Do You Ever Give Up On A Friend

[CracceR]

yup if i can't trust em i delete the number

but if that happens they were no friends anyway

 

[Chi Snow]

So last night I get a call from my homies gf. She told me my homie wanted her to call me and let me know he locked up the county. Cuz he lead the cops on a chase....smh.

Then his grandma call me and said he wanted her to call me and let me know his bail $384.....I think he wanted me to come bail him out. But I didn't really have the dough...I mean I did but I got other shit going on plus he a grown ass man. U do something u gotta face what comes with it right? Plus he a constant fck up... thinkin bout cutting this nigga off cuz I've known him since 2nd grade but he always been a goof off while I'm steady trying to progress in life....am I wrong for thinking of cuttin him off and not bailing him out?....

Giving up your friends make you lower than trash and filth. NEVER GIVE UP SHOULD BE YOUR NINDO!!!!!

Called TS an ole Naruto ass nigga

 

[ChillaDaKilla]

I ain't a nigga who really throws the word 'friend' around lightly. I know the difference between a friend and a nigga that I hang out with sometimes. I couldn't cut off a friend over them being exactly who they are and who they've always been. As far as the bail money, if you ain't got it...you ain't got it. Even if you DO got it and are just fed up with helping the nigga financially, nothing wrong with that.

^^^^^^this

If dude is a constant fuck up theres only so much you can do. Taking care of your house and responsibilities should come before taking care of another dude's issues

 

[jono]

No you not

Time don't make you friends, situations do

Trill shit. The key to being a good friend is not letting your friends get jammed up.

The people I consider true friends...would have to do some extreme shit to get cut off. But you can cut off friends.

 

[T. Sanford]

I lost a friend like that. They already owed me then they got jammed up. Their aunt called my phone to raise some bail money & told them "naw, they already owe me". That was the end of that chapter

 

[StillFaggyAF]

No you not

Time don't make you friends, situations do

#bars

 

[BobOblah]

Yeah I had a friend who I lived with, he got addicted to drugs and eventually started stealing from us so me and the other roommate had to kick him out. Even then, my beef with him wasn't that real, I knew he was fucked up and not himself. Then he broke in and stole... let's say... a lot from us. We can't prove it but we have reasons to believe he did it.

I haven't talk to him since. Sucks because we were good friends, but wtf I look like being cool with you when I'm 80% sure you dragged a safe out of my apartment. Only way would be if he got sober, came clean and apologized, but it's been years so that ain't happening.

 

[dallas' 4 eva]

Nigga in a matter of three years I am basically down to 2 friends because of shit like this. All my old potnas is in jail or on paper and they always fucking up. I can't be involved with that no more I have a career now and shit my life took a different path, there aint nothing wrong with that bruh you aint wrong.

 

[Max.]

It was alot of jealousy/hating from my friends...

We'd be at club for bitches n half of them would be talkn shit about other half...

Shit got old...i was on tough times and my best friend didnt even check up...even tho i got dude a job before..etc

I got nudes from his sister n tried to fuck his ex

She snitched on me...but he didnt wana fade with the god

 

[rebootx1]

Yeah Holla at his family explain your stance as trying to progress in your life maybe help with the bail a little give a check or money order make a copy of it and when u stop hanging out and he says u turned your back on him show the copy of where u helped to bail him out and keep it money, u know people try put u on front street like on facebook

 

[Swiffness!]

Threadstarter looking for outside confirmation of what he already know, homie ain't worth takin out a payday loan for lol.

Last friend I gave up on was white actually. He accused me of stealing his brother's Wi-Fi (the fuck???) and sent me a screenshot of a IP address as "proof". (Google "Dynamic IP" dumbass) Uh-huh. I was like yeaaaaaaaaah okay thats it, in retrospect him being a unemployed broke Jew with terrible financial instincts shoulda been the first warning sign summin was srsly wrong with his head

 

[2stepz_ahead]

you need to have a talk with that nigga when he get home...however he gets home...

sometimes....people do shit knowing someone will help them and cant stand to see them in a bind..

if they really cared....they would not get in that bind

 

[aneed123]

Love ur friends at their best and at their worst.... he will understand if u don't have it. There are lower ways to be his friend besides money. Be his emotional support while he locked up

 

[R.D.]

I'll add it took me having nothing left to give to learn how to say no (physically/emotionally)

Was literally sharing and giving my last.. just cause you seemingly in a better position than the next person don't mean you in position to help them

Like the big homie Boss said, you ain't obligated to help anybody who ain't your child/parent...don't learn that shit the hard way

Unless he going be able to pay you back in some way(now or down the line) tell him you ain't got it, none of it

 

[CeLLaR-DooR]

I gotta couple friends who, no matter the situation, they won't get a penny outta me. Other friends I'd give then all I could if they needed it, they wouldn't even need to ask.

Some of the latter guys I've known for less time than the formers. Adult life man its weak

 

[MrMinimalist]

Yes you give up on friends and family after you pull their coat. If they turn their life around, it's up to you to accept it or not.

 

[atribecalledgabi]

you need to have a talk with that nigga when he get home...however he gets home...

sometimes....people do shit knowing someone will help them and cant stand to see them in a bind..

if they really cared....they would not get in that bind

Had to explain this to my best friend's younger sister...she had this one friend that was always asking her for help....rides, money here and there, babysit her kid etc...I was just like yo you're not a bad friend for helping...that's what friends are for. But as your friend, she should know she can't keep asking you to bail her outa shit cuz that puts stress on YOU if you gotta constantly worry how she doing. Sometimes just maintaining and having your shit together is reciprocal enough.

 

[LEMZIMUS_RAMSEY]

Some people are fuckeries and big mistakes Magnet. I take my time to explain to them that it wont lead them anywhere good. At this Moment either they change or its goodbye.

You cant save evrybody. Like always bailing out friends in debt. Help them one time, teach them how to manage their Budget. At this Moment eithe they apply or its no more bailouts.

And I aplly that technique for whatever subject.

' Lemmy im fat'

'cut the sugar intake and do sime sports'

One month later. You noticed that the motherfucker still dont train and still eat sugary stuff. If he starts complaining about his weight, i answer ' i dgaf, lets talk about something else or im out'

 

[mryounggun]

you need to have a talk with that nigga when he get home...however he gets home...

sometimes....people do shit knowing someone will help them and cant stand to see them in a bind..

if they really cared....they would not get in that bind

Had to explain this to my best friend's younger sister...she had this one friend that was always asking her for help....rides, money here and there, babysit her kid etc...I was just like yo you're not a bad friend for helping...that's what friends are for. But as your friend, she should know she can't keep asking you to bail her outa shit cuz that puts stress on YOU if you gotta constantly worry how she doing. Sometimes just maintaining and having your shit together is reciprocal enough.

I be telling my girl this about her cousin. Told her last weekend when she was complaining that her cousin always spends her money recklessly and then needs to borrow some, like 'I mean, why the fuck WOULD she spend her money wisely? What incentive does she have to do that? She knows for a fact you'll give her money.'

 

[2stepz_ahead]

I'll add it took me having nothing left to give to learn how to say no (physically/emotionally)

Was literally sharing and giving my last.. just cause you seemingly in a better position than the next person don't mean you in position to help them

Like the big homie Boss said, you ain't obligated to help anybody who ain't your child/parent...don't learn that shit the hard way

Unless he going be able to pay you back in some way(now or down the line) tell him you ain't got it, none of it

i feel you on this....

alot of time i dont want to be paid back because i look at it like if i got it, we got it.

but when you do shit that will drain me or us.....i gotta begin to think of you as a liability.

we both cant be drug down because you dont want to act like you have nothing to lose.

i had to learn the hard way to cut niggas off