Did I just f*ck up?

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

If you gotta ask if f@@@@d up, you f@@@@d up.

 

[THIRDSUPREME]

Stack major bread. Don't let her know how much bread you gettin'. However, If you not serious bout her don't even do it.

 

[killshot]

This nigga said I and we

 

[killshot]

Get your own shit. The move in time frame when moving in with a chick who has kids is 3yrs. Don't fuck this up or I will

 

[CapitalB]

spendin a couple days wit a bitch is a whole lot different then spendin EVERY WAKING DAY wit a bitch..

the transition wont be easy..

u go find out who this person really is..

and when u do u may not like her.. if i was u id take the chance.. but id also be savin some money cause u never know..

 

[CeLLaR-DooR]

you just fucked up, i was gon ask you how old her boy is but it dont even matter

you just became stepdaddy

 

[dalyricalbandit]

 

[Meta_Conscious]

lol@somewhere selling dope...

 

[VIBE]

Aite, so me and my girl been together for about a year. I and we live in different cities, about an hour apart. She working on her masters and raising her son. I visit about 2 or 3 weekends a month, shit works for me perfectly. I drop in and she treat a nigga like a king and I just bounce back to my crib. So the other day I got a job offer in the city she lives in which is where I'm from. Alright long story short, I'm gonna be moving in with her and the lil nigga. Did I just fuck up? I've never lived with a woman before. Gimme some advice on what to expect fellas, ladies chime in too.

This is the IC, so of course everyone will tell you that you fucked up.

In my opinion, no you didn't.

You've been seeing her a year and you stay weekends every now and then with her. I think that has been a good ride to know whether or not you would like to live with her. You've also been around the kid, so he's used to you and you're used to him. Both of you seem to have a good head on your shoulders and have your shit together. It's not like she's lazy and is depending on you to do shit for her.

Of course living full time together is a big deal, you're both going to need to expect changes. Maybe you guys could sit down and talk about how you guys feel about this move.

As for the kid, I'm not expecting you to father the kid, but you can't use him as the excuse in the relationship. If you're moving in, you're taking the next step in line to be some sort of father figure. If she doesn't want you to be a "dad", then you know your boundaries. If she wouldn't mind it, then filling that spot isn't that hard. Let her do her motherly routine, you just be a "dad" by doing quality shit. She'd be impressed you moved in and are comfortable with it.

If you don't expect a long term relationship with her; then you might want to reconsider this whole thing and live on your own.

You guys would need to sit down and talk though, regardless of what's said in here.

Many will disagree, but it's the typical bullshit IC response.

That's my two cents.

 

[playmaker88]

Aite, so me and my girl been together for about a year. I and we live in different cities, about an hour apart. She working on her masters and raising her son. I visit about 2 or 3 weekends a month, shit works for me perfectly. I drop in and she treat a nigga like a king and I just bounce back to my crib. So the other day I got a job offer in the city she lives in which is where I'm from. Alright long story short, I'm gonna be moving in with her and the lil nigga. Did I just fuck up? I've never lived with a woman before. Gimme some advice on what to expect fellas, ladies chime in too.

This is the IC, so of course everyone will tell you that you fucked up.

In my opinion, no you didn't.

You've been seeing her a year and you stay weekends every now and then with her. I think that has been a good ride to know whether or not you would like to live with her. You've also been around the kid, so he's used to you and you're used to him. Both of you seem to have a good head on your shoulders and have your shit together. It's not like she's lazy and is depending on you to do shit for her.

Of course living full time together is a big deal, you're both going to need to expect changes. Maybe you guys could sit down and talk about how you guys feel about this move.

As for the kid, I'm not expecting you to father the kid, but you can't use him as the excuse in the relationship. If you're moving in, you're taking the next step in line to be some sort of father figure. If she doesn't want you to be a "dad", then you know your boundaries. If she wouldn't mind it, then filling that spot isn't that hard. Let her do her motherly routine, you just be a "dad" by doing quality shit. She'd be impressed you moved in and are comfortable with it.

If you don't expect a long term relationship with her; then you might want to reconsider this whole thing and live on your own.

You guys would need to sit down and talk though, regardless of what's said in here.

Many will disagree, but it's the typical bullshit IC response.

That's my two cents.

Ok now you can close thread..

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[Beta]

That lil nigga she got for a son hates your guts nigga no matter how nice or indifferent he acts lol But I think you already know that. But youll be iight like you said you just gotta build a relationship

 

[Ioniz3dSPIRITZ]

another question, where is the daddy of this child?

This nigga in N.Y. some where selling dope, bout to get put on em papers.

Smh. So she had a baby by low life and is looking for a step daddy for her child. You aren't her first choice my dude. Your just the last resort. Let her live the rest of her days as a single mother. Let her pay for making such a terrible mistake on who she decided to let drop a seed in her. Good brothers have to stop rewarding this behavior.

 

[WhoisDonG???]

Im just going to say this once u move in there no turning back. The many freedoms u share in your own space will become a shared space... No more making just one egg sandwich... U gotta make Egg sandwiches!!!

 

[Colin$mackabi$h]

Run she a single mother aghhhhhh!!!!

 

[MsSouthern]

Always put the seat down

Dont drink out of the milk carton or really any other carton/bottle in the fridge

And put your dirty clothes in the hamper not 2 feet away from it in the floor

 

[haute]

i really hope she isn't ratchet

 

[Rock_Well]

u kinda messed up, but not really.

if u can see yaself having this chick as a life partner then it aint that big of a deal. if not, don't even front on yaself or her like that because once u move in i guarantee u both yall most likely gonna end up trapped in some way, even if just emotionally.

 

[BarryHalls]

U dumb as fuck.

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

Did that nigga Vibe go into Dr. Phil mode??? Lol!

You right, this is the IC. You know all that logic blah blah you posted gets no play here. Fall in line bruh and trash that nigga like the rest of us. It's the IC way. Smh.

Spoiler

I still GOAT'd you b/c that was some real azzz s@@@ you posted. Where was yo azzz @ in 08' when I needed that kinda advice? Lol!

 

[A$AP_A$TON]

how long have you known her and how long yall been doin the long distance shit?

its one thing to smash a couple times a month but its completely different to manage child rearing and bills w a chick

hopefully while you was fuckin round wit yo fuck around you aint fuck around and get yoked

We been together almost a year, but I've known her since I was like 13. So I wasn't completely blind coming in to it. She do hold a nigga down though, she look out for me. It's just she from N.Y. and got that tough mentality at times. She got a good head on her shoulders. Ima do a update after the first month and let yall know how it worked out. One bright spot off the top though is I won't constantly have to have long ass senseless phone convo's any more. I hate talking on the phone. Unlimited txt ftw.