Greedy a@@ baby mothers!

[Conscious__Nkechi]

lol@niggas trynna sound large sayin 200 a week aint enough thats more than enough for a baby, give that bitch less if you can lol.

but forreal though the full custody is sounding like the best option.

How can anyone here come to this conclusion? Or do you know something that T/S has not mentioned? Otherwise this is advice you should really keep to yourself.

 

[MsSouthern]

How can anyone here come to this conclusion? Or do you know something that T/S has not mentioned? Otherwise this is advice you should really keep to yourself.

I don't get this either

For someone to get sole custody the mother/father has to be deemed unfit or abandon the child to have this happen. And you can be a really really really bad mom/dad and still have custody of your child.

When folks say stuff like this ... it makes me think they are just using the child as a pawn in a game. They aren't thinking of the best interest of the child at all.

 

[TooXquisite]

$800.00 a month and she still having trouble with her rent?? How much is her damn rent? Does she work? Or is she just living beyond her means.

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

I don't get this either

For someone to get sole custody the mother/father has to be deemed unfit or abandon the child to have this happen. And you can be a really really really bad mom/dad and still have custody of your child.

When folks say stuff like this ... it makes me think they are just using the child as a pawn in a game. They aren't thinking of the best interest of the child at all.

Yup. Nowhere in this thought process was the child considered.
All that was done was a judgment was passed on the mother based on nothing relative to the well being of that child.

Unless there is a valid reason which calls to file for sole custody as you mentioned, playing with this idea can actually be considered child abuse (mental and emotional)

Some folks become so wrapped up in their own agenda and/or vendetta against the other parent that it becomes a matter which has not much of anything to do with the actual reason you are in such a battle in the first place.

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

$800.00 a month and she still having trouble with her rent?? How much is her damn rent? Does she work? Or is she just living beyond her means.

Who really cares what her rent is at this point.
$800/month and she still has the audacity to complain? What a piece of work.

 

[dc's teflondon]

call her bluff...but talk to a lawyer before you call her bluff

 

[MsSouthern]

She's trying to get him on child support to get more money to pay her rent and car note.

He doesn't think he should have to pay for this since the money wouldn't be for his child.

If he has full custody he doesn't have to pay her anything and wouldn't have to worry about her using child support as a means to pay her rent and car note.

doesn't make her an unfit mother... just a mother who is making poor choices

a judge is NOT going to take a child from a mother and grant the father full custody unless she is abusing or neglecting him/her... or if there is a concern with inablity to care due to a mental or physical issue

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

She's trying to get him on child support to get more money to pay her rent and car note.

He doesn't think he should have to pay for this since the money wouldn't be for his child.

If he has full custody he doesn't have to pay her anything and wouldn't have to worry about her using child support as a means to pay her rent and car note.

You just reiterated my point, that is all you've done here.
Based on the information provided in this thread, this is no reason to file for SOLE custody, the end.

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

The reason to file for sole custody is to prevent her from using her child as a bargaining chip to finance a lifestyle that she can't afford on her own.

Based on Ms. Southern's post, however, it doesn't seem like that would be enough to prove her to be an unfit mother.

Are you familiar with what SOLE custody implies exactly? And again, while she seems to have her priorities screwed up not to mention she comes off as very immature, none of this is cause to grant the other parent sole custody.
D

 

[7figz]

How can anyone here come to this conclusion? Or do you know something that T/S has not mentioned? Otherwise this is advice you should really keep to yourself.

He has everything she needs at his house. Full custody is an option unless the mother is a good mother and wanys the child but since we only heard the negative shit about her, why give her that benefit of the doubt ?

It seems the child, in her mind, is nothing more to her than her means of getting an income from T/S's NOT at all like she genuinely is a good parent.

 

[Conscious__Nkechi]

He has everything she needs at his house. Full custody is an option unless the mother is a good mother and wanys the child but since we only heard the negative shit about her, why give her that benefit of the doubt ?

It seems the child, in her mind, is nothing more to her than her means of getting an income from T/S's NOT at all like she genuinely is a good parent.

These are all assumptions based on a piece of information provided by one party.
Being that neither of us are aware of the entire situation, the question of whether or not taking away her right to make any decision for their child be it involving education, religion, upbringing, social matters etc. being the right choice for the CHILD cannot be determined.
Joint custody sounds more plausible unless of course this thread is an entire reflection of her parenting skills.

Now, this could be debated forever being that there are 3 sides to each story and we really aren't aware of what kind of state this child is living in on a daily basis.

Unfortunately there are parents out there who take care of their children and would do anything for them to ensure that they are healthy and happy who happen to make foul decisions when it comes to their perhaps once significant other. Yes, they are acting selfish and juvenile however it doesn't mean that by default they shouldn't be at all involved in their child's life and the choices made on their behalf.

 

[The Jackal]

You do know that shes going to take all over your money right?

 

[Louis Cipher]

Okay so me and my baby's mom been separated for some time now. Without going through the system I faithfully put $400.00 in her bank account every 2 weeks. Yesterday she called me and was like this money aint enough because her rent is high and her car notes.. yada yada.. She said all her friends took they baby dads to court and they getting more then that.. Basically now she throwing the court shit in my face.. Do yall think that court would grant her more then what I'm giving her?

This money should be for my daughter, not to pay ya rent and car notes and other expenses.

fucking women...smh

she would have those bills whether she had the kid or not...you paying $800/mo and thats not enuf?

fucking women

 

[DONP$4]

Yo homeboy your best bet will be to go to the court yourself and tell them you give her 400.00 a month and have it put on a record. Make sure to show banks statements. Also it depends on your job, you may end up paying less then what you are paying. Tell her it does not matter what she thinks the system itself decides how much you pay and how much you make. P.S dont tell her you going to court go on your own the court systems looks at men who come on they own as a positive. DONT GET LET HER PLAY YOU DUDE, BECAUSE IT SOUNDS LIKE TO ME WHEN SHE SAID HER (CAR NOTE AND RENT TO HIGH) THAT AINT GOT SHIT TO DO WITH YOU AND CHILD SUPPORT AND A JUDGE WILL TELL HER THAT AS WELL. WATCH YO BACK BECAUSE HER FRIENDS HAVE PUT A BUG IN HER EAR. HOPE THE BEST

Oh hell naw 400.00 every two weeks, that is not right 800.00 for 1 kid. Dude if you made 60,000 a year a judge would not even take 800.00 a month from you. Dude you might have put yourself in a tight situation because if she tell the court you give her 800.00 a month they might think you can afford anything.

 

[UPTOWN]

$200 a week ...? nigga pull ya britches up and make moves ... SMH at u thinking that your doing a terrific job ...

please itemize what you would spend 200 dollars a week on a child