DOYIN RICHARDS Statement: I Have a Dream That Someday a Picture Like This Won't Be a Big Deal

[zombie]

any good this man is doing does not benefit black people. this nigga is married to a fucking chink. he's not part of the community.

Shutup

Unless you can come with a more intelligent response i'm just going to fucking ignore you. WHAT you don't like me calling her a chink? fuck that gook her children and that sell out nigga.

 

[S2J]

This how i look at it...i dont give a fuk if a million mfers are out there in the wrong...YOU DO NOT GET CREDIT FOR SHYT YOU SUPPOSED TO DO.

Thats why i didnt come in and hand out Goats for that thread celebrating that we have less black men in jail. Just doesnt sit well w/ me.

In theory you are correct, but we live in a world where people actually turn a blind eye or are perfectly fine with people doing the opposite. If you don't show some support for people doing the right thing then people forget what the right thing looks like.

Ultimately, whether you believe he is being an attention who're or not he doing what he supposed to do, I don't see why anyone would be mad, seriously we gonna complain about a black man being a good father AND about black men running round here flashing rocket launchers on Instagram?

Let's keep things in perspective, this could have been another thread about ignorant niggas doing ignorant nigga shit but it's not, and for that alone I'm good.

Pay attention to the bolded.

You didnt just say 'complain about a man being a father'...you said a BLACK man. That irritates me. Like we retarded or sumthn. Like we have an inherently lower bar.

Put it this way. You on a football team. You the RB. You make a 2 yard run...They stop the game. The crowd gives you a standing ovation. Give you the game ball. Ask you to make a speech.

Thats not no fukin compliment. Thats patronizing. Its shows they dont expect much from you.

Fair enough but it is what it is, I specified him being black because it's the antithesis of the stereotype that folks like to perpetuate of black men being shitty or routinely absent fathers. If that man were white we wouldn't be having this discussion but we still shouldn't be having it, did you not see some of the racist comments hurled at dude? People telling him to go back to selling drugs and bootleg rap CDs? You think they talk to white folks like that?

I'm tired of social media working against black folks, here is one time where it's actually showing us in a good light, there's no reason to complain.

It aint a stereotype if its true. He's still the minority. That 1 pic aint reversin anything. Black men as fathers still need to do better. I guess im just not PC enough to be overly enthused Lol

I have no problem admitting ugly truths...and the ugly truth is unles you are living in the same home with your child you not doin it right. Blunt, right?

Sorry i refuse to say a ngga who buys his kids all the shyt needed, gets along with the bm, and sees him every weekend, etc, is 'holdin it down as a father'. But thats what we think! That to us is the new definiton of good father! Am I lyin?

i see where you are coming from. i do.

but i look at it like we need to give props on those that do because we are fighting an image placed on all of us because of those that don't.im not saying you dont have a right to feel how you feel, but you cant blame a man for being proud of his family and being glad he is able to provide and having the mental capacity to want to do right.

I see where yall comin from. I can begrudgingly accept that. I guess my resentment is more toward the fact we shouldnt have to be doin this (applauding it).

There's sooo many examples of patronizing that I see that i dont think others see. I come across it a lot at my job thats predominantly white folk.

Imo it should boil any black man's blood to be given xtra credit for somehting others do routinely.

Like what if u came to work on time for a week straight so they gave u an award? Lol u feel me?...

But there's sooooooo many of your black brethren not doing their part though. It's slowly getting better in our community but I know that growing up you were hard pressed to see black kids with involved dads in the picture. It was always mama & granny standing in place of dad. Thats why involved black fathers stand out.

Nobody's discounting your efforts as a father. But I understand your frustration though. The doctors at my pediatrician look at my husband funny when he can recite all of my son's medical info...like he's not expected to know that type of stuff.

But i wasnt tho. My folks r african so me n all my cousins all had fathers around. So thats probly why my stance is so blunt.

But in general, yes, thats true. And that creates a side to the cycle that people dont realize.

When men are used to NO fathers, even the well-meaning ones grow up wih skewed expectations. Meaning: You'll hear dudes say 'Im gon b the father my dad wasnt'...as they weekend parent and work things out with their bm. Its like ngga,congrats on not bein a deadbeat, but this still isnt ideal. Lowered expectations.

 

[fuc_i_look_like]

This how i look at it...i dont give a fuk if a million mfers are out there in the wrong...YOU DO NOT GET CREDIT FOR SHYT YOU SUPPOSED TO DO.

Thats why i didnt come in and hand out Goats for that thread celebrating that we have less black men in jail. Just doesnt sit well w/ me.

In theory you are correct, but we live in a world where people actually turn a blind eye or are perfectly fine with people doing the opposite. If you don't show some support for people doing the right thing then people forget what the right thing looks like.

Ultimately, whether you believe he is being an attention who're or not he doing what he supposed to do, I don't see why anyone would be mad, seriously we gonna complain about a black man being a good father AND about black men running round here flashing rocket launchers on Instagram?

Let's keep things in perspective, this could have been another thread about ignorant niggas doing ignorant nigga shit but it's not, and for that alone I'm good.

Pay attention to the bolded.

You didnt just say 'complain about a man being a father'...you said a BLACK man. That irritates me. Like we retarded or sumthn. Like we have an inherently lower bar.

Put it this way. You on a football team. You the RB. You make a 2 yard run...They stop the game. The crowd gives you a standing ovation. Give you the game ball. Ask you to make a speech.

Thats not no fukin compliment. Thats patronizing. Its shows they dont expect much from you.

Fair enough but it is what it is, I specified him being black because it's the antithesis of the stereotype that folks like to perpetuate of black men being shitty or routinely absent fathers. If that man were white we wouldn't be having this discussion but we still shouldn't be having it, did you not see some of the racist comments hurled at dude? People telling him to go back to selling drugs and bootleg rap CDs? You think they talk to white folks like that?

I'm tired of social media working against black folks, here is one time where it's actually showing us in a good light, there's no reason to complain.

It aint a stereotype if its true. He's still the minority. That 1 pic aint reversin anything. Black men as fathers still need to do better. I guess im just not PC enough to be overly enthused Lol

I have no problem admitting ugly truths...and the ugly truth is unles you are living in the same home with your child you not doin it right. Blunt, right?

Sorry i refuse to say a ngga who buys his kids all the shyt needed, gets along with the bm, and sees him every weekend, etc, is 'holdin it down as a father'. But thats what we think! That to us is the new definiton of good father! Am I lyin?

i see where you are coming from. i do.

but i look at it like we need to give props on those that do because we are fighting an image placed on all of us because of those that don't.im not saying you dont have a right to feel how you feel, but you cant blame a man for being proud of his family and being glad he is able to provide and having the mental capacity to want to do right.

I see where yall comin from. I can begrudgingly accept that. I guess my resentment is more toward the fact we shouldnt have to be doin this (applauding it).

There's sooo many examples of patronizing that I see that i dont think others see. I come across it a lot at my job thats predominantly white folk.

Imo it should boil any black man's blood to be given xtra credit for somehting others do routinely.

Like what if u came to work on time for a week straight so they gave u an award? Lol u feel me?...

But there's sooooooo many of your black brethren not doing their part though. It's slowly getting better in our community but I know that growing up you were hard pressed to see black kids with involved dads in the picture. It was always mama & granny standing in place of dad. Thats why involved black fathers stand out.

Nobody's discounting your efforts as a father. But I understand your frustration though. The doctors at my pediatrician look at my husband funny when he can recite all of my son's medical info...like he's not expected to know that type of stuff.

Are u serious at the bold?

 

[Shizlansky]

That nigga ain't got a job.

And or not the man of the family

That's all I took from that pic and paragraphs.

 

[kzzl]

any good this man is doing does not benefit black people. this nigga is married to a fucking chink. he's not part of the community.

The man took the effort to put people on blast for their racist remarks. He stood up for himself and black men in that article. Chances are his daughters, having this positive black man raising them, are in turn going to be prone to procreating with, if not only, black men in the future. He's one of many examples our community can benefit from when addressing the ignorance.

Frankly, marrying a woman that has your back is not enough to make me cast a brother out. She obviously did something no other woman was doing for him to choose her. A nigga that married a chink taking up for black men is not sell out behavior. Dude ain't did anything to show he deserves the back lash from his own.

The black community is made up of BLACK FAMILIES. black families consists of black men, black women and black childen. Not black men, chink women and mix breed kids. This man is a bad example he's not really part of the community anymore he does not have a black family our concerns and his will diverge. The message to black women is bad. All the good men marry outside the race which in turn is bad for black men because images like THIS feeds inferiority complexes ABOUT our women to our men. The women pick up on this and the spiral continues.

Stop embracing these niggas they are damaging us in ways that most of us refuse to feel.

Well then show me where this guy is damaging us right now. It remains to be seen what direction he takes his family in, but by the looks of it he ain't diverging any time soon. If he ever does. Dude might be more of a lets all get along type of nigga after it's all said and done. Having a far more open mind of acceptance for others than people like you. And that isn't a negative thing for a community.

And if black women are getting a bad message from this, it's because they need to get that bad message. That message brings out insecurities, not black pride. That type of woman would be mad at a nigga dating any woman that was better them. They'd hate regardless of race.

Now I ain't taking up for them color struck, bitter, house niggas that turn anti-black women. And I've no real reason to think this Doyin guy thinks like that. If he does I ain't seen it. And I do feel they a problem. But if he's just in genuine love and shit, I ain't knocking that and his family.

 

[zombie]

any good this man is doing does not benefit black people. this nigga is married to a fucking chink. he's not part of the community.

The man took the effort to put people on blast for their racist remarks. He stood up for himself and black men in that article. Chances are his daughters, having this positive black man raising them, are in turn going to be prone to procreating with, if not only, black men in the future. He's one of many examples our community can benefit from when addressing the ignorance.

Frankly, marrying a woman that has your back is not enough to make me cast a brother out. She obviously did something no other woman was doing for him to choose her. A nigga that married a chink taking up for black men is not sell out behavior. Dude ain't did anything to show he deserves the back lash from his own.

The black community is made up of BLACK FAMILIES. black families consists of black men, black women and black childen. Not black men, chink women and mix breed kids. This man is a bad example he's not really part of the community anymore he does not have a black family our concerns and his will diverge. The message to black women is bad. All the good men marry outside the race which in turn is bad for black men because images like THIS feeds inferiority complexes ABOUT our women to our men. The women pick up on this and the spiral continues.

Stop embracing these niggas they are damaging us in ways that most of us refuse to feel.

Well then show me where this guy is damaging us right now. It remains to be seen what direction he takes his family in, but by the looks of it he ain't diverging any time soon. If he ever does. Dude might be more of a lets all get along type of nigga after it's all said and done. Having a far more open mind of acceptance for others than people like you. And that isn't a negative thing for a community.

And if black women are getting a bad message from this, it's because they need to get that bad message. That message brings out insecurities, not black pride. That type of woman would be mad at a nigga dating any woman that was better them. They'd hate regardless of race.

Now I ain't taking up for them color struck, bitter, house niggas that turn anti-black women. And I've no real reason to think this Doyin guy thinks like that. If he does I ain't seen it. And I do feel they a problem. But if he's just in genuine love and shit, I ain't knocking that and his family.

@ THE bolded It's not that simple, he's part of a bigger problem him and others like him are just sides effects of the greater problem of black people refusing to put our interest first and above anything else loving each other more than anyone else. He's already diverged the issues and problem of the black family are not his concern he does not have a black family the problems that effect black women he does not have to deal with.

@ the underlined we don't need people who think like that "others" are to be used for our benefit and that is it they are to be be married. we can be associates and co-workers maybe even friends to a certain degree but it stops at marriage. Teenage notions of Love need to be done away with when you grow up and starting thinking of marriage and children.

There needs to be a change of image in how the world sees african/black people for that to happen we have to change how we see oursleves a good black man who goes outside of the race is no help to that cause. The message his marriages sends might have no effect on adult black women who have their lives together. But i was speaking more too the younger girls.

 

[Black Boy King]

Smh at the beginning of the article you'd think dude thought mlk was the Christ. Nigga, fuck martin luther king jr

 

[blackrain]

black men who leave their families are part of the problem but so are those who race mix both behaviors need to be stopped

You say this, then wack a pic of a black father with his son that was just put up...so which is it?

 

[A1000MILES]

Smh at the beginning of the article you'd think dude thought mlk was the Christ. Nigga, fuck martin luther king jr

Ooooooooooh, they gon getchuuuuuuu...

 

[THOT PILGRIM]

This how i look at it...i dont give a fuk if a million mfers are out there in the wrong...YOU DO NOT GET CREDIT FOR SHYT YOU SUPPOSED TO DO.

Thats why i didnt come in and hand out Goats for that thread celebrating that we have less black men in jail. Just doesnt sit well w/ me.

In theory you are correct, but we live in a world where people actually turn a blind eye or are perfectly fine with people doing the opposite. If you don't show some support for people doing the right thing then people forget what the right thing looks like.

Ultimately, whether you believe he is being an attention who're or not he doing what he supposed to do, I don't see why anyone would be mad, seriously we gonna complain about a black man being a good father AND about black men running round here flashing rocket launchers on Instagram?

Let's keep things in perspective, this could have been another thread about ignorant niggas doing ignorant nigga shit but it's not, and for that alone I'm good.

Pay attention to the bolded.

You didnt just say 'complain about a man being a father'...you said a BLACK man. That irritates me. Like we retarded or sumthn. Like we have an inherently lower bar.

Put it this way. You on a football team. You the RB. You make a 2 yard run...They stop the game. The crowd gives you a standing ovation. Give you the game ball. Ask you to make a speech.

Thats not no fukin compliment. Thats patronizing. Its shows they dont expect much from you.

Fair enough but it is what it is, I specified him being black because it's the antithesis of the stereotype that folks like to perpetuate of black men being shitty or routinely absent fathers. If that man were white we wouldn't be having this discussion but we still shouldn't be having it, did you not see some of the racist comments hurled at dude? People telling him to go back to selling drugs and bootleg rap CDs? You think they talk to white folks like that?

I'm tired of social media working against black folks, here is one time where it's actually showing us in a good light, there's no reason to complain.

It aint a stereotype if its true. He's still the minority. That 1 pic aint reversin anything. Black men as fathers still need to do better. I guess im just not PC enough to be overly enthused Lol

I have no problem admitting ugly truths...and the ugly truth is unles you are living in the same home with your child you not doin it right. Blunt, right?

Sorry i refuse to say a ngga who buys his kids all the shyt needed, gets along with the bm, and sees him every weekend, etc, is 'holdin it down as a father'. But thats what we think! That to us is the new definiton of good father! Am I lyin?

i see where you are coming from. i do.

but i look at it like we need to give props on those that do because we are fighting an image placed on all of us because of those that don't.im not saying you dont have a right to feel how you feel, but you cant blame a man for being proud of his family and being glad he is able to provide and having the mental capacity to want to do right.

I see where yall comin from. I can begrudgingly accept that. I guess my resentment is more toward the fact we shouldnt have to be doin this (applauding it).

There's sooo many examples of patronizing that I see that i dont think others see. I come across it a lot at my job thats predominantly white folk.

Imo it should boil any black man's blood to be given xtra credit for somehting others do routinely.

Like what if u came to work on time for a week straight so they gave u an award? Lol u feel me?...

But there's sooooooo many of your black brethren not doing their part though. It's slowly getting better in our community but I know that growing up you were hard pressed to see black kids with involved dads in the picture. It was always mama & granny standing in place of dad. Thats why involved black fathers stand out.

Nobody's discounting your efforts as a father. But I understand your frustration though. The doctors at my pediatrician look at my husband funny when he can recite all of my son's medical info...like he's not expected to know that type of stuff.

Are u serious at the bold?

Dead serious. Throughout my pregnancy he was constantly referred to as my boyfriend by nurses/doctors, regardless of the matching names or the fact that he carried me on his policy.

 

[Black Boy King]

Smh at the beginning of the article you'd think dude thought mlk was the Christ. Nigga, fuck martin luther king jr

Ooooooooooh, they gon getchuuuuuuu...

They ain't ready

 

[fuc_i_look_like]

This how i look at it...i dont give a fuk if a million mfers are out there in the wrong...YOU DO NOT GET CREDIT FOR SHYT YOU SUPPOSED TO DO.

Thats why i didnt come in and hand out Goats for that thread celebrating that we have less black men in jail. Just doesnt sit well w/ me.

In theory you are correct, but we live in a world where people actually turn a blind eye or are perfectly fine with people doing the opposite. If you don't show some support for people doing the right thing then people forget what the right thing looks like.

Ultimately, whether you believe he is being an attention who're or not he doing what he supposed to do, I don't see why anyone would be mad, seriously we gonna complain about a black man being a good father AND about black men running round here flashing rocket launchers on Instagram?

Let's keep things in perspective, this could have been another thread about ignorant niggas doing ignorant nigga shit but it's not, and for that alone I'm good.

Pay attention to the bolded.

You didnt just say 'complain about a man being a father'...you said a BLACK man. That irritates me. Like we retarded or sumthn. Like we have an inherently lower bar.

Put it this way. You on a football team. You the RB. You make a 2 yard run...They stop the game. The crowd gives you a standing ovation. Give you the game ball. Ask you to make a speech.

Thats not no fukin compliment. Thats patronizing. Its shows they dont expect much from you.

Fair enough but it is what it is, I specified him being black because it's the antithesis of the stereotype that folks like to perpetuate of black men being shitty or routinely absent fathers. If that man were white we wouldn't be having this discussion but we still shouldn't be having it, did you not see some of the racist comments hurled at dude? People telling him to go back to selling drugs and bootleg rap CDs? You think they talk to white folks like that?

I'm tired of social media working against black folks, here is one time where it's actually showing us in a good light, there's no reason to complain.

It aint a stereotype if its true. He's still the minority. That 1 pic aint reversin anything. Black men as fathers still need to do better. I guess im just not PC enough to be overly enthused Lol

I have no problem admitting ugly truths...and the ugly truth is unles you are living in the same home with your child you not doin it right. Blunt, right?

Sorry i refuse to say a ngga who buys his kids all the shyt needed, gets along with the bm, and sees him every weekend, etc, is 'holdin it down as a father'. But thats what we think! That to us is the new definiton of good father! Am I lyin?

i see where you are coming from. i do.

but i look at it like we need to give props on those that do because we are fighting an image placed on all of us because of those that don't.im not saying you dont have a right to feel how you feel, but you cant blame a man for being proud of his family and being glad he is able to provide and having the mental capacity to want to do right.

I see where yall comin from. I can begrudgingly accept that. I guess my resentment is more toward the fact we shouldnt have to be doin this (applauding it).

There's sooo many examples of patronizing that I see that i dont think others see. I come across it a lot at my job thats predominantly white folk.

Imo it should boil any black man's blood to be given xtra credit for somehting others do routinely.

Like what if u came to work on time for a week straight so they gave u an award? Lol u feel me?...

But there's sooooooo many of your black brethren not doing their part though. It's slowly getting better in our community but I know that growing up you were hard pressed to see black kids with involved dads in the picture. It was always mama & granny standing in place of dad. Thats why involved black fathers stand out.

Nobody's discounting your efforts as a father. But I understand your frustration though. The doctors at my pediatrician look at my husband funny when he can recite all of my son's medical info...like he's not expected to know that type of stuff.

Are u serious at the bold?

Dead serious. Throughout my pregnancy he was constantly referred to as my boyfriend by nurses/doctors, regardless of the matching names or the fact that he carried me on his policy.

Yea that's extra foul but I can believe it. You'd think doctors of all people would have more tact, but I've also had 1 too many instances with white doctors saying condescending, racial remarks. Which is why I only see non white doctors now.

 

[blackrain]

This how i look at it...i dont give a fuk if a million mfers are out there in the wrong...YOU DO NOT GET CREDIT FOR SHYT YOU SUPPOSED TO DO.

Thats why i didnt come in and hand out Goats for that thread celebrating that we have less black men in jail. Just doesnt sit well w/ me.

In theory you are correct, but we live in a world where people actually turn a blind eye or are perfectly fine with people doing the opposite. If you don't show some support for people doing the right thing then people forget what the right thing looks like.

Ultimately, whether you believe he is being an attention who're or not he doing what he supposed to do, I don't see why anyone would be mad, seriously we gonna complain about a black man being a good father AND about black men running round here flashing rocket launchers on Instagram?

Let's keep things in perspective, this could have been another thread about ignorant niggas doing ignorant nigga shit but it's not, and for that alone I'm good.

Pay attention to the bolded.

You didnt just say 'complain about a man being a father'...you said a BLACK man. That irritates me. Like we retarded or sumthn. Like we have an inherently lower bar.

Put it this way. You on a football team. You the RB. You make a 2 yard run...They stop the game. The crowd gives you a standing ovation. Give you the game ball. Ask you to make a speech.

Thats not no fukin compliment. Thats patronizing. Its shows they dont expect much from you.

Fair enough but it is what it is, I specified him being black because it's the antithesis of the stereotype that folks like to perpetuate of black men being shitty or routinely absent fathers. If that man were white we wouldn't be having this discussion but we still shouldn't be having it, did you not see some of the racist comments hurled at dude? People telling him to go back to selling drugs and bootleg rap CDs? You think they talk to white folks like that?

I'm tired of social media working against black folks, here is one time where it's actually showing us in a good light, there's no reason to complain.

It aint a stereotype if its true. He's still the minority. That 1 pic aint reversin anything. Black men as fathers still need to do better. I guess im just not PC enough to be overly enthused Lol

I have no problem admitting ugly truths...and the ugly truth is unles you are living in the same home with your child you not doin it right. Blunt, right?

Sorry i refuse to say a ngga who buys his kids all the shyt needed, gets along with the bm, and sees him every weekend, etc, is 'holdin it down as a father'. But thats what we think! That to us is the new definiton of good father! Am I lyin?

i see where you are coming from. i do.

but i look at it like we need to give props on those that do because we are fighting an image placed on all of us because of those that don't.im not saying you dont have a right to feel how you feel, but you cant blame a man for being proud of his family and being glad he is able to provide and having the mental capacity to want to do right.

I see where yall comin from. I can begrudgingly accept that. I guess my resentment is more toward the fact we shouldnt have to be doin this (applauding it).

There's sooo many examples of patronizing that I see that i dont think others see. I come across it a lot at my job thats predominantly white folk.

Imo it should boil any black man's blood to be given xtra credit for somehting others do routinely.

Like what if u came to work on time for a week straight so they gave u an award? Lol u feel me?...

But there's sooooooo many of your black brethren not doing their part though. It's slowly getting better in our community but I know that growing up you were hard pressed to see black kids with involved dads in the picture. It was always mama & granny standing in place of dad. Thats why involved black fathers stand out.

Nobody's discounting your efforts as a father. But I understand your frustration though. The doctors at my pediatrician look at my husband funny when he can recite all of my son's medical info...like he's not expected to know that type of stuff.

Are u serious at the bold?

Dead serious. Throughout my pregnancy he was constantly referred to as my boyfriend by nurses/doctors, regardless of the matching names or the fact that he carried me on his policy.

That's just disrespectful but I've seen it happen before. When my mom had her stroke and first went into the hospital I snapped on one of the nurses when my older brother and I were in my mom's room the day after she had her stroke and the nurse was checking on her and asked my older brother "So is you guys dads coming to see her"...I said "Yes our father has already been here...all night. He just left". She said "Oh so you have the same father. That's nice."....I immediately said "Bitch our parents been married since the 70's. Watch the slick shit you say."....my brother had to pull me out the room. Needless to say once he explained what happened that nurse was no longer in my mothers room anymore.

 

[The Lonious Monk]

This how i look at it...i dont give a fuk if a million mfers are out there in the wrong...YOU DO NOT GET CREDIT FOR SHYT YOU SUPPOSED TO DO.

Thats why i didnt come in and hand out Goats for that thread celebrating that we have less black men in jail. Just doesnt sit well w/ me.

In theory you are correct, but we live in a world where people actually turn a blind eye or are perfectly fine with people doing the opposite. If you don't show some support for people doing the right thing then people forget what the right thing looks like.

Ultimately, whether you believe he is being an attention who're or not he doing what he supposed to do, I don't see why anyone would be mad, seriously we gonna complain about a black man being a good father AND about black men running round here flashing rocket launchers on Instagram?

Let's keep things in perspective, this could have been another thread about ignorant niggas doing ignorant nigga shit but it's not, and for that alone I'm good.

Pay attention to the bolded.

You didnt just say 'complain about a man being a father'...you said a BLACK man. That irritates me. Like we retarded or sumthn. Like we have an inherently lower bar.

Put it this way. You on a football team. You the RB. You make a 2 yard run...They stop the game. The crowd gives you a standing ovation. Give you the game ball. Ask you to make a speech.

Thats not no fukin compliment. Thats patronizing. Its shows they dont expect much from you.

Fair enough but it is what it is, I specified him being black because it's the antithesis of the stereotype that folks like to perpetuate of black men being shitty or routinely absent fathers. If that man were white we wouldn't be having this discussion but we still shouldn't be having it, did you not see some of the racist comments hurled at dude? People telling him to go back to selling drugs and bootleg rap CDs? You think they talk to white folks like that?

I'm tired of social media working against black folks, here is one time where it's actually showing us in a good light, there's no reason to complain.

It aint a stereotype if its true. He's still the minority. That 1 pic aint reversin anything. Black men as fathers still need to do better. I guess im just not PC enough to be overly enthused Lol

I have no problem admitting ugly truths...and the ugly truth is unles you are living in the same home with your child you not doin it right. Blunt, right?

Sorry i refuse to say a ngga who buys his kids all the shyt needed, gets along with the bm, and sees him every weekend, etc, is 'holdin it down as a father'. But thats what we think! That to us is the new definiton of good father! Am I lyin?

i see where you are coming from. i do.

but i look at it like we need to give props on those that do because we are fighting an image placed on all of us because of those that don't.im not saying you dont have a right to feel how you feel, but you cant blame a man for being proud of his family and being glad he is able to provide and having the mental capacity to want to do right.

I see where yall comin from. I can begrudgingly accept that. I guess my resentment is more toward the fact we shouldnt have to be doin this (applauding it).

There's sooo many examples of patronizing that I see that i dont think others see. I come across it a lot at my job thats predominantly white folk.

Imo it should boil any black man's blood to be given xtra credit for somehting others do routinely.

Like what if u came to work on time for a week straight so they gave u an award? Lol u feel me?...

But there's sooooooo many of your black brethren not doing their part though. It's slowly getting better in our community but I know that growing up you were hard pressed to see black kids with involved dads in the picture. It was always mama & granny standing in place of dad. Thats why involved black fathers stand out.

Nobody's discounting your efforts as a father. But I understand your frustration though. The doctors at my pediatrician look at my husband funny when he can recite all of my son's medical info...like he's not expected to know that type of stuff.

Are u serious at the bold?

Dead serious. Throughout my pregnancy he was constantly referred to as my boyfriend by nurses/doctors, regardless of the matching names or the fact that he carried me on his policy.

Yea that's extra foul but I can believe it. You'd think doctors of all people would have more tact, but I've also had 1 too many instances with white doctors saying condescending, racial remarks. Which is why I only see non white doctors now.

lol @ you thinking it's only white doctors that think and act like that.

The situation is fucked up, but let's not act like we don't know why they think like that. My wife had a black doctor while she was pregnant, and that chick flat out told us that we were the first black married couple that had come in all that year. Then we had the parenting classes and there were five sets of black parents in there. Us, another couple, and three pregnant chicks and assorted family members that weren't the father. Shit's fucked up. Zombie is right about one thing. The Black family structure needs help.

 

[zombie]

black men who leave their families are part of the problem but so are those who race mix both behaviors need to be stopped

You say this, then wack a pic of a black father with his son that was just put up...so which is it?

it was not the pic i had a problem with it was the woman who posted it

 

[THOT PILGRIM]

This how i look at it...i dont give a fuk if a million mfers are out there in the wrong...YOU DO NOT GET CREDIT FOR SHYT YOU SUPPOSED TO DO.

Thats why i didnt come in and hand out Goats for that thread celebrating that we have less black men in jail. Just doesnt sit well w/ me.

In theory you are correct, but we live in a world where people actually turn a blind eye or are perfectly fine with people doing the opposite. If you don't show some support for people doing the right thing then people forget what the right thing looks like.

Ultimately, whether you believe he is being an attention who're or not he doing what he supposed to do, I don't see why anyone would be mad, seriously we gonna complain about a black man being a good father AND about black men running round here flashing rocket launchers on Instagram?

Let's keep things in perspective, this could have been another thread about ignorant niggas doing ignorant nigga shit but it's not, and for that alone I'm good.

Pay attention to the bolded.

You didnt just say 'complain about a man being a father'...you said a BLACK man. That irritates me. Like we retarded or sumthn. Like we have an inherently lower bar.

Put it this way. You on a football team. You the RB. You make a 2 yard run...They stop the game. The crowd gives you a standing ovation. Give you the game ball. Ask you to make a speech.

Thats not no fukin compliment. Thats patronizing. Its shows they dont expect much from you.

Fair enough but it is what it is, I specified him being black because it's the antithesis of the stereotype that folks like to perpetuate of black men being shitty or routinely absent fathers. If that man were white we wouldn't be having this discussion but we still shouldn't be having it, did you not see some of the racist comments hurled at dude? People telling him to go back to selling drugs and bootleg rap CDs? You think they talk to white folks like that?

I'm tired of social media working against black folks, here is one time where it's actually showing us in a good light, there's no reason to complain.

It aint a stereotype if its true. He's still the minority. That 1 pic aint reversin anything. Black men as fathers still need to do better. I guess im just not PC enough to be overly enthused Lol

I have no problem admitting ugly truths...and the ugly truth is unles you are living in the same home with your child you not doin it right. Blunt, right?

Sorry i refuse to say a ngga who buys his kids all the shyt needed, gets along with the bm, and sees him every weekend, etc, is 'holdin it down as a father'. But thats what we think! That to us is the new definiton of good father! Am I lyin?

i see where you are coming from. i do.

but i look at it like we need to give props on those that do because we are fighting an image placed on all of us because of those that don't.im not saying you dont have a right to feel how you feel, but you cant blame a man for being proud of his family and being glad he is able to provide and having the mental capacity to want to do right.

I see where yall comin from. I can begrudgingly accept that. I guess my resentment is more toward the fact we shouldnt have to be doin this (applauding it).

There's sooo many examples of patronizing that I see that i dont think others see. I come across it a lot at my job thats predominantly white folk.

Imo it should boil any black man's blood to be given xtra credit for somehting others do routinely.

Like what if u came to work on time for a week straight so they gave u an award? Lol u feel me?...

But there's sooooooo many of your black brethren not doing their part though. It's slowly getting better in our community but I know that growing up you were hard pressed to see black kids with involved dads in the picture. It was always mama & granny standing in place of dad. Thats why involved black fathers stand out.

Nobody's discounting your efforts as a father. But I understand your frustration though. The doctors at my pediatrician look at my husband funny when he can recite all of my son's medical info...like he's not expected to know that type of stuff.

Are u serious at the bold?

Dead serious. Throughout my pregnancy he was constantly referred to as my boyfriend by nurses/doctors, regardless of the matching names or the fact that he carried me on his policy.

That's just disrespectful but I've seen it happen before. When my mom had her stroke and first went into the hospital I snapped on one of the nurses when my older brother and I were in my mom's room the day after she had her stroke and the nurse was checking on her and asked my older brother "So is you guys dads coming to see her"...I said "Yes our father has already been here...all night. He just left". She said "Oh so you have the same father. That's nice."....I immediately said "Bitch our parents been married since the 70's. Watch the slick shit you say."....my brother had to pull me out the room. Needless to say once he explained what happened that nurse was no longer in my mothers room anymore.

That's crazy as hell....I've heard some slick condescending shit but never that low.

 

[blackrain]

This how i look at it...i dont give a fuk if a million mfers are out there in the wrong...YOU DO NOT GET CREDIT FOR SHYT YOU SUPPOSED TO DO.

Thats why i didnt come in and hand out Goats for that thread celebrating that we have less black men in jail. Just doesnt sit well w/ me.

In theory you are correct, but we live in a world where people actually turn a blind eye or are perfectly fine with people doing the opposite. If you don't show some support for people doing the right thing then people forget what the right thing looks like.

Ultimately, whether you believe he is being an attention who're or not he doing what he supposed to do, I don't see why anyone would be mad, seriously we gonna complain about a black man being a good father AND about black men running round here flashing rocket launchers on Instagram?

Let's keep things in perspective, this could have been another thread about ignorant niggas doing ignorant nigga shit but it's not, and for that alone I'm good.

Pay attention to the bolded.

You didnt just say 'complain about a man being a father'...you said a BLACK man. That irritates me. Like we retarded or sumthn. Like we have an inherently lower bar.

Put it this way. You on a football team. You the RB. You make a 2 yard run...They stop the game. The crowd gives you a standing ovation. Give you the game ball. Ask you to make a speech.

Thats not no fukin compliment. Thats patronizing. Its shows they dont expect much from you.

Fair enough but it is what it is, I specified him being black because it's the antithesis of the stereotype that folks like to perpetuate of black men being shitty or routinely absent fathers. If that man were white we wouldn't be having this discussion but we still shouldn't be having it, did you not see some of the racist comments hurled at dude? People telling him to go back to selling drugs and bootleg rap CDs? You think they talk to white folks like that?

I'm tired of social media working against black folks, here is one time where it's actually showing us in a good light, there's no reason to complain.

It aint a stereotype if its true. He's still the minority. That 1 pic aint reversin anything. Black men as fathers still need to do better. I guess im just not PC enough to be overly enthused Lol

I have no problem admitting ugly truths...and the ugly truth is unles you are living in the same home with your child you not doin it right. Blunt, right?

Sorry i refuse to say a ngga who buys his kids all the shyt needed, gets along with the bm, and sees him every weekend, etc, is 'holdin it down as a father'. But thats what we think! That to us is the new definiton of good father! Am I lyin?

i see where you are coming from. i do.

but i look at it like we need to give props on those that do because we are fighting an image placed on all of us because of those that don't.im not saying you dont have a right to feel how you feel, but you cant blame a man for being proud of his family and being glad he is able to provide and having the mental capacity to want to do right.

I see where yall comin from. I can begrudgingly accept that. I guess my resentment is more toward the fact we shouldnt have to be doin this (applauding it).

There's sooo many examples of patronizing that I see that i dont think others see. I come across it a lot at my job thats predominantly white folk.

Imo it should boil any black man's blood to be given xtra credit for somehting others do routinely.

Like what if u came to work on time for a week straight so they gave u an award? Lol u feel me?...

But there's sooooooo many of your black brethren not doing their part though. It's slowly getting better in our community but I know that growing up you were hard pressed to see black kids with involved dads in the picture. It was always mama & granny standing in place of dad. Thats why involved black fathers stand out.

Nobody's discounting your efforts as a father. But I understand your frustration though. The doctors at my pediatrician look at my husband funny when he can recite all of my son's medical info...like he's not expected to know that type of stuff.

Are u serious at the bold?

Dead serious. Throughout my pregnancy he was constantly referred to as my boyfriend by nurses/doctors, regardless of the matching names or the fact that he carried me on his policy.

That's just disrespectful but I've seen it happen before. When my mom had her stroke and first went into the hospital I snapped on one of the nurses when my older brother and I were in my mom's room the day after she had her stroke and the nurse was checking on her and asked my older brother "So is you guys dads coming to see her"...I said "Yes our father has already been here...all night. He just left". She said "Oh so you have the same father. That's nice."....I immediately said "Bitch our parents been married since the 70's. Watch the slick shit you say."....my brother had to pull me out the room. Needless to say once he explained what happened that nurse was no longer in my mothers room anymore.

That's crazy as hell....I've heard some slick condescending shit but never that low.

If I could tell you how many times in my life I've been gotten the shocked reaction from people when they find out that not only are my brothers and I the only kids my mom had but my dad has no outside kids either you'd be disturbed. I've had people actually challenge me and call me and my brothers liars for saying our parents are married or that we have no step siblings.

 

[fuc_i_look_like]

This how i look at it...i dont give a fuk if a million mfers are out there in the wrong...YOU DO NOT GET CREDIT FOR SHYT YOU SUPPOSED TO DO.

Thats why i didnt come in and hand out Goats for that thread celebrating that we have less black men in jail. Just doesnt sit well w/ me.

In theory you are correct, but we live in a world where people actually turn a blind eye or are perfectly fine with people doing the opposite. If you don't show some support for people doing the right thing then people forget what the right thing looks like.

Ultimately, whether you believe he is being an attention who're or not he doing what he supposed to do, I don't see why anyone would be mad, seriously we gonna complain about a black man being a good father AND about black men running round here flashing rocket launchers on Instagram?

Let's keep things in perspective, this could have been another thread about ignorant niggas doing ignorant nigga shit but it's not, and for that alone I'm good.

Pay attention to the bolded.

You didnt just say 'complain about a man being a father'...you said a BLACK man. That irritates me. Like we retarded or sumthn. Like we have an inherently lower bar.

Put it this way. You on a football team. You the RB. You make a 2 yard run...They stop the game. The crowd gives you a standing ovation. Give you the game ball. Ask you to make a speech.

Thats not no fukin compliment. Thats patronizing. Its shows they dont expect much from you.

Fair enough but it is what it is, I specified him being black because it's the antithesis of the stereotype that folks like to perpetuate of black men being shitty or routinely absent fathers. If that man were white we wouldn't be having this discussion but we still shouldn't be having it, did you not see some of the racist comments hurled at dude? People telling him to go back to selling drugs and bootleg rap CDs? You think they talk to white folks like that?

I'm tired of social media working against black folks, here is one time where it's actually showing us in a good light, there's no reason to complain.

It aint a stereotype if its true. He's still the minority. That 1 pic aint reversin anything. Black men as fathers still need to do better. I guess im just not PC enough to be overly enthused Lol

I have no problem admitting ugly truths...and the ugly truth is unles you are living in the same home with your child you not doin it right. Blunt, right?

Sorry i refuse to say a ngga who buys his kids all the shyt needed, gets along with the bm, and sees him every weekend, etc, is 'holdin it down as a father'. But thats what we think! That to us is the new definiton of good father! Am I lyin?

i see where you are coming from. i do.

but i look at it like we need to give props on those that do because we are fighting an image placed on all of us because of those that don't.im not saying you dont have a right to feel how you feel, but you cant blame a man for being proud of his family and being glad he is able to provide and having the mental capacity to want to do right.

I see where yall comin from. I can begrudgingly accept that. I guess my resentment is more toward the fact we shouldnt have to be doin this (applauding it).

There's sooo many examples of patronizing that I see that i dont think others see. I come across it a lot at my job thats predominantly white folk.

Imo it should boil any black man's blood to be given xtra credit for somehting others do routinely.

Like what if u came to work on time for a week straight so they gave u an award? Lol u feel me?...

But there's sooooooo many of your black brethren not doing their part though. It's slowly getting better in our community but I know that growing up you were hard pressed to see black kids with involved dads in the picture. It was always mama & granny standing in place of dad. Thats why involved black fathers stand out.

Nobody's discounting your efforts as a father. But I understand your frustration though. The doctors at my pediatrician look at my husband funny when he can recite all of my son's medical info...like he's not expected to know that type of stuff.

Are u serious at the bold?

Dead serious. Throughout my pregnancy he was constantly referred to as my boyfriend by nurses/doctors, regardless of the matching names or the fact that he carried me on his policy.

Yea that's extra foul but I can believe it. You'd think doctors of all people would have more tact, but I've also had 1 too many instances with white doctors saying condescending, racial remarks. Which is why I only see non white doctors now.

lol @ you thinking it's only white doctors that think and act like that.

The situation is fucked up, but let's not act like we don't know why they think like that. My wife had a black doctor while she was pregnant, and that chick flat out told us that we were the first black married couple that had come in all that year. Then we had the parenting classes and there were five sets of black parents in there. Us, another couple, and three pregnant chicks and assorted family members that weren't the father. Shit's fucked up. Zombie is right about one thing. The Black family structure needs help.

Yea no doubt. I'm sure it's minority doctors out there who think like that. I've only had bad experiences with white doctors though.

 

[THOT PILGRIM]

This how i look at it...i dont give a fuk if a million mfers are out there in the wrong...YOU DO NOT GET CREDIT FOR SHYT YOU SUPPOSED TO DO.

Thats why i didnt come in and hand out Goats for that thread celebrating that we have less black men in jail. Just doesnt sit well w/ me.

In theory you are correct, but we live in a world where people actually turn a blind eye or are perfectly fine with people doing the opposite. If you don't show some support for people doing the right thing then people forget what the right thing looks like.

Ultimately, whether you believe he is being an attention who're or not he doing what he supposed to do, I don't see why anyone would be mad, seriously we gonna complain about a black man being a good father AND about black men running round here flashing rocket launchers on Instagram?

Let's keep things in perspective, this could have been another thread about ignorant niggas doing ignorant nigga shit but it's not, and for that alone I'm good.

Pay attention to the bolded.

You didnt just say 'complain about a man being a father'...you said a BLACK man. That irritates me. Like we retarded or sumthn. Like we have an inherently lower bar.

Put it this way. You on a football team. You the RB. You make a 2 yard run...They stop the game. The crowd gives you a standing ovation. Give you the game ball. Ask you to make a speech.

Thats not no fukin compliment. Thats patronizing. Its shows they dont expect much from you.

Fair enough but it is what it is, I specified him being black because it's the antithesis of the stereotype that folks like to perpetuate of black men being shitty or routinely absent fathers. If that man were white we wouldn't be having this discussion but we still shouldn't be having it, did you not see some of the racist comments hurled at dude? People telling him to go back to selling drugs and bootleg rap CDs? You think they talk to white folks like that?

I'm tired of social media working against black folks, here is one time where it's actually showing us in a good light, there's no reason to complain.

It aint a stereotype if its true. He's still the minority. That 1 pic aint reversin anything. Black men as fathers still need to do better. I guess im just not PC enough to be overly enthused Lol

I have no problem admitting ugly truths...and the ugly truth is unles you are living in the same home with your child you not doin it right. Blunt, right?

Sorry i refuse to say a ngga who buys his kids all the shyt needed, gets along with the bm, and sees him every weekend, etc, is 'holdin it down as a father'. But thats what we think! That to us is the new definiton of good father! Am I lyin?

i see where you are coming from. i do.

but i look at it like we need to give props on those that do because we are fighting an image placed on all of us because of those that don't.im not saying you dont have a right to feel how you feel, but you cant blame a man for being proud of his family and being glad he is able to provide and having the mental capacity to want to do right.

I see where yall comin from. I can begrudgingly accept that. I guess my resentment is more toward the fact we shouldnt have to be doin this (applauding it).

There's sooo many examples of patronizing that I see that i dont think others see. I come across it a lot at my job thats predominantly white folk.

Imo it should boil any black man's blood to be given xtra credit for somehting others do routinely.

Like what if u came to work on time for a week straight so they gave u an award? Lol u feel me?...

But there's sooooooo many of your black brethren not doing their part though. It's slowly getting better in our community but I know that growing up you were hard pressed to see black kids with involved dads in the picture. It was always mama & granny standing in place of dad. Thats why involved black fathers stand out.

Nobody's discounting your efforts as a father. But I understand your frustration though. The doctors at my pediatrician look at my husband funny when he can recite all of my son's medical info...like he's not expected to know that type of stuff.

Are u serious at the bold?

Dead serious. Throughout my pregnancy he was constantly referred to as my boyfriend by nurses/doctors, regardless of the matching names or the fact that he carried me on his policy.

That's just disrespectful but I've seen it happen before. When my mom had her stroke and first went into the hospital I snapped on one of the nurses when my older brother and I were in my mom's room the day after she had her stroke and the nurse was checking on her and asked my older brother "So is you guys dads coming to see her"...I said "Yes our father has already been here...all night. He just left". She said "Oh so you have the same father. That's nice."....I immediately said "Bitch our parents been married since the 70's. Watch the slick shit you say."....my brother had to pull me out the room. Needless to say once he explained what happened that nurse was no longer in my mothers room anymore.

That's crazy as hell....I've heard some slick condescending shit but never that low.

If I could tell you how many times in my life I've been gotten the shocked reaction from people when they find out that not only are my brothers and I the only kids my mom had but my dad has no outside kids either you'd be disturbed. I've had people actually challenge me and call me and my brothers liars for saying our parents are married or that we have no step siblings.

When I had my son, my husband used to tell me stories about how the women at his job would give him underhanded congratulations on the birth. They would give him congratulations and then ask how long we had been married, and the next question they'd ask is if that was our first child. He'd be like "yes, we don't have any other kids" and then they'd ask "no, is this YOUR first baby?" LOL they were so surprised that a 25 y/o black man didn't have any baby mamas and married another black woman BEFORE getting her pregnant...

 

[THOT PILGRIM]

This how i look at it...i dont give a fuk if a million mfers are out there in the wrong...YOU DO NOT GET CREDIT FOR SHYT YOU SUPPOSED TO DO.

Thats why i didnt come in and hand out Goats for that thread celebrating that we have less black men in jail. Just doesnt sit well w/ me.

In theory you are correct, but we live in a world where people actually turn a blind eye or are perfectly fine with people doing the opposite. If you don't show some support for people doing the right thing then people forget what the right thing looks like.

Ultimately, whether you believe he is being an attention who're or not he doing what he supposed to do, I don't see why anyone would be mad, seriously we gonna complain about a black man being a good father AND about black men running round here flashing rocket launchers on Instagram?

Let's keep things in perspective, this could have been another thread about ignorant niggas doing ignorant nigga shit but it's not, and for that alone I'm good.

Pay attention to the bolded.

You didnt just say 'complain about a man being a father'...you said a BLACK man. That irritates me. Like we retarded or sumthn. Like we have an inherently lower bar.

Put it this way. You on a football team. You the RB. You make a 2 yard run...They stop the game. The crowd gives you a standing ovation. Give you the game ball. Ask you to make a speech.

Thats not no fukin compliment. Thats patronizing. Its shows they dont expect much from you.

Fair enough but it is what it is, I specified him being black because it's the antithesis of the stereotype that folks like to perpetuate of black men being shitty or routinely absent fathers. If that man were white we wouldn't be having this discussion but we still shouldn't be having it, did you not see some of the racist comments hurled at dude? People telling him to go back to selling drugs and bootleg rap CDs? You think they talk to white folks like that?

I'm tired of social media working against black folks, here is one time where it's actually showing us in a good light, there's no reason to complain.

It aint a stereotype if its true. He's still the minority. That 1 pic aint reversin anything. Black men as fathers still need to do better. I guess im just not PC enough to be overly enthused Lol

I have no problem admitting ugly truths...and the ugly truth is unles you are living in the same home with your child you not doin it right. Blunt, right?

Sorry i refuse to say a ngga who buys his kids all the shyt needed, gets along with the bm, and sees him every weekend, etc, is 'holdin it down as a father'. But thats what we think! That to us is the new definiton of good father! Am I lyin?

i see where you are coming from. i do.

but i look at it like we need to give props on those that do because we are fighting an image placed on all of us because of those that don't.im not saying you dont have a right to feel how you feel, but you cant blame a man for being proud of his family and being glad he is able to provide and having the mental capacity to want to do right.

I see where yall comin from. I can begrudgingly accept that. I guess my resentment is more toward the fact we shouldnt have to be doin this (applauding it).

There's sooo many examples of patronizing that I see that i dont think others see. I come across it a lot at my job thats predominantly white folk.

Imo it should boil any black man's blood to be given xtra credit for somehting others do routinely.

Like what if u came to work on time for a week straight so they gave u an award? Lol u feel me?...

But there's sooooooo many of your black brethren not doing their part though. It's slowly getting better in our community but I know that growing up you were hard pressed to see black kids with involved dads in the picture. It was always mama & granny standing in place of dad. Thats why involved black fathers stand out.

Nobody's discounting your efforts as a father. But I understand your frustration though. The doctors at my pediatrician look at my husband funny when he can recite all of my son's medical info...like he's not expected to know that type of stuff.

Are u serious at the bold?

Dead serious. Throughout my pregnancy he was constantly referred to as my boyfriend by nurses/doctors, regardless of the matching names or the fact that he carried me on his policy.

Yea that's extra foul but I can believe it. You'd think doctors of all people would have more tact, but I've also had 1 too many instances with white doctors saying condescending, racial remarks. Which is why I only see non white doctors now.

lol @ you thinking it's only white doctors that think and act like that.

The situation is fucked up, but let's not act like we don't know why they think like that. My wife had a black doctor while she was pregnant, and that chick flat out told us that we were the first black married couple that had come in all that year. Then we had the parenting classes and there were five sets of black parents in there. Us, another couple, and three pregnant chicks and assorted family members that weren't the father. Shit's fucked up. Zombie is right about one thing. The Black family structure needs help.

For the first trimester of my pregnancy I had a black female doctor and she was genuinely surprised that we were married. She called my husband my boyfriend and when I corrected her, she was like "Oh wow, congrats! when was the wedding?" My husband was like "Umm, a few years ago." She had this shitty look on her face like I didn't deserve to be married or something.