Giving back, does it have limits?

[Kwan Dai]

At this point yall talking about extreme cases with family on drugs and shit.

I dont think a single person here said they would keep giving money to fam to enable their drug habits.

All that was said, especially by me, is that if my family runs into financial trouble, and I have it, im not about to sit back and live lavish while they struggling. Im not about to let get go to the bank and take loans or fill up they cards either. Ima bail them out, regardless of its 5k or 100k, as long as I have it. Life is long, and they'll pay me back eventually. And even if I dont get the money back, I lost it by helping fam. I dont see how people have an issue with this.

Nobody sat and said they will keep giving money to their people if they are spending it all on drugs and ruining their lives.

That's what happens here. Folks come with the most extreme cases to justify or defend their shitty positions.

 

[Mister B.]

Teaching is giving back every day.

 

[Kwan Dai]

Teaching is giving back every day.

While true. It's only one of many ways of giving back. Just like everyone isn't gifted with a station of money and influence. Everyone isn't gifted with time and patience to teach.

 

[MsSouthern]

Extreme case ?? Uhhh try my real life

Want another example

Every time I go to the HEB they ask if I want to donate to some charity ....seeing how I donate to 4 organizations each month via payroll I usually say no

Between that ....volunteering as a guardian ad litem ...passing out soup and gloves to the homeless when it's cold and cold water when it's hot ... and the toy drive I help with ....

I'm ok with saying no and setting limits

 

[blackrain]

At this point yall talking about extreme cases with family on drugs and shit.

I dont think a single person here said they would keep giving money to fam to enable their drug habits.

All that was said, especially by me, is that if my family runs into financial trouble, and I have it, im not about to sit back and live lavish while they struggling. Im not about to let get go to the bank and take loans or fill up they cards either. Ima bail them out, regardless of its 5k or 100k, as long as I have it. Life is long, and they'll pay me back eventually. And even if I dont get the money back, I lost it by helping fam. I dont see how people have an issue with this.

Nobody sat and said they will keep giving money to their people if they are spending it all on drugs and ruining their lives.

It ain't always about drug habits..it can literally be bailing somebody out of bad situation after bad situation. Helping your family is one thing, being somebody's personal bank is another constantly is another. You don't actually help somebody by constantly bailing them out, you help them by showing them how to put themselves in a position to not have to be bailed out of a bad situation

 

[T. Sanford]

I don't mind giving back but It depends on your situation. If you are in some financial trouble & you need to borrow money then its good Especially if you are a trust worthy person Trust goes a long way. Just give it back whenever you get out of the hole. But I am not about to give anything to someone who always want a handout or will put themselves in a situation on purpose then cry to family members to bail them out

 

[lethal5]

You cant act like everybody's family members are like the Cosby show.

Alot of people got leeches & connivers in there family who'd suck your bank account dry if you let them....plenty of athletes & lotto winners are victims of this. (ESPN 30 for 30 documentary: Broke is a good example of this)

you gotta assess things on a case by case basis

 

[lethal5]

"Extreme cases"? Y'all act like there aren't people out there that wont rob & steal from there own family. People out there that would steal from there own kids (and have by the way)....its a mentality, drugs or "extreme" shit dont gotta have nothing to do with the situation.

 

[felliwonda]

For family? I dont lend, I give. No limits. Whats the point of having money if I cant give to my fam?

For the community? I know its a cliche, but I give back with my time and experience. In 2016, I took 2 people under my wing, shared my experience, told them exactly what to do, and to their credit, they did it to a T, and both landed 75k+ job. Now them and their families are set. Only thing I asked back was to make sure they are willing to help the next man. Im working on a 3rd person now. I think helping my people get high paying jobs is the best way of giving back.

I think that's amazing the way you did it so respect for that and to each his own. But only one little aspect I would change being in your position ( meaning if I was in the same position to guide people through like you did) the only thing I would change is I would treat family with a little extra love but also teaching them the same way take the same steps. Only because not in all cases but in some cases, some family members like to abuse the situation. Some family members rather sit back and kick while you lend a helping hand and they show no kind of initiative excetera excetera. Other than that I feel like your idea and goal of giving back is the way it should be so big up to you

 

[AZTG]

For family? I dont lend, I give. No limits. Whats the point of having money if I cant give to my fam?

For the community? I know its a cliche, but I give back with my time and experience. In 2016, I took 2 people under my wing, shared my experience, told them exactly what to do, and to their credit, they did it to a T, and both landed 75k+ job. Now them and their families are set. Only thing I asked back was to make sure they are willing to help the next man. Im working on a 3rd person now. I think helping my people get high paying jobs is the best way of giving back.

I think that's amazing the way you did it so respect for that and to each his own. But only one little aspect I would change being in your position ( meaning if I was in the same position to guide people through like you did) the only thing I would change is I would treat family with a little extra love but also teaching them the same way take the same steps. Only because not in all cases but in some cases, some family members like to abuse the situation. Some family members rather sit back and kick while you lend a helping hand and they show no kind of initiative excetera excetera. Other than that I feel like your idea and goal of giving back is the way it should be so big up to you

I feel you man. But i cant help someone who dont want help. Im actually guiding my brother now, hopefully he is going to have a good job and begin his career in the first quarter of this year. I got love for all the people I helped, but I woulda put my brother on before any of them. He just gotta want it, and luckily he does and is working towards it.

 

[Cabana_Da_Don]

Extreme case ?? Uhhh try my real life

Want another example

Every time I go to the HEB they ask if I want to donate to some charity ....seeing how I donate to 4 organizations each month via payroll I usually say no

Between that ....volunteering as a guardian ad litem ...passing out soup and gloves to the homeless when it's cold and cold water when it's hot ... and the toy drive I help with ....

I'm ok with saying no and setting limits

Good man.Godbless your soul homie.

 

[lethal5]

I got family members that "seem" to be in need of money year after year. I don't think you're helping them out by giving them money everytime they ask. You're just encouraging them to be more careless with there money.

 

[rickmogul]

Family ( Mom, Pop, Brother) I'd give my life! Material shit and money is a curse if ya loved ones R suffering. Any1 else it's tempremental depending on my mood. Extended family or friends know I'm a Pisces and will charge U 2 da game quicker than an AC/ DC outlet. My Holy Trinity on Earth.

 

[Peace_79]

Does your net worth and your time have limits?

There’s your answer.

I treat it as an expense like any other, all be it an altruistic one.

And if you giving back with constraints of what is done with the gift - you weren’t giving it in the first place.

 

[playmaker88]

imparting some wisdom upon someone is just as valuable as the money... mind you some people might not be financially equipped to give money...

in the same token some people really shouldnt be giving advice...