How do you truly feel about monogamy? Is it your true preference?

[Knock_Twice]

Good thread..

Actually was speaking my case to a friend of mine to why "I" believe that there is a "perfect one" for a person and she stated otherwise. I stand on it because if you have a list or expectations for a certain mate you're seeking, I believe that you can find that person if those expectations are reasonable with your life or life in generally...I think folks who don't believe in the whole perfect person is because their expectations of a person/mate that they have are out the box and outta touch with life..or they have too many excuses and live off of sayings such as "it's what you make of it" like what does that even mean..to me it means settling (but I'm not saying that they are wrong and I'm right) but this is just my belief that I think there is a "perfect one".

So I stand on the fact that a monogamy can work if ppl just give ppl chances and stop settling..and stop with the outta of box expectations

You gonna be on a lifelong search to find that "perfect one" 'cause a perfect woman doesn't exist. It's up to you to sculpt one to your liking though, feel?

Until then, I'd just knock down the ones that are not perfect and continue my quest

I'm not trying to 'change' anybody...tough task to do

 

[zombie]

Monogamy is white folks ideaology. The white man is impotent and can only handle one woman so he thinks everyone else should too... Back when the Nubians ruled the world it wasn't abnormal for men to have several wives... Most black men are "unfaithful" because it's not in their nature to be with one woman... In actuality men are supposed to be polygamous by nature and woman are supposed to be monogamous.

Having said that, polygamy isn't about having sex with a bunch of different women... It's about having an extended family and spreading your seed with superior women. It takes a real MAN not MALE to do this. A man must be exceptional to take care of multiple women.

what utter bullshit there's quality over quantity in monogamous society. and fuck out of here with that superior seed bull.

mankind has basically moved towards monogamous relationships because they are superior in terms of raising children and creates a better spread of resources. no superior woman would accept being in one of many wives.

I sense feelings.... but …

You know you can meet MORE THAN ONE woman of "quality" right?

no feelings but no two women are the same.

 

[1800skypager]

I wish my husband would find another suitable wife already, running this house is a lot of work, I'm trying to pawn his ass of a couple of days lol

Too many thots in detroit tho, I gotta find another african

Damn... damn. LOL.

 

[The Lonious Monk]

I can understand why some people would prefer not to be in a monogamous relationship, but everytime I hang out with my single friends I come home happy I'm in one. All the bullshit the put with just for some new pussy every now and then ain't worth it IMO.

 

[atribecalledgabi]

[quote="mryounggun;7250374"this is what never bought about the 'monogamy ain't natural' argument. We don't make that same argument about any other thing that isn't natural.[/quote]

Word I've always thought that shit was a cop out. It's basically saying 'it's hard so it's unnatural therefore I'm not gonna try'

Hell being responsible and getting bills paid is hard. Getting up and going to the gym is hard, going to work everyday is hard..etc

 

[UinitiatedMgt]

Choosing monogamy, for me, has everything to do with looking ahead to what environment offspring is developed in.

Fuck that last name thread.

Umm I think you are confusing niggas with multiple baby mamas all over the place who aren't in their kids lives with a polygamous family where the father takes care of all the kids and the wives.

Those are two very different scenarios, trust me

I thought about a situation like that where 1. the man is capable of taking care of all his kids and his multipe wives no problem and 2. each of his wives is strictly monogamous to him and only him sexually.

 

[CapitalB]

Choosing monogamy, for me, has everything to do with looking ahead to what environment offspring is developed in.

Fuck that last name thread.

Umm I think you are confusing niggas with multiple baby mamas all over the place who aren't in their kids lives with a polygamous family where the father takes care of all the kids and the wives.

Those are two very different scenarios, trust me

I thought about a situation like that where 1. the man is capable of taking care of all his kids and his multipe wives no problem and 2. each of his wives is strictly monogamous to him and only him sexually.

thats how nature intended my dear friend...

 

[mryounggun]

Good thread..

Actually was speaking my case to a friend of mine to why "I" believe that there is a "perfect one" for a person and she stated otherwise. I stand on it because if you have a list or expectations for a certain mate you're seeking, I believe that you can find that person if those expectations are reasonable with your life or life in generally...I think folks who don't believe in the whole perfect person is because their expectations of a person/mate that they have are out the box and outta touch with life..or they have too many excuses and live off of sayings such as "it's what you make of it" like what does that even mean..to me it means settling (but I'm not saying that they are wrong and I'm right) but this is just my belief that I think there is a "perfect one".

So I stand on the fact that a monogamy can work if ppl just give ppl chances and stop settling..and stop with the outta of box expectations

Your concept of 'the one' is flawed. What you are describing is someone who satisfies all the various requirements you have for a mate. Anyone.

When people say 'the one', they mean just that. ONE specific person who is meant for you, is perfect for you, etc.

 

[HafBayked]

Ideally, I'd be able to go out and fuck someone else and women would understand that men fucking someone else rarely means they don't love or care about you. But at this point in my life, I don't have a problem controlling myself and not fucking other women so monogamy works out fine for me.

goated just for keepin it funky

 

[leftcoastkev]

Monogamy. Everyone wants to sell it but nobody wants to buy it.

 

[blacktux]

Lot of dudes confusing actively making a choice with passively having something chose for you.

 

[CapitalB]

Lot of dudes confusing actively making a choice with passively having something chose for you.

right..

niggas in here sayin they choose monogamy like they chose christ..

WRONG..

yall wasnt given an option..

u was indoctrinated in that shit..

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

Lot of dudes confusing actively making a choice with passively having something chose for you.

right..

niggas in here sayin they choose monogamy like they chose christ..

WRONG..

yall wasnt given an option..

u was indoctrinated in that shit..

that ain't even true bruh lol...

 

[1800skypager]

Pretty sure you didn't pop out of ya mammy's ass believing in Jesus (assuming you do)... so you've been inculcated by your pastors, family, friends, govt., & etc...

 

[CapitalB]

Pretty sure you didn't pop out of ya mammy's ass believing in Jesus (assuming you do)... so you've been inculcated by your pastors, family, friends, govt., & etc...

only reason why i dont believe in Jesus is cause I STOPPED believin in Jesus..

but make no mistake.. i was "born and raised in the church.."

moms didnt say here Boo.. u can be Christian.. Muslim.. Buddhist.. Catholic.. Agnostic or Atheist..

i wasnt given that option.. i was born Baptist and to even question it would doom me to hell.. and they do a good job terrifying kids in Sunday School into blind servitude..

question..

has anyone ever been told anything other then ur only suppose to be wit one woman or ur to be the only woman??!

has anyone been told nothin is wrong wit having more then one woman so long as ur a man to all??

doubt it..

and THATS why its an indoctrination..

 

[1800skypager]

Pretty sure you didn't pop out of ya mammy's ass believing in Jesus (assuming you do)... so you've been inculcated by your pastors, family, friends, govt., & etc...

only reason why i dont believe in Jesus is cause I STOPPED believin in Jesus..

but make no mistake.. i was "born and raised in the church.."

moms didnt say here Boo.. u can be Christian.. Muslim.. Buddhist.. Catholic.. Agnostic or Atheist..

i wasnt given that option.. i was born Baptist and to even question it would doom me to hell.. and they do a good job terrifying kids in Sunday School into blind servitude..

question..

has anyone ever been told anything other then ur only suppose to be wit one woman or ur to be the only woman??!

has anyone been told nothin is wrong wit having more then one woman so long as ur a man to all??

doubt it..

and THATS why its an indoctrination..

I shoulda quoted Simba; wasn't referring to you P.

Man growing up you're taught about religion around the same time you're told about Santa Claus, the Easter bunny, and all that shit, but me?, I wrote Jesus and the Devil off as a fairy tale cause that's what that shit (religion) sounded like when I was 5...

My mom never took me to church, but my grandma tried to pull me in that direction. I told them I wasn't going to church on Sunday, and I'd rather stay at home 'cause Sunday service is a joke... I was labeled a "heathen" but whatever... I peeped game l early when I was a youngin.

I was and am too much of a thinker to subscribe to religion or someone's philosophy.

 

[Iceberg Slick]

monogamy is a eurocentric, christian, western philosopher white cracka's ism. monogamy is for indians and not chiefs. a streetwise nigga like myself just too smart to know the deal. that's why multiple pussies with a brain fuck with this chief's ism. this video simplifies things for the squares that drank square middle america's kool aid

 

[CapitalB]

jus came from seein "Get On Up" last night wit one of my girls.. Brother Brown said some profound shit regarding the relationship between a man and his woman.. he even kept it spiritual for Reppin. lol

i gotta see if i can find it before i fuck up the quote. lol

 

[CapitalB]

If a man cant provide for all his women and his offspring then he shouldn't be practicing polygamy, he needs to be in a monogamous relationship.

if a man cant provide for his woman and/or offspring he's no man..

even moreso he shouldnt be in no relationship ANYWAY...

but this the funny part..

how many niggas u know aint shit BUT STILL manage to have a girl due to the push of monogamy??

oh yeh.. couldnt find a quote either..

 

[zombie]

polygamy is fine for more primitive society but will not work in ours. unfortunately that is how it is and no fantasy living you guys do will change that. and simply fucking various women is not polygamy