chickens...no threat presented

 

[Ranxx]

The shit's a sacrifice, it's not about self control because if you were naturally monogamous you wouldn't have to keep it under control.

At very least the illusion of monogamy is important for the kids sake they need to know you puttin the fam first. It aint for me but I keep in mind theres a time and a place, priorities nigga.

 

[zombie]

polygamy will create lots of problems in our current highly sophisticated society . just look at the suffering child and divorce laws create in monogamous society. you can multiply that by

ten under polygamist society.

 

[Rasta.]

polygamy will create lots of problems in our current highly sophisticated society . just look at the suffering child and divorce laws create in monogamous society. you can multiply that by

ten under polygamist society.

I posit that it may have the opposite effect. Let's not act like it hasn't happened in highly sophisticated societies before.

 

[zombie]

if I have three wives if one wants a divorce are the other two liable to pay her support. and if not why?? technically their assets can be considered also mine

 

[MissK]

monogamy is my preference.

Do what works for you.

 

[The Iconoclast]

it just takes discipline...

just like you can control you rage, you can control your lust....

one could argue that murder is natural....it certainly takes place normally in the animal kingdom....but part of conforming to society is to resit your urge to rage out violently anytime you feel like it...

and while most people chose to resist that urge, most of us personally know a few folk who chose not to.....some walking the streets, some not

only difference is violence is punishable by law...which is why we find shit like boxing, and mma, and other forms of controlled violence almost as appealing as we find watching shit like porn......

something about those extreme urges that peaks our interest.....

while there are many people argue that monogamy isn't natural it's still a choice.....and people make choices on the most favorable outcome.....people who choose to be monogamous do so because they feel that is the best way to accomplish their desired goals in a relatinoship

Animals kill other animals for food 90% of the time.

Animals don't kill for fun.

Actually, unfortunately animals do kill for the sake of killing just like humans do. @DWO is right on that account.

Google the term "surplus killing".

One could easily argue that murder is natural.

 

[zombie]

polygamy will create lots of problems in our current highly sophisticated society . just look at the suffering child and divorce laws create in monogamous society. you can multiply that by

ten under polygamist society.

I posit that it may have the opposite effect. Let's not act like it hasn't happened in highly sophisticated societies before.

I can't think of any, so list them if you can. keep in mind women are no longer property

 

[CapitalB]

lot of sissies in here! hahaha

niggas in here talkin about "self control" knowin damn well its their "seif" bein controlled. lol & smh