Felt like I was misled. We acted like a couple but she's not looking for a relationship right now?

[John_Blazini]

You wrong for that homie. LOL What's good my dude?

T/S your main mistake is that you got too much into her. Because of this, more than likely you missed some subtle clues that would have told you where her mind state was. From what I read, she's not used to be treated the way you treated her. Now with this situation, what you need to do is start dating other women ASAP. As a matter of fact charge her to the game, or just keep her as a fuck buddy and nothing else. All the hanging out, opening doors and all the square shit needs to stop.

She's not the one for you. Remember sometimes the best way to see a person is to not look at them. The next woman or women you start dealing with, you need to have a roster of potentials. You were a chili pimp, which means you only had one girl, which is just as bad as having none. The reason being is because if she leaves you, you have no one.

hahah shit son... fuckin with these BGP labs for my routing final

 

[Soho Fresco]

@black caesar

I'm not really learning about it. HB9 is from pua but it's just something I used as a abbreviation. I did the same with "FWB" because I didn't feel like typing it out. Alright though, in the beginning...we established that we were friends with benefits until she broke down crying one night. That night, she said that all we do is have sex and she see's me in more ways than just sex. She basically got emotional first (which is why I stop doing friends with benefits) After that night, she initiated actions of a girlfriend so I assumed we were dating.

.....so, you gave her the good dick that night, huh?

Bruh, see this female for what she is. She's a needy, messy, little girl that hasn't a clue as to what she really wants. Tell her to holla at you when she gets her life together. She will either fall in line, or give you lip about how her life is "great". Let her be, broseph.

Yeah, I already deleted her number and we haven't talked since that text convo I posted up. I'll be the first to admit that FWB situations are not for me anymore. The women always get emotional with me first which makes the whole agreement counterproductive. I have been single living my life for a while now so it's cool. I just thought I found a quality woman and went for it.

 

[black caesar]

awww, poor baby, you caught feelings for the fwb. she played you boo, no way around it. now put her out of your mind and move on, it's for the best

Kai shows no mercy. LOL

 

[rico_ENS]

Off that post alone i might reconsider n allow ms jones to have sex wit me,good post madam...

Funny thing is im in the same exact situation but reverse i feel like im misleadin my poopy rite now aint really into her like that like that but she a gud girl n i kno i aint shit so basically im ridin it out till she.say no mas like duran nh

 

[Soho Fresco]

You wrong for that homie. LOL What's good my dude?

T/S your main mistake is that you got too much into her. Because of this, more than likely you missed some subtle clues that would have told you where her mind state was. From what I read, she's not used to be treated the way you treated her. Now with this situation, what you need to do is start dating other women ASAP. As a matter of fact charge her to the game, or just keep her as a fuck buddy and nothing else. All the hanging out, opening doors and all the square shit needs to stop.

She's not the one for you. Remember sometimes the best way to see a person is to not look at them. The next woman or women you start dealing with, you need to have a roster of potentials. You were a chili pimp, which means you only had one girl, which is just as bad as having none. The reason being is because if she leaves you, you have no one.

Lol, I got gif's up my sleeve too but this thread is not the place for that. Thanks for the advice man, I agree with the bolded. Now that I think about it, the closer we got..the weirder things felt as if she was scared things were getting to close between us. Nah man, I have no problem in the dating field...I just put her on "main status" because she acted like my main. I'll just take it as a learning experience though.

 

[black caesar]

awww, poor baby, you caught feelings for the fwb. she played you boo, no way around it. now put her out of your mind and move on, it's for the best

Kai shows no mercy. LOL

lol, i thought i was pretty nice actually

The "awww baby" was condescending, but I understand what you were trying to tell Soho.

 

[Soho Fresco]

awww, poor baby, you caught feelings for the fwb. she played you boo, no way around it. now put her out of your mind and move on, it's for the best

Kai shows no mercy. LOL

lol, i thought i was pretty nice actually

Yeah, you were. I appreciate it. The thing about me is I have no problem in the dating field. What messes me up is I find interest in the wrong women. Women that show interest in me, I flirt with them and they get a playa vibe from me. It keeps them coming and I handle it well. BUT when I find a woman i'm interested in, we talk and they get that same fun vibe but I end up showing my good guy side later on. The good guy side that I only show the woman I am really really feeling.

 

[a.mann]

She wants to keep you on the line in case shit doesn't work out with her abusive ex (whom is still in her life). The whole "its not you, its me" line is a cop out excuse, due to her inability to let him go, and move on completely with her life. You were just a fantasy for her...she knows that you are a good guy, and you mean well by her, however, she is still stuck on the nigga that whoops her ass, because he's got her mind.

Kick that chick square in her ass, and let the next chick in. She's no good for you.

Thanks for the words of wisdom Ms. Jones.

That's what I was trying to say, she was giving me mixed signals. If you're telling me you want more than sex with me, i'd assume you mean dating. Before that night, I had no problem smashing and sending her on her way.

a reversal roles eh?

sounds like karma

question: how many females you dogged out before she came along?

 

[Copper]

so emotional /

and I cant let go/

 

[haute]

Leave her before youre shirtless,drunk, and bruised on a COPS and/or cheaters episode talmbout

'WHAT'S UP DAWG

WHAT'S UP DAWG

THIS IS WHAT WE DO OUT HERE

WORD NIGGA'

That shit is not the business

 

[T. Sanford]

made songs together

she didnt like yo rapping, continue your craft as a artist, create a buzz, get a record deal & sell a gold or platinum album

Then she'll feel she made a life mistake & you can have her as a backstage groupie

 

[haute]

'naw she comming with me cuh'

'come at me bro, come at me!!!'

 

[Soho Fresco]

She wants to keep you on the line in case shit doesn't work out with her abusive ex (whom is still in her life). The whole "its not you, its me" line is a cop out excuse, due to her inability to let him go, and move on completely with her life. You were just a fantasy for her...she knows that you are a good guy, and you mean well by her, however, she is still stuck on the nigga that whoops her ass, because he's got her mind.

Kick that chick square in her ass, and let the next chick in. She's no good for you.

Thanks for the words of wisdom Ms. Jones.

That's what I was trying to say, she was giving me mixed signals. If you're telling me you want more than sex with me, i'd assume you mean dating. Before that night, I had no problem smashing and sending her on her way.

a reversal roles eh?

sounds like karma

question: how many females you dogged out before she came along?

I'm not gonna lie, I did dirt in the past. Before this girl, I talked to a woman that was 27 so she told me she was looking for a relationship. What did I do?...I left her hanging. Recently, I met this chubby woman, pretty but to big for my taste. She showed me all the interest in the world but I just ignored her. This girl though, it was something about her...she was a hip hop fiend like me. Knew about Wu Tang and recorded songs with me. She was independent (car, job, going to school)

made songs together

she didnt like yo rapping, continue your craft as a artist, create a buzz, get a record deal & sell a gold or platinum album

Then she'll feel she made a life mistake & you can have her as a backstage groupie

lol nah man, they love my rappin.

 

[T. Sanford]

She wants to keep you on the line in case shit doesn't work out with her abusive ex (whom is still in her life). The whole "its not you, its me" line is a cop out excuse, due to her inability to let him go, and move on completely with her life. You were just a fantasy for her...she knows that you are a good guy, and you mean well by her, however, she is still stuck on the nigga that whoops her ass, because he's got her mind.

Kick that chick square in her ass, and let the next chick in. She's no good for you.

Thanks for the words of wisdom Ms. Jones.

That's what I was trying to say, she was giving me mixed signals. If you're telling me you want more than sex with me, i'd assume you mean dating. Before that night, I had no problem smashing and sending her on her way.

a reversal roles eh?

sounds like karma

question: how many females you dogged out before she came along?

I'm not gonna lie, I did dirt in the past. Before this girl, I talked to a woman that was 27 so she told me she was looking for a relationship. What did I do?...I left her hanging. Recently, I met this chubby woman, pretty but to big for my taste. She showed me all the interest in the world but I just ignored her. This girl though, it was something about her...she was a hip hop fiend like me. Knew about Wu Tang and recorded songs with me. She was independent (car, job, going to school)

made songs together

she didnt like yo rapping, continue your craft as a artist, create a buzz, get a record deal & sell a gold or platinum album

Then she'll feel she made a life mistake & you can have her as a backstage groupie

lol nah man, they love my rappin.

just kidding nh, but f*ck ol shawty, balls in her court. she can either roll or go.

 

[Soho Fresco]

awww, poor baby, you caught feelings for the fwb. she played you boo, no way around it. now put her out of your mind and move on, it's for the best

Kai shows no mercy. LOL

lol, i thought i was pretty nice actually

Yeah, you were. I appreciate it. The thing about me is I have no problem in the dating field. What messes me up is I find interest in the wrong women. Women that show interest in me, I flirt with them and they get a playa vibe from me. It keeps them coming and I handle it well. BUT when I find a woman i'm interested in, we talk and they get that same fun vibe but I end up showing my good guy side later on. The good guy side that I only show the woman I am really really feeling.

tbh, i don't think you're the type that is well-suited to fwb relationships. from my impression in this thread i get the feeling that you'd be more comfortable in a one on one relationship. the only thing you did wrong here is trying to get serious with a jump-off. if you go out seeking a girl that wants a relationship like you do, the more likely you are to find one. and that's much easier than trying to turn a fwb into a exclusive relationship.

Yeah, I won't deny that. I have been there/done that with FWB relationships. They're overrated. True though, i'm not a part time lover. I'll just chalk it up as a valuable lesson learned. I'm alright though, I just wanted everyone's view on the situation.

My friend told me if her man would've asked her that question after they talked for 6 months doing stuff like that, she would've gave him a uppercut haha.

 

[black caesar]

'naw she comming with me cuh'

'come at me bro, come at me!!!'

time to put up some Cheaters fights.

 

[Soho Fresco]

She wants to keep you on the line in case shit doesn't work out with her abusive ex (whom is still in her life). The whole "its not you, its me" line is a cop out excuse, due to her inability to let him go, and move on completely with her life. You were just a fantasy for her...she knows that you are a good guy, and you mean well by her, however, she is still stuck on the nigga that whoops her ass, because he's got her mind.

Kick that chick square in her ass, and let the next chick in. She's no good for you.

Thanks for the words of wisdom Ms. Jones.

That's what I was trying to say, she was giving me mixed signals. If you're telling me you want more than sex with me, i'd assume you mean dating. Before that night, I had no problem smashing and sending her on her way.

a reversal roles eh?

sounds like karma

question: how many females you dogged out before she came along?

I'm not gonna lie, I did dirt in the past. Before this girl, I talked to a woman that was 27 so she told me she was looking for a relationship. What did I do?...I left her hanging. Recently, I met this chubby woman, pretty but to big for my taste. She showed me all the interest in the world but I just ignored her. This girl though, it was something about her...she was a hip hop fiend like me. Knew about Wu Tang and recorded songs with me. She was independent (car, job, going to school)

made songs together

she didnt like yo rapping, continue your craft as a artist, create a buzz, get a record deal & sell a gold or platinum album

Then she'll feel she made a life mistake & you can have her as a backstage groupie

lol nah man, they love my rappin.

just kidding nh, but f*ck ol shawty, balls in her court. she can either roll or go.

I know you were kiddin bro, i'm not new to the IC (just been on a hiatus) so I knew posting this thread would leave me open to some light jabs. It's all tongue in cheek. My homeboys told me to keep on smashin because i'm in a good situation. She cooks for me, come through whenever, etc. in exchange for sex and fun. I guess I can't swallow my pride though. My dignity won't let me.

 

[hawk d]

Damn my nigga.....thats how it be though mane just keep it pimpin'

 

[Jungz]

What was the conversation on the night she broke down? Because I think that was the moment for y'all to decide where things would go from there. Sounds like you just assumed that she wanted to be in a real relationship with you because she said "all we do is fuck."

 

[a.mann]

She wants to keep you on the line in case shit doesn't work out with her abusive ex (whom is still in her life). The whole "its not you, its me" line is a cop out excuse, due to her inability to let him go, and move on completely with her life. You were just a fantasy for her...she knows that you are a good guy, and you mean well by her, however, she is still stuck on the nigga that whoops her ass, because he's got her mind.

Kick that chick square in her ass, and let the next chick in. She's no good for you.

Thanks for the words of wisdom Ms. Jones.

That's what I was trying to say, she was giving me mixed signals. If you're telling me you want more than sex with me, i'd assume you mean dating. Before that night, I had no problem smashing and sending her on her way.

a reversal roles eh?

sounds like karma

question: how many females you dogged out before she came along?

I'm not gonna lie, I did dirt in the past. Before this girl, I talked to a woman that was 27 so she told me she was looking for a relationship. What did I do?...I left her hanging. Recently, I met this chubby woman, pretty but to big for my taste. She showed me all the interest in the world but I just ignored her. This girl though, it was something about her...she was a hip hop fiend like me. Knew about Wu Tang and recorded songs with me. She was independent (car, job, going to school)

if that's the case

than you can't give up on her man

you just can't

she sounds like one in a million

she'll come around, you just have to be patience,let her go throw whatever she has to

you just have to be ready to catch her when she falls

you know she worth the wait, the heartache

but that will only make y'all bond stronger,a solid foundation

and best you cut off them other chicks, to let her know how serious you are

you will get whats coming to you