Tommy bilfiger
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fortyacres&amule;6154604 said:
You go to/graduated from a ivy league school and still call chicks bitches and hoes? Shut da fucc up dumb ass blacc nigga
ineedpussy
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damn yall niggaZ and bitches
Darth Sidious
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ineedpussy
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Darth Sidious;6156571 said:
wtf my nigga? i need help not a muthafuckin...forget it. thanks
Darth Sidious
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Get a Life: A How-to Guide
I teach guys how to get past their fear of meeting women. To do this, I recommend they regularly go back to mundane places such as supermarkets, malls, stores, public transportation, parks, happy hour bars, etc. Going back consistently to these predictable places will give you a foundation to practice your approach skills and learn how to initiate interactions with strangers.
However, this is a very different thing than actually having a life where you do interesting activities and things you enjoy. Almost anywhere you live in the world, you can find a ton of hidden activities that can enrich your life.
I used to be friends with a guy who always seemed to know about great activities to do. If liking him as a person wasn’t enough, the fact that he always knew where to go and what to do was enough reason for me to keep this guy in my life.
Be that guy. Become the expert at finding fun things to do. When you always have your plate full with fun activities, you naturally start to draw people into your life. You have a base for relating to other people.
I like to ask my clients, if you had the perfect woman in your life, what kind of things would you be doing with her?
Yes, pickup can teach you to become proficient and confident in any environment you’re in. But beyond the first date, if you don’t have interesting things going on in your life, it will be very difficult to keep women in your life. And the ones that you do keep will be boring.
Here are some important tips to finding great things to do every night of the week:
Make It Your Job to Find Fun Activities
There are a number of magazines, events lists, and websites that talk about all the great things going on in your city. My favorite guide right now is Time Out. They have Time Out magazine in almost every major city. Once a week, I sit down and go through Time Out New York. I read it like it’s a homework assignment. Anything that interests me, I put into my calendar or look it up online. I buy tickets to upcoming events. I sign up for classes that interest me.
There are a lot of other events in your city. You can Google events and your citya nd you'll find some. I’ll list a few here, for my location, New York. Feel free to add more in comments. I’m sure there’s a bunch more I’m missing.
Time Out
Flavorpill
Nonsense NYC events list
Brooklyn Based Events
Field Trip Day
Atlas Obscura
The Moth storytelling
Artcal Gallery Opening listings in NYC
Upright Citizens Brigade improv theater
Secret Science Club
This is just a sampling of some stuff I like to do. There are also classes (art, dance, cooking, sailing, scuba diving), volunteering, political groups, health (like yoga, hiking), sports (climbing, soccer, softball, basketball leagues), boardgame nights, trivia nights, festivals, burlesque, literary readings, theater, etc.
Go Alone
This may be the most important piece of advice here. I don’t wait to ask someone before I buy tickets to events. I’ll invite friends to some, but many events I end up going to alone. By going to events alone, I can go to a new event every night of the week without worrying whether I have a wing or a chaperone. It gives me a lot of freedom.
Planning to go to events alone is great because when that second date rolls around, you've already got something great to do and she can simply come along if she wants. You have a life that you can bring her into. That's so attractive.
You can also take more risks when you go alone. You may be hesitant to invite a friend out to an event if you're worried it's going to suck. But if you go alone, you can explore and find out what is good and what you really like.
Simply Show Up
Whenever you go out alone, there’s always that fear. What if people see me there without anyone, will I look like a loser? What if no one else is there and I feel weird? What if everyone else is there with friends but me?
For this I tell myself: Simply show up. Woody Allen once said, “Eighty per cent of success is simply showing up.” Simply get yourself to the event. Whatever you need to do to get yourself there, do it. If the event totally sucks, you can pretend you got a phone call and walk out the door right away. At least you showed up.
If possible, try to hang out for a bit after you get there. Sometimes you need to hang out for a bit to actually get a feel for if it's gonna be good. Walk around. Stand at the bar and have a drink. Pretend you’re waiting for your friends to show up.
Start Small
If you have a lot of anxiety planning and going to events alone, start small. Find one new activity to do every week. Don’t put pressure on yourself to do something new every single night or you’ll burn yourself out.
Focus on activities where there will be women
Since meeting women is part of what this subreddit is about, you’ll want to foster interests that have a higher possibility of meeting women. Some activities are more geared toward meeting women than others.
While it’s worth going to gaming conventions, star-trek conventions, and comic-book conventions if that’s what interests you, you may find a much lower number of women at these events then say yoga, art gallery openings, or theater events. If you’re looking for new interests, put your energy toward those that have a lot of women.
Avoid Home
As introverted guys, our home is our refuge. It's so easy to escape there. There are so many excuses to simply go home. After work, you're tired. There's no one to go out with. The event will probably suck. I probably won't meet anyone. etc. And once home, there is a lot of momentum to stay there.
Avoid the tar pit of your home. Nothing happens there. Life happens when you walk out your front door. With a little consistency, planning, and bravery, pretty soon you'll have a more exciting life than you can imagine. And that's attractive!
I teach guys how to get past their fear of meeting women. To do this, I recommend they regularly go back to mundane places such as supermarkets, malls, stores, public transportation, parks, happy hour bars, etc. Going back consistently to these predictable places will give you a foundation to practice your approach skills and learn how to initiate interactions with strangers.
However, this is a very different thing than actually having a life where you do interesting activities and things you enjoy. Almost anywhere you live in the world, you can find a ton of hidden activities that can enrich your life.
I used to be friends with a guy who always seemed to know about great activities to do. If liking him as a person wasn’t enough, the fact that he always knew where to go and what to do was enough reason for me to keep this guy in my life.
Be that guy. Become the expert at finding fun things to do. When you always have your plate full with fun activities, you naturally start to draw people into your life. You have a base for relating to other people.
I like to ask my clients, if you had the perfect woman in your life, what kind of things would you be doing with her?
Yes, pickup can teach you to become proficient and confident in any environment you’re in. But beyond the first date, if you don’t have interesting things going on in your life, it will be very difficult to keep women in your life. And the ones that you do keep will be boring.
Here are some important tips to finding great things to do every night of the week:
Make It Your Job to Find Fun Activities
There are a number of magazines, events lists, and websites that talk about all the great things going on in your city. My favorite guide right now is Time Out. They have Time Out magazine in almost every major city. Once a week, I sit down and go through Time Out New York. I read it like it’s a homework assignment. Anything that interests me, I put into my calendar or look it up online. I buy tickets to upcoming events. I sign up for classes that interest me.
There are a lot of other events in your city. You can Google events and your citya nd you'll find some. I’ll list a few here, for my location, New York. Feel free to add more in comments. I’m sure there’s a bunch more I’m missing.
Time Out
Flavorpill
Nonsense NYC events list
Brooklyn Based Events
Field Trip Day
Atlas Obscura
The Moth storytelling
Artcal Gallery Opening listings in NYC
Upright Citizens Brigade improv theater
Secret Science Club
This is just a sampling of some stuff I like to do. There are also classes (art, dance, cooking, sailing, scuba diving), volunteering, political groups, health (like yoga, hiking), sports (climbing, soccer, softball, basketball leagues), boardgame nights, trivia nights, festivals, burlesque, literary readings, theater, etc.
Go Alone
This may be the most important piece of advice here. I don’t wait to ask someone before I buy tickets to events. I’ll invite friends to some, but many events I end up going to alone. By going to events alone, I can go to a new event every night of the week without worrying whether I have a wing or a chaperone. It gives me a lot of freedom.
Planning to go to events alone is great because when that second date rolls around, you've already got something great to do and she can simply come along if she wants. You have a life that you can bring her into. That's so attractive.
You can also take more risks when you go alone. You may be hesitant to invite a friend out to an event if you're worried it's going to suck. But if you go alone, you can explore and find out what is good and what you really like.
Simply Show Up
Whenever you go out alone, there’s always that fear. What if people see me there without anyone, will I look like a loser? What if no one else is there and I feel weird? What if everyone else is there with friends but me?
For this I tell myself: Simply show up. Woody Allen once said, “Eighty per cent of success is simply showing up.” Simply get yourself to the event. Whatever you need to do to get yourself there, do it. If the event totally sucks, you can pretend you got a phone call and walk out the door right away. At least you showed up.
If possible, try to hang out for a bit after you get there. Sometimes you need to hang out for a bit to actually get a feel for if it's gonna be good. Walk around. Stand at the bar and have a drink. Pretend you’re waiting for your friends to show up.
Start Small
If you have a lot of anxiety planning and going to events alone, start small. Find one new activity to do every week. Don’t put pressure on yourself to do something new every single night or you’ll burn yourself out.
Focus on activities where there will be women
Since meeting women is part of what this subreddit is about, you’ll want to foster interests that have a higher possibility of meeting women. Some activities are more geared toward meeting women than others.
While it’s worth going to gaming conventions, star-trek conventions, and comic-book conventions if that’s what interests you, you may find a much lower number of women at these events then say yoga, art gallery openings, or theater events. If you’re looking for new interests, put your energy toward those that have a lot of women.
Avoid Home
As introverted guys, our home is our refuge. It's so easy to escape there. There are so many excuses to simply go home. After work, you're tired. There's no one to go out with. The event will probably suck. I probably won't meet anyone. etc. And once home, there is a lot of momentum to stay there.
Avoid the tar pit of your home. Nothing happens there. Life happens when you walk out your front door. With a little consistency, planning, and bravery, pretty soon you'll have a more exciting life than you can imagine. And that's attractive!
Darth Sidious
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ineedpussy;6156803 said:
Bruh, I'm giving you the answers, you just don't believe it.
Darth Sidious
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Three Second Rule
This rule states that once you have spotted a target, you give yourself no more than three seconds before approaching. The idea is to combat getting too much into your own headspace. When you think about the approach too much you begin building up anxiety, you worry too much about getting the line just right, and shit begins to get awkward because now when you approach she’ll know it took you this long to build up the nerve to do it.
This is a great rule for beginners, because the biggest thing most beginners need is more experience. Rather than trying to deliver great opening lines, beginners need to be in crash-and-burn mode and just practice opening at all. It also is really great for forcing you to think quickly; you can still use canned routines, but you have just 3 seconds to pick one out of your toolbox.
More experienced guys might want to ditch the rule. If it’s working for you, great. But, some situations require a bit more observation, analysis, and strategy before opening. Consider using the three second rule for the first hour that you’re out, and after that try to think more critically about the situation before going in.
The Angles
This is a really simple concept, but surprisingly powerful: Approach from the side. If the direction the girl is facing is 12 o’clock, approach from about 2 to 4 o’clock (or 8 to 10 on the other side).
Why not the front: A direct approach appears by instinct as confrontational. This will naturally make her defensive. Approaching from the front also can create the awkward situation where she sees you approaching, you see her seeing you, and there’s still 20 feet to cover. You can recover from that, sure, but it’s better to avoid that landmine.
Why not from the back: Because it’s creepy. Also, if she’s in a group, you’re forcing her to turn her back on her friends. You want to use this for isolating her later on, but if you start this way, she’ll feel awkward and her friends are going to feel the need to immediately get her back from you.
Why the side: Because the other two options suck, and you have to approach from somewhere.
This idea has been around for a long time, and it also appears in mediation theory of all places (that’s mediation as in trying to avoid or settle a lawsuit). When mediators place opposing parties on opposite sides of a table, they become very combative. But, they’ve learned that by having them sit at the corner of the table, at 90 degrees from each other, they take a more cooperative attitude.
Which Set Size?
Open all the sets!
Seriously, don’t spend much time trying to select the right target, odds are you’re going to get blown out anyways, so it doesn’t matter which one you pick first!
But that said, the ideal set is either a 1set or a 3set (meaning a lone individual, or a group of three). The 1set should be obvious. As for why the 3set is so good, it’s because you’ll eventually want to isolate the girl from her friends. If she’s there with only one other person, she won’t abandon that friend. If she’s there with two friends though, they can keep each other company. Of course, if you roll with a wingman, 2sets are great, 3sets are tricky, and 4sets are pretty good.
What About Mixed Sets?
What about them? A lot of guys get hung up trying to find a girl not talking to a guy, but what they don’t know is that about 60% of the time they’re not involved. It’s more often a friend/orbiter, a relative, or some other dude at the bar trying to pick her up.
There’s no harm in finding out. Any simple situational opener will allow you to open a mixed 2set and then you can try to feel out what their relationship is.
Who in the Set to Open?
Typically you do not want to open your target. By talking to her friend first, you disqualify yourself. Once you’re DQed to her, she is no longer actively trying to reject you. Instead she’ll begin to try to get your attention and qualify herself to you.
Opening the friend also helps to disarm obstacles. The less attractive girl is often a buzzkill and will try to cockblock. But, if you approach the less attractive girl, she’s no longer feeling jealous of the more attractive friend, and won’t be as much of a problem. You’ll still have to deal with her when you make your move to the target later, but that’s a different issue.
If there are guys in the group, open them. Again, this is obstacle removal. By approaching the guy you want to implicitly acknowledge him as the alpha of the group. He’s less likely to try to AMOG you if he doesn’t perceive you as a threat to his social station. This doesn’t make you a beta though. You’re the alpha of your group, just visiting his group. It’s like saying “Your house, your rules.” Doesn’t make you his bitch, just means you’re acknowledging that you’re in his house.
How to Get Their Attention
Eye contact. Making sounds with your mouth. These are the easy, obvious ones. But, if you’re coming in from the side and she doesn’t turn to face you when her proximity alarms go off, all you need is a very light, brief touch on the shoulder, as if to say “Excuse me…”
This rule states that once you have spotted a target, you give yourself no more than three seconds before approaching. The idea is to combat getting too much into your own headspace. When you think about the approach too much you begin building up anxiety, you worry too much about getting the line just right, and shit begins to get awkward because now when you approach she’ll know it took you this long to build up the nerve to do it.
This is a great rule for beginners, because the biggest thing most beginners need is more experience. Rather than trying to deliver great opening lines, beginners need to be in crash-and-burn mode and just practice opening at all. It also is really great for forcing you to think quickly; you can still use canned routines, but you have just 3 seconds to pick one out of your toolbox.
More experienced guys might want to ditch the rule. If it’s working for you, great. But, some situations require a bit more observation, analysis, and strategy before opening. Consider using the three second rule for the first hour that you’re out, and after that try to think more critically about the situation before going in.
The Angles
This is a really simple concept, but surprisingly powerful: Approach from the side. If the direction the girl is facing is 12 o’clock, approach from about 2 to 4 o’clock (or 8 to 10 on the other side).
Why not the front: A direct approach appears by instinct as confrontational. This will naturally make her defensive. Approaching from the front also can create the awkward situation where she sees you approaching, you see her seeing you, and there’s still 20 feet to cover. You can recover from that, sure, but it’s better to avoid that landmine.
Why not from the back: Because it’s creepy. Also, if she’s in a group, you’re forcing her to turn her back on her friends. You want to use this for isolating her later on, but if you start this way, she’ll feel awkward and her friends are going to feel the need to immediately get her back from you.
Why the side: Because the other two options suck, and you have to approach from somewhere.
This idea has been around for a long time, and it also appears in mediation theory of all places (that’s mediation as in trying to avoid or settle a lawsuit). When mediators place opposing parties on opposite sides of a table, they become very combative. But, they’ve learned that by having them sit at the corner of the table, at 90 degrees from each other, they take a more cooperative attitude.
Which Set Size?
Open all the sets!
Seriously, don’t spend much time trying to select the right target, odds are you’re going to get blown out anyways, so it doesn’t matter which one you pick first!
But that said, the ideal set is either a 1set or a 3set (meaning a lone individual, or a group of three). The 1set should be obvious. As for why the 3set is so good, it’s because you’ll eventually want to isolate the girl from her friends. If she’s there with only one other person, she won’t abandon that friend. If she’s there with two friends though, they can keep each other company. Of course, if you roll with a wingman, 2sets are great, 3sets are tricky, and 4sets are pretty good.
What About Mixed Sets?
What about them? A lot of guys get hung up trying to find a girl not talking to a guy, but what they don’t know is that about 60% of the time they’re not involved. It’s more often a friend/orbiter, a relative, or some other dude at the bar trying to pick her up.
There’s no harm in finding out. Any simple situational opener will allow you to open a mixed 2set and then you can try to feel out what their relationship is.
Who in the Set to Open?
Typically you do not want to open your target. By talking to her friend first, you disqualify yourself. Once you’re DQed to her, she is no longer actively trying to reject you. Instead she’ll begin to try to get your attention and qualify herself to you.
Opening the friend also helps to disarm obstacles. The less attractive girl is often a buzzkill and will try to cockblock. But, if you approach the less attractive girl, she’s no longer feeling jealous of the more attractive friend, and won’t be as much of a problem. You’ll still have to deal with her when you make your move to the target later, but that’s a different issue.
If there are guys in the group, open them. Again, this is obstacle removal. By approaching the guy you want to implicitly acknowledge him as the alpha of the group. He’s less likely to try to AMOG you if he doesn’t perceive you as a threat to his social station. This doesn’t make you a beta though. You’re the alpha of your group, just visiting his group. It’s like saying “Your house, your rules.” Doesn’t make you his bitch, just means you’re acknowledging that you’re in his house.
How to Get Their Attention
Eye contact. Making sounds with your mouth. These are the easy, obvious ones. But, if you’re coming in from the side and she doesn’t turn to face you when her proximity alarms go off, all you need is a very light, brief touch on the shoulder, as if to say “Excuse me…”
Darth Sidious
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The Actual Line
Ah, the meat and potatoes of the opening, the thing everyone gets hung up on. What the hell do you say?!
Frankly, it doesn’t really matter that much, most people can’t remember the opening a few minutes later anyways. I was in a relationship with a girl for six months, and I not only can’t remember my opener, but I can’t remember anything I said to her that night other than “We’re heading out, can I get your number?” and also asking how to spell her name. So really, just say anything.
Having a few canned routines in mind can be helpful if you’re not good at talking off the cuff or having trouble with confidence, but situational openers are generally much stronger.
You may also want to use a False Time Constraint. “Can I get you opinion on something real quick?” The “real quick” part implies you’re going to leave immediately after. Or, the less easy off the tongue, “I have to get back to my friends in just a minute, but…” Only trouble with using an FTC is that it gets awkward if you don’t leave. They’ll know you were lying, and start asking why you aren’t going back to your friends, and hey, do you even have any friends? If you use an FTC, be prepared to leave, but then re-open the set later on.
I like to use the opposite of the False Time Constraint, the Earnest Time Commitment. “Hey, my friends all bailed kinda early, and you look like you’re having a good time, so you’re my new friends tonight.” I’ve had a lot of success with this, and I think it’s because it’s entirely plausible, and most people can understand the awkward situation you’re in, so they empathize and want to help you continue having a fun night out. It’s weird with a 2set, because honestly, 2sets rarely look like they’re having fun. Better with a mixed group.
If you do care about the actual line, situational openers are the best. Comment on something going on. “Did you see the dude wearing a tux and sneakers?” “Stop eyeballing the bartender, he’s mine.” “Roll Tide!”
Sometimes there’s not much to comment on, especially at clubs (sports bars on the other hand, always something), so the next tried and true method is the opinion opener. “Hey, can I get your opinion on something? I’m thinking about getting a hamster. I think they’re really cute, buy my friends keep saying it’s not an appropriate pet for an adult.” (You can then transition into discussing fun names for a hamster.) As you’re going through your day, just observe things to ask opinions about. Get a notebook, and write them down. Soon you’ll have a huge list to draw from.
And when all else fails, just pay her a compliment. Yeah, I know it goes against what you’ve been taught about supplication, but with a 7 or 8, this can be really strong. It’s best not to compliment her for how she looks. That’s just what she was born with/had surgically enhanced. Compliment her on her clothes or accessories. This is a bit closer to her earning the compliment, because she did have to make the decision of what to wear. She earned your compliment by having good style.
Final Word on Approaching
The compliment approach transitions nicely into my final point. Some people will have the reaction that you should never open with a compliment, that it’s the worst thing you could possibly do. False. It’s not the strongest opener, but the worst thing you can do is not open at all. Better a weak opener than no opener.
So the most important thing to remember is to just freaking open. Don’t try to make it perfect, just try to make it happen. And above all else, don’t sit around on the ‘net all day trying to come up with the perfect opener. Get out in the field, open sets, get blown out, and open more.
Ah, the meat and potatoes of the opening, the thing everyone gets hung up on. What the hell do you say?!
Frankly, it doesn’t really matter that much, most people can’t remember the opening a few minutes later anyways. I was in a relationship with a girl for six months, and I not only can’t remember my opener, but I can’t remember anything I said to her that night other than “We’re heading out, can I get your number?” and also asking how to spell her name. So really, just say anything.
Having a few canned routines in mind can be helpful if you’re not good at talking off the cuff or having trouble with confidence, but situational openers are generally much stronger.
You may also want to use a False Time Constraint. “Can I get you opinion on something real quick?” The “real quick” part implies you’re going to leave immediately after. Or, the less easy off the tongue, “I have to get back to my friends in just a minute, but…” Only trouble with using an FTC is that it gets awkward if you don’t leave. They’ll know you were lying, and start asking why you aren’t going back to your friends, and hey, do you even have any friends? If you use an FTC, be prepared to leave, but then re-open the set later on.
I like to use the opposite of the False Time Constraint, the Earnest Time Commitment. “Hey, my friends all bailed kinda early, and you look like you’re having a good time, so you’re my new friends tonight.” I’ve had a lot of success with this, and I think it’s because it’s entirely plausible, and most people can understand the awkward situation you’re in, so they empathize and want to help you continue having a fun night out. It’s weird with a 2set, because honestly, 2sets rarely look like they’re having fun. Better with a mixed group.
If you do care about the actual line, situational openers are the best. Comment on something going on. “Did you see the dude wearing a tux and sneakers?” “Stop eyeballing the bartender, he’s mine.” “Roll Tide!”
Sometimes there’s not much to comment on, especially at clubs (sports bars on the other hand, always something), so the next tried and true method is the opinion opener. “Hey, can I get your opinion on something? I’m thinking about getting a hamster. I think they’re really cute, buy my friends keep saying it’s not an appropriate pet for an adult.” (You can then transition into discussing fun names for a hamster.) As you’re going through your day, just observe things to ask opinions about. Get a notebook, and write them down. Soon you’ll have a huge list to draw from.
And when all else fails, just pay her a compliment. Yeah, I know it goes against what you’ve been taught about supplication, but with a 7 or 8, this can be really strong. It’s best not to compliment her for how she looks. That’s just what she was born with/had surgically enhanced. Compliment her on her clothes or accessories. This is a bit closer to her earning the compliment, because she did have to make the decision of what to wear. She earned your compliment by having good style.
Final Word on Approaching
The compliment approach transitions nicely into my final point. Some people will have the reaction that you should never open with a compliment, that it’s the worst thing you could possibly do. False. It’s not the strongest opener, but the worst thing you can do is not open at all. Better a weak opener than no opener.
So the most important thing to remember is to just freaking open. Don’t try to make it perfect, just try to make it happen. And above all else, don’t sit around on the ‘net all day trying to come up with the perfect opener. Get out in the field, open sets, get blown out, and open more.
ineedpussy
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@Darth Sidious good looks. im gone see if i have confidence enough to try these
HarlemThumzUp
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u can tell who gets pussy and who don't niggas putting out graph charts and statistics
ineedpussy
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any more tips? i need a woman in my life so i can have kids. i want a family
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goldenja;6157273 said:
i flagged you for this bullshit
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goldenja;6157287 said:
lol fuck you
Recaptimus_Prime360
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goldenja;6157273 said:
If I was a mod, I'd ban you for this offense. Never desecrate these IC hallways again with that MUCK!!
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i need help not jokes
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