Financial Infidelity

[Colin$mackabi$h]

I didn't mean to post that two times feeling button squad, ok?

 

[mryounggun]

There really wouldn't be any such thing as a 'secret' account, because that suggests that me and my s/o shared all our financial information or agreed to tell each other every financial detail. That's not the case. So I wouldn't really care if they had an account that I didn't know about.

 

[BiblicalAtheist]

So what I see is it's ok for your spouse to have a secret stash

Does it even matter how much ?

Like you wouldn't blink if you found out they had $5k or $50k or $500k or more in a secret account ?

I'd wonder why they had a secret stash, if they couldn't even tell me why, that'd bug me.

 

[taeboo]

I would be pissed, why keep an account a secret?? If you want a private account fine, no need to keep it secret tho...

 

[Meta_Conscious]

how a grown up gonna have a secret bank account?

u not knowing with your nosey ass don't make it a secret.

 

[Crude_]

Probably wouldn't really bother me as long as she wasn't doing anything to put us in any major debt.

 

[MrMinimalist]

As long as the household needs are met monthly, she can spend, save and invest her money. If somebody has an account before they were married and have no more money going into it, that's their money and not a part of the marriage.

 

[semi-auto-mato]

one house one pot. i can understand why people would have separate accounts but its not my way.

 

[Down South Slangin]

It won't cause a break up or divorce but I would lose a little trust in her. If you hiding that what else are you hiding? Just keep it real (By just saying I have my own account and you have yours) and things will be fine.

Being secretive in a relationship/marriage is never the way to go unless you planning a surprise party or some shit

 

[32DaysOfInfiniti]

Its really about me not knowing where that money coming from and not so much about her having/managing her own money.

If we married and she spring an extra account on me, i'm assuming I have a pretty good idea of what we both make and where our income is going, so if she pull some shit out her ass ima figure she doing some sideways off the books shit, with some other nigga...

Honestly tho, i dont mind her having her own account, in my mind, I'm not going to get married to share financial responsibility. Contrarily im not getting married until I personally can handle and pay for everything on both sides in terms of bills, mortgages, leases etc. I want my lady doing mom shit, not worrying about how the light bill is gonna get payed.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

you niggas live in LA LA land.

I "had" secret accounts and she does too.

its still a few she don't know about.

thing is...if the bills are paid and we still traveling like we did before and can spend with out having to budget but out of our spending budget.....then what and where I put extea money doesn't really matter.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

do I really need to let my wife know everything?

does she need to know if I have ten bank accounts each with a dollar in them?

what point would that prove and how does that earn more trust or show more honesty?

 

[Cinco]

I'll tell her don't worry bout my accounts "we got just enough to keep her fine ass in Gucci and gold"

 

[MrMinimalist]

I think ya'll be worried about if she has another dude around than having some extra money stashed elsewhere.

 

[MsSouthern]

So let's say after 10 yes of marriage you find out your spouse has an account wth some nice amount in it ....

You wouldn't care at all ? Like not even why she kept it a secret from you ? Or what are her intentions behind it ?

I don't buy this idgaf attitude most are projecting .....

 

[LUClEN]

So let's say after 10 yes of marriage you find out your spouse has an account wth some nice amount in it ....

You wouldn't care at all ? Like not even why she kept it a secret from you ? Or what are her intentions behind it ?

I don't buy this idgaf attitude most are projecting .....

Because you're a woman and have more invested in your partners resources than a heterosexual man

Same reason why it would bother a woman more when their partner buys an attractive person of the opposite sex a nice gift

 

[MsSouthern]

So let's say after 10 yes of marriage you find out your spouse has an account wth some nice amount in it ....

You wouldn't care at all ? Like not even why she kept it a secret from you ? Or what are her intentions behind it ?

I don't buy this idgaf attitude most are projecting .....

Because you're a woman and have more invested in your partners resources than a heterosexual man

Same reason why it would bother a woman more when their partner buys an attractive person of the opposite sex a nice gift

Wait what ?

Why would my man buy another woman a gift period???

Unless she's family ....

 

[MrMinimalist]

The concern or fear that people have about joint accounts is that their partner can wipe out or leave with all the money.

@MsSouthern Are you saying that it's ok if someone has their own account that's not a secret while having a joint account or you think all of both of ya'll money should all be in one (joint) account?

 

[dallas' 4 eva]

Aint no way in hell I'm trusting all my money to her, bitches can't be trusted with money know what I'm saying?

 

[MsSouthern]

The concern or fear that people have about joint accounts is that their partner can wipe out or leave with all the money.

@MsSouthern Are you saying that it's ok if someone has their own account that's not a secret while having a joint account or you think all of both of ya'll money should all be in one (joint) account?

I never mentioned joint accounts .... But others did

But I think a his , mine and ours are ideal

I'm talking about a complete secret .... Like never mentioned ever

I would have issues with it . Especially if it was established after we were married ....