Do you think a parent has a right to make their Daughter

[5th Letter]

She'd either have to give it up for adoption or abort.

 

[VIBE]

My wife and I were young parents, we were both 16 when we found out she was pregnant. At the time, abortion never was a thought, I was actually excited to have a kid. We were lucky enough to have great families who backed up us and for both of us to have stayed together and not play any drama games.

If my daughter, my only daughter, was to get pregnant, I would accept her decision about the child. I wouldn't want her to do something she didn't want. Being that I was once in the same position, I would be more understanding to her decision.

 

[VIBE]

To answer the thread, no.

 

[NothingButTheTruth]

If it wasn't rape, no.

 

[gdatruth2.0]

i have daughters and hope to never end up in that situation.

but if it happened i would think I would have major impact on the decision if they were still minors and living under my roof.

but the same applies to any male who knocks a chick up, they should be involved in the deicision making process. Not the final call but they should have some sayso.

 

[Trollio]

hahaha

 

[Shuffington]

Good Question

Tough Question

My heart would tell me no. My mind would tell me yes.

 

[Arya Tsaddiq]

No. But hopefully if I do have a daughter and she decides she wants to fast against all the teaching, coaching, schooling, and lecturing me and her mother would have given her, she will use protection so this doesn't happen.

I put past nothing past anyone tho. All of these slores out here had parents too...just hope im not one of those parents

 

[rockets]

My wife and I were young parents, we were both 16 when we found out she was pregnant. At the time, abortion never was a thought, I was actually excited to have a kid. We were lucky enough to have great families who backed up us and for both of us to have stayed together and not play any drama games.

If my daughter, my only daughter, was to get pregnant, I would accept her decision about the child. I wouldn't want her to do something she didn't want. Being that I was once in the same position, I would be more understanding to her decision.

Serious question: Why would you be happy about having a child at 16? Did you not have plans for your life? Did your girlfriend? Where you excited about college? Travel? Moving out of mom's house? A career? Just curious, not a diss.... I just wonder what is going through some of these teens minds. I always feel that teen moms/dads usually have very limited dreams about themselves and really only see themselves good at being parents....if that. Enlighten me.

To answer the question. I wouldn't force, but I would hope she would consider my opinion and the state of the family. My ex had a situation like this. His sis got pregnant at 20. In college and everything. His parents took her to the clinic and she said she couldn't do it. All hell broke loose in their house. Mom said if she has the baby she has to get out. Dad agreed. My ex and the other brothers said they would not support her in any way if she had the child. She ended up getting an abortion. Turned out she was carrying twins. Sad. What I did not understand about the situation is that the mom was a teen mom herself. So how can you condemn your daughter if you did the same thing? Plus she wasn't even a teen. But whatever, I guess the family was broke and didn't want more mouths to feed. I just didn't understand the big deal because she was 20 after all. But she did not have a job so whatever....

 

[mryounggun]

My wife and I were young parents, we were both 16 when we found out she was pregnant. At the time, abortion never was a thought, I was actually excited to have a kid. We were lucky enough to have great families who backed up us and for both of us to have stayed together and not play any drama games.

If my daughter, my only daughter, was to get pregnant, I would accept her decision about the child. I wouldn't want her to do something she didn't want. Being that I was once in the same position, I would be more understanding to her decision.

Serious question: Why would you be happy about having a child at 16? Did you not have plans for your life? Did your girlfriend? Where you excited about college? Travel? Moving out of mom's house? A career? Just curious, not a diss.... I just wonder what is going through some of these teens minds. I always feel that teen moms/dads usually have very limited dreams about themselves and really only see themselves good at being parents....if that. Enlighten me.

To answer the question. I wouldn't force, but I would hope she would consider my opinion and the state of the family. My ex had a situation like this. His sis got pregnant at 20. In college and everything. His parents took her to the clinic and she said she couldn't do it. All hell broke loose in their house. Mom said if she has the baby she has to get out. Dad agreed. My ex and the other brothers said they would not support her in any way if she had the child. She ended up getting an abortion. Turned out she was carrying twins. Sad. What I did not understand about the situation is that the mom was a teen mom herself. So how can you condemn your daughter if you did the same thing? Plus she wasn't even a teen. But whatever, I guess the family was broke and didn't want more mouths to feed. I just didn't understand the big deal because she was 20 after all. But she did not have a job so whatever....

Stuff like that boggles my mind. I could never do my sister like that. But then if she had the kid and, after the animosity died down and whatnot, she ain't want to have shit to do with the rest of the family, they'd be looking at her like SHE'S wrong. SMH.

 

[VIBE]

My wife and I were young parents, we were both 16 when we found out she was pregnant. At the time, abortion never was a thought, I was actually excited to have a kid. We were lucky enough to have great families who backed up us and for both of us to have stayed together and not play any drama games.

If my daughter, my only daughter, was to get pregnant, I would accept her decision about the child. I wouldn't want her to do something she didn't want. Being that I was once in the same position, I would be more understanding to her decision.

Serious question: Why would you be happy about having a child at 16? Did you not have plans for your life? Did your girlfriend? Where you excited about college? Travel? Moving out of mom's house? A career? Just curious, not a diss.... I just wonder what is going through some of these teens minds. I always feel that teen moms/dads usually have very limited dreams about themselves and really only see themselves good at being parents....if that. Enlighten me.

To answer the question. I wouldn't force, but I would hope she would consider my opinion and the state of the family. My ex had a situation like this. His sis got pregnant at 20. In college and everything. His parents took her to the clinic and she said she couldn't do it. All hell broke loose in their house. Mom said if she has the baby she has to get out. Dad agreed. My ex and the other brothers said they would not support her in any way if she had the child. She ended up getting an abortion. Turned out she was carrying twins. Sad. What I did not understand about the situation is that the mom was a teen mom herself. So how can you condemn your daughter if you did the same thing? Plus she wasn't even a teen. But whatever, I guess the family was broke and didn't want more mouths to feed. I just didn't understand the big deal because she was 20 after all. But she did not have a job so whatever....

We had lives in mind, just not set on careers at the time. My wife is now an LVN. I have plans to get become an RN.

Why was I happy, though? It may sound cheesy, but I was having a kid with someone that I loved. We still do love each other, we've always connected on a great level. That, plus I've always wanted kids. I never felt it really weighed me down. I never cared to do a lot of shit such as party or what not.

 

[rockets]

My wife and I were young parents, we were both 16 when we found out she was pregnant. At the time, abortion never was a thought, I was actually excited to have a kid. We were lucky enough to have great families who backed up us and for both of us to have stayed together and not play any drama games.

If my daughter, my only daughter, was to get pregnant, I would accept her decision about the child. I wouldn't want her to do something she didn't want. Being that I was once in the same position, I would be more understanding to her decision.

Serious question: Why would you be happy about having a child at 16? Did you not have plans for your life? Did your girlfriend? Where you excited about college? Travel? Moving out of mom's house? A career? Just curious, not a diss.... I just wonder what is going through some of these teens minds. I always feel that teen moms/dads usually have very limited dreams about themselves and really only see themselves good at being parents....if that. Enlighten me.

To answer the question. I wouldn't force, but I would hope she would consider my opinion and the state of the family. My ex had a situation like this. His sis got pregnant at 20. In college and everything. His parents took her to the clinic and she said she couldn't do it. All hell broke loose in their house. Mom said if she has the baby she has to get out. Dad agreed. My ex and the other brothers said they would not support her in any way if she had the child. She ended up getting an abortion. Turned out she was carrying twins. Sad. What I did not understand about the situation is that the mom was a teen mom herself. So how can you condemn your daughter if you did the same thing? Plus she wasn't even a teen. But whatever, I guess the family was broke and didn't want more mouths to feed. I just didn't understand the big deal because she was 20 after all. But she did not have a job so whatever....

We had lives in mind, just not set on careers at the time. My wife is now an LVN. I have plans to get become an RN.

Why was I happy, though? It may sound cheesy, but I was having a kid with someone that I loved. We still do love each other, we've always connected on a great level. That, plus I've always wanted kids. I never felt it really weighed me down. I never cared to do a lot of shit such as party or what not.

oh. thanks for answering my question. I just always wondered why people don't get their careers on track first and have children (not just silly teens but young 20 some things). That is why I wonder if teens ever think before they bust a nut. Then some go, "oh shit I have a kid now, I better make something of myself." To me, that is the wrong why to think. I would think 16 year olds would have some kind of plans for the future. I guess you are the exception because the way I see it, most teen parents have nothing much planned for themselves so they go, "why not just have a kid."

 

[rockets]

My wife and I were young parents, we were both 16 when we found out she was pregnant. At the time, abortion never was a thought, I was actually excited to have a kid. We were lucky enough to have great families who backed up us and for both of us to have stayed together and not play any drama games.

If my daughter, my only daughter, was to get pregnant, I would accept her decision about the child. I wouldn't want her to do something she didn't want. Being that I was once in the same position, I would be more understanding to her decision.

Serious question: Why would you be happy about having a child at 16? Did you not have plans for your life? Did your girlfriend? Where you excited about college? Travel? Moving out of mom's house? A career? Just curious, not a diss.... I just wonder what is going through some of these teens minds. I always feel that teen moms/dads usually have very limited dreams about themselves and really only see themselves good at being parents....if that. Enlighten me.

To answer the question. I wouldn't force, but I would hope she would consider my opinion and the state of the family. My ex had a situation like this. His sis got pregnant at 20. In college and everything. His parents took her to the clinic and she said she couldn't do it. All hell broke loose in their house. Mom said if she has the baby she has to get out. Dad agreed. My ex and the other brothers said they would not support her in any way if she had the child. She ended up getting an abortion. Turned out she was carrying twins. Sad. What I did not understand about the situation is that the mom was a teen mom herself. So how can you condemn your daughter if you did the same thing? Plus she wasn't even a teen. But whatever, I guess the family was broke and didn't want more mouths to feed. I just didn't understand the big deal because she was 20 after all. But she did not have a job so whatever....

Stuff like that boggles my mind. I could never do my sister like that. But then if she had the kid and, after the animosity died down and whatnot, she ain't want to have shit to do with the rest of the family, they'd be looking at her like SHE'S wrong. SMH.

I got to agree with you. I really didn't have to understand how he and his bros could do that to her. Everyday before she got the abortion (of 2 babies) they were on her. I mean on her or just ignored her. Sad. Plus they went on a religious retreat the weekend after she had the abortion. The whole fam. It was very strange to me. But not my situation.

 

[CeLLaR-DooR]

Nah. She'd have to get the fuck out, though

 

[jono]

We would discuss it as a family. To ensure whether she really wants and is ready to be a parent. I mean you should know your child more than anyone else and you should know their level of maturity, with that said every teenager will be handicapped by having a child and some are crippled by it, depends on the people involved and the situation.

Also for all the shit people talk about "equal rights" in terms of abortion on this site, nobody said a damn thing about bringing the father to the table to discuss it too. Assess his behavior and goals etc, talk to his family about it. That shit effects multiple people and IF they decide to have it show them the kind of support system they will have by making that decision.

Ultimatums ain't gonna do shit but cause hurt feelings and fracture families. The black family has those issues all the time, too many people tryna force their way of life and ideas on others. I wouldn't want my child to feel abandoned or mistreated for any reason, and j certainly wouldn't allow a grandchild to be born in a fucked up family structure.

 

[stilldat_dude]

If she still livin' under my roof...

This...because this means you have to support her and her daughter...now if she wanna have it she need to have her own shit and be able to at least support herself. Thank god I dont have kids (especially a fucking girl) because that would still be hard to say, but she did fuck him so....unno tough one but yeah I think they do have the right if they still living with and off mommy and daddy.

 

[BIGG WILL]

Having the right the do it vs. should they do it is two very different questions I think.

 

[MYKROKOZMIK]

Happened with my cuz he took her ass right to the clinic, he went told her "you are too young to make these decisions and this could ruin her hopes and dreams of college and otherwise". Can't say I totally disagree but many would I am sure. Here is part of the rub, if they are minors you are responsible for them, so does this mean you are responsible for your newborn grandchild and raising it for 2-3 years as your own?

 

[dallas' 4 eva]

I mean technically speaking a child is the property of the parent until they are 18. So either they give it up for adoption or they get emancipated and get the fuck out.