[/quote]Other than being weak in your flesh, I'll agree with that.[/quote]
From a technical standpoint, I can see your point but I still take that as an excuse. There's never a reason to cheat. If you want someone else, break up with me.
You're risking your marriage, family, and health. Shit, the health of both of us. Nah, no way. If you make a commitment, keep it or get out of it in a proper manner.
From a technical standpoint, I can see your point but I still take that as an excuse. There's never a reason to cheat. If you want someone else, break up with me.
You're risking your marriage, family, and health. Shit, the health of both of us. Nah, no way. If you make a commitment, keep it or get out of it in a proper manner.
**Disclaimer: Cheaters ain't shit and I don't condone cheating at all**
With that out the way, sometimes, you're in the awkward space where you ain't completely satisfied, but not to the point where it warrants leaving. And after talking to your s/o about it, nothing changes. I think that's another area where ppl get caught up. Trying to make up that other 20% assuming they got a good 80/20 relationship going on.
I ain't sayin it's right so don't shoot the messenger nigga
With that out the way, sometimes, you're in the awkward space where you ain't completely satisfied, but not to the point where it warrants leaving. And after talking to your s/o about it, nothing changes. I think that's another area where ppl get caught up. Trying to make up that other 20% assuming they got a good 80/20 relationship going on.
I ain't sayin it's right so don't shoot the messenger nigga
sweetheart93
New member
Bklyn's_OX_KING;6054651 said:
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support polygamy
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Not enough women for that.
BlackThor356
New member
for me to cheat on some affair shit, the bitch would have to be a 8.5, married, funny, and intelligent
guess who doesnt have affairs.....
guess who doesnt have affairs.....
bgoat;6055044 said:
As someone already stated, you never get that "fairy tale" feeling back after someone has gone astray. But when you really love someone its hard as hell to close the door in their face while they are out in the rain (no chi). She would call me almost every day just crying and shit and eventually i just reflected and realized that i hadn't exactly been the man i though i was.
Decided to give it another chance and so far its worked in my favor.
To keep it 100% though where i live the pickings of even average quality women are slim, i did some messing while separated and was highly disappointed. I ran around so much while i was in my late teens that single/nightlife shit just aint for me anymore.
deadeye;6047490 said:LysolJenkins;6047212 said:
so i start messing with the married chick when i was separated and she was on the fast track to replace her husband. i knew i wasnt in a place where i wanted to go from my wife to another steady chick and i TOLD her that but a woman with her mind made up aint hearing that shit.
im really just fuckin with the new chick because its boosting my ego. shes smart af, makes real good money, plays poker and loves football so for me its a outlet for some female attention without having to spend bread (she has her own ) or really worry about her blowing up my spot because shes married too and seems to have decent sensibility as a college grad with a corporate gig
first time we met for lunch it was a little awkward but it was cool. second time we met for lunch she shows up about 45 min late.i brought my little man as a cop out juuuuust in case shes trying to push things too far. shorty didnt care tho. i met her at the food court in the mall thinkin if we get spotted its easy to explain ..blahzay blah.
chick pulled this shit like " prolly kinda wierd but my homegirl is stayin at the so and so...would you mind coming up with me to pick up this box shes been holding. i just need to get it down to my car. " i say cool and go upstairs with her and theres nobody there. chick got a hotel room adjacent to the mall and the shit had two rooms in it. one had toys and snacks for my kid... the other had a bottle of remy vsop and some slow jams. the suite had a kitchenette so she baked desert and had a movie playing in the living room area. chick is like "i know you work overnight and you have your little man so often i thought i could give you a day off to chill. if you want we can hang out here but if you're up for it you can go do whatever you wanna do and ill watch your son...we can just link before you have to get him back to your wife tonight"
ive got a job where i work 24 hour shifts so somedays i get off and im exhausted at 630a but I was keeping my son at home with me on weekdays. the fact that she was considerate of me was appreciated because my wife often wasnt. nonetheless i couldnt concieve leaving my kid with a perpetual stranger so although its an obvious set up and i DONT want to smash its apparent she put a lot of work/thought into looking out for me so i chilled for a while.
after a couple of hours my kid is dozing off and she puts him in the other room. when she comes back shes got glasses poured and some clothes missing. without giving details that day opened pandoras box.
we hungout and traveled for the 3 or 4 months i was separated from my wife. she was gifting me clothes. trying to buy my son stuff ( i refused 90% of it because i didnt want her trying to hold shit over my head. didnt think she would but you never know) .
after about 8-9 weeks into messing around shes telling her husband hes got to gtfo. this nigga was REALLY a good dude. he was home watching two kids that werent his (her daughter and a daughter she adopted) while she went out of town with her "girls" twice a month. she had been doin that since before she met me and this dude was buying it. i guess he was willing to take that hit being that she was decent looking and made good money. her beef with him was that he wasnt spontaneous. he didnt cheat. didnt mismanage money. didnt abuse her or anything listed by some of you....she just felt he was boring and she wasnt intrigued by him any more. to me these are flags that shes not really capable of being with anyone long term. she would go home and tell him he aint shit and that he had 90 days to find living accomdations.
i tried to be a voice of reason because i saw the future ( me not being with her and her feeling like she shitted and fell back in it). told her that she didnt have to be with him but not to do him dirty because he was a good dude and she was already fucking around. she said she couldnt be soft about it or he wouldnt go.
fast forward and after 4 months of push and pull i reconcile with my wife. i told my side chick because i didnt want to deal with lies and sneaking and shit. shes telling me she left her husband for me and she feels dumb. she doesnt understand why im going home and feels i had to be home with my wife the whole time. im like naah,thats probably something you'll never understand ill just see you when i come thru the poker spot.
sure enough i see her in there and she got misc guys with her. whenever shes dolo shes talking shit about me. one night she got real fucked up drinking crown and me and another guy dropped her home because she lived close.
i know you gotta be saying 'why help her at ALL!?' tbh she wasnt a bad person overall. i just couldnt be with her.
other than that i kept my distance for a while UNTIL one day i got a call from a friend of hers. the friend says chick is in the hospital with heart problems and is going under the knife. she has a 30% chance of survival. kinda fucked me up. I called the hospital just to see how she is and she doesnt want to talk. a week or two later she gets home and calls saying that i aint shit and i was never a friend. im like "cool...you right. glad to know you're well... ill holla" she goes off about how shes gonna tell me wife and that i better tell her everything because shes going to come by for a meeting.
apparently chick was an election chair. she went on line and found my marriage cert to get my wifes govt name. got her number off my phone one time when we were out of town together (she swears the phone rang and she copied the number off the display. had to be something like that because i keep my shit locked). she had my wifes voting history, lic plate number , work phone + address.
my wife got letters on the door when i was at work over night. a note or two on her car. and phone calls that she ignored initially but theres only so much somebody can hear before they inquire about the source. i finally came clean because my mistress wasnt sounding stable. i also had to file an order of protection to keep my wife and son covered in case i wasnt around.
even after the order was issued she sends a child to my door while im at work. the child hands my wife a letter with a detailed account of any slander i ever stated about my marriage. my wife tells the cops and they investigate her on child endangerment because she may be involving her children in a domestic dispute.
things got unnecessarily nasty real fast.
the irony of it is all of this is i saw the side piece a year after all the bullshit and shes asking me to keep in touch. i started to walk off but i just got a new car and didnt want her seeing my ride. so i entertained her convo hoping she would be like "aight later".... she talked for 45 min then said "hey wheres your car?...did you get a new one?!" i never confirmed. i told her not to call me. not to text me....not to contact my wife. she said 'you still mad?' i said "nope. we just dont have anything to discuss." i strolled off into the darkness away from my car waiting for her to disappear.
a hour later she calls saying she just hit a family while trying to go home. she was drinking a lot that night too. only thing i could say was ' dont get too close to pd when they show up...you got alch on your breath'. .....it couldve been legit or a ploy to draw me in...ill never know
Biiiiiiitccchhh
Bussy_Getta
New member
Purr;8479941 said:deadeye;6047490 said:LysolJenkins;6047212 said:
so i start messing with the married chick when i was separated and she was on the fast track to replace her husband. i knew i wasnt in a place where i wanted to go from my wife to another steady chick and i TOLD her that but a woman with her mind made up aint hearing that shit.
im really just fuckin with the new chick because its boosting my ego. shes smart af, makes real good money, plays poker and loves football so for me its a outlet for some female attention without having to spend bread (she has her own ) or really worry about her blowing up my spot because shes married too and seems to have decent sensibility as a college grad with a corporate gig
first time we met for lunch it was a little awkward but it was cool. second time we met for lunch she shows up about 45 min late.i brought my little man as a cop out juuuuust in case shes trying to push things too far. shorty didnt care tho. i met her at the food court in the mall thinkin if we get spotted its easy to explain ..blahzay blah.
chick pulled this shit like " prolly kinda wierd but my homegirl is stayin at the so and so...would you mind coming up with me to pick up this box shes been holding. i just need to get it down to my car. " i say cool and go upstairs with her and theres nobody there. chick got a hotel room adjacent to the mall and the shit had two rooms in it. one had toys and snacks for my kid... the other had a bottle of remy vsop and some slow jams. the suite had a kitchenette so she baked desert and had a movie playing in the living room area. chick is like "i know you work overnight and you have your little man so often i thought i could give you a day off to chill. if you want we can hang out here but if you're up for it you can go do whatever you wanna do and ill watch your son...we can just link before you have to get him back to your wife tonight"
ive got a job where i work 24 hour shifts so somedays i get off and im exhausted at 630a but I was keeping my son at home with me on weekdays. the fact that she was considerate of me was appreciated because my wife often wasnt. nonetheless i couldnt concieve leaving my kid with a perpetual stranger so although its an obvious set up and i DONT want to smash its apparent she put a lot of work/thought into looking out for me so i chilled for a while.
after a couple of hours my kid is dozing off and she puts him in the other room. when she comes back shes got glasses poured and some clothes missing. without giving details that day opened pandoras box.
we hungout and traveled for the 3 or 4 months i was separated from my wife. she was gifting me clothes. trying to buy my son stuff ( i refused 90% of it because i didnt want her trying to hold shit over my head. didnt think she would but you never know) .
after about 8-9 weeks into messing around shes telling her husband hes got to gtfo. this nigga was REALLY a good dude. he was home watching two kids that werent his (her daughter and a daughter she adopted) while she went out of town with her "girls" twice a month. she had been doin that since before she met me and this dude was buying it. i guess he was willing to take that hit being that she was decent looking and made good money. her beef with him was that he wasnt spontaneous. he didnt cheat. didnt mismanage money. didnt abuse her or anything listed by some of you....she just felt he was boring and she wasnt intrigued by him any more. to me these are flags that shes not really capable of being with anyone long term. she would go home and tell him he aint shit and that he had 90 days to find living accomdations.
i tried to be a voice of reason because i saw the future ( me not being with her and her feeling like she shitted and fell back in it). told her that she didnt have to be with him but not to do him dirty because he was a good dude and she was already fucking around. she said she couldnt be soft about it or he wouldnt go.
fast forward and after 4 months of push and pull i reconcile with my wife. i told my side chick because i didnt want to deal with lies and sneaking and shit. shes telling me she left her husband for me and she feels dumb. she doesnt understand why im going home and feels i had to be home with my wife the whole time. im like naah,thats probably something you'll never understand ill just see you when i come thru the poker spot.
sure enough i see her in there and she got misc guys with her. whenever shes dolo shes talking shit about me. one night she got real fucked up drinking crown and me and another guy dropped her home because she lived close.
i know you gotta be saying 'why help her at ALL!?' tbh she wasnt a bad person overall. i just couldnt be with her.
other than that i kept my distance for a while UNTIL one day i got a call from a friend of hers. the friend says chick is in the hospital with heart problems and is going under the knife. she has a 30% chance of survival. kinda fucked me up. I called the hospital just to see how she is and she doesnt want to talk. a week or two later she gets home and calls saying that i aint shit and i was never a friend. im like "cool...you right. glad to know you're well... ill holla" she goes off about how shes gonna tell me wife and that i better tell her everything because shes going to come by for a meeting.
apparently chick was an election chair. she went on line and found my marriage cert to get my wifes govt name. got her number off my phone one time when we were out of town together (she swears the phone rang and she copied the number off the display. had to be something like that because i keep my shit locked). she had my wifes voting history, lic plate number , work phone + address.
my wife got letters on the door when i was at work over night. a note or two on her car. and phone calls that she ignored initially but theres only so much somebody can hear before they inquire about the source. i finally came clean because my mistress wasnt sounding stable. i also had to file an order of protection to keep my wife and son covered in case i wasnt around.
even after the order was issued she sends a child to my door while im at work. the child hands my wife a letter with a detailed account of any slander i ever stated about my marriage. my wife tells the cops and they investigate her on child endangerment because she may be involving her children in a domestic dispute.
things got unnecessarily nasty real fast.
the irony of it is all of this is i saw the side piece a year after all the bullshit and shes asking me to keep in touch. i started to walk off but i just got a new car and didnt want her seeing my ride. so i entertained her convo hoping she would be like "aight later".... she talked for 45 min then said "hey wheres your car?...did you get a new one?!" i never confirmed. i told her not to call me. not to text me....not to contact my wife. she said 'you still mad?' i said "nope. we just dont have anything to discuss." i strolled off into the darkness away from my car waiting for her to disappear.
a hour later she calls saying she just hit a family while trying to go home. she was drinking a lot that night too. only thing i could say was ' dont get too close to pd when they show up...you got alch on your breath'. .....it couldve been legit or a ploy to draw me in...ill never know
Biiiiiiitccchhh
Who ever he talkin bout is one weird ass thirsty ass bitch
mryounggun
New member
Bro, you took your son to go meet your jumpoff. Let that sink in.
Peace.
Peace.
Bussy_Getta
New member
Cain;8480169 said:Purr;8479941 said:deadeye;6047490 said:LysolJenkins;6047212 said:
so i start messing with the married chick when i was separated and she was on the fast track to replace her husband. i knew i wasnt in a place where i wanted to go from my wife to another steady chick and i TOLD her that but a woman with her mind made up aint hearing that shit.
im really just fuckin with the new chick because its boosting my ego. shes smart af, makes real good money, plays poker and loves football so for me its a outlet for some female attention without having to spend bread (she has her own ) or really worry about her blowing up my spot because shes married too and seems to have decent sensibility as a college grad with a corporate gig
first time we met for lunch it was a little awkward but it was cool. second time we met for lunch she shows up about 45 min late.i brought my little man as a cop out juuuuust in case shes trying to push things too far. shorty didnt care tho. i met her at the food court in the mall thinkin if we get spotted its easy to explain ..blahzay blah.
chick pulled this shit like " prolly kinda wierd but my homegirl is stayin at the so and so...would you mind coming up with me to pick up this box shes been holding. i just need to get it down to my car. " i say cool and go upstairs with her and theres nobody there. chick got a hotel room adjacent to the mall and the shit had two rooms in it. one had toys and snacks for my kid... the other had a bottle of remy vsop and some slow jams. the suite had a kitchenette so she baked desert and had a movie playing in the living room area. chick is like "i know you work overnight and you have your little man so often i thought i could give you a day off to chill. if you want we can hang out here but if you're up for it you can go do whatever you wanna do and ill watch your son...we can just link before you have to get him back to your wife tonight"
ive got a job where i work 24 hour shifts so somedays i get off and im exhausted at 630a but I was keeping my son at home with me on weekdays. the fact that she was considerate of me was appreciated because my wife often wasnt. nonetheless i couldnt concieve leaving my kid with a perpetual stranger so although its an obvious set up and i DONT want to smash its apparent she put a lot of work/thought into looking out for me so i chilled for a while.
after a couple of hours my kid is dozing off and she puts him in the other room. when she comes back shes got glasses poured and some clothes missing. without giving details that day opened pandoras box.
we hungout and traveled for the 3 or 4 months i was separated from my wife. she was gifting me clothes. trying to buy my son stuff ( i refused 90% of it because i didnt want her trying to hold shit over my head. didnt think she would but you never know) .
after about 8-9 weeks into messing around shes telling her husband hes got to gtfo. this nigga was REALLY a good dude. he was home watching two kids that werent his (her daughter and a daughter she adopted) while she went out of town with her "girls" twice a month. she had been doin that since before she met me and this dude was buying it. i guess he was willing to take that hit being that she was decent looking and made good money. her beef with him was that he wasnt spontaneous. he didnt cheat. didnt mismanage money. didnt abuse her or anything listed by some of you....she just felt he was boring and she wasnt intrigued by him any more. to me these are flags that shes not really capable of being with anyone long term. she would go home and tell him he aint shit and that he had 90 days to find living accomdations.
i tried to be a voice of reason because i saw the future ( me not being with her and her feeling like she shitted and fell back in it). told her that she didnt have to be with him but not to do him dirty because he was a good dude and she was already fucking around. she said she couldnt be soft about it or he wouldnt go.
fast forward and after 4 months of push and pull i reconcile with my wife. i told my side chick because i didnt want to deal with lies and sneaking and shit. shes telling me she left her husband for me and she feels dumb. she doesnt understand why im going home and feels i had to be home with my wife the whole time. im like naah,thats probably something you'll never understand ill just see you when i come thru the poker spot.
sure enough i see her in there and she got misc guys with her. whenever shes dolo shes talking shit about me. one night she got real fucked up drinking crown and me and another guy dropped her home because she lived close.
i know you gotta be saying 'why help her at ALL!?' tbh she wasnt a bad person overall. i just couldnt be with her.
other than that i kept my distance for a while UNTIL one day i got a call from a friend of hers. the friend says chick is in the hospital with heart problems and is going under the knife. she has a 30% chance of survival. kinda fucked me up. I called the hospital just to see how she is and she doesnt want to talk. a week or two later she gets home and calls saying that i aint shit and i was never a friend. im like "cool...you right. glad to know you're well... ill holla" she goes off about how shes gonna tell me wife and that i better tell her everything because shes going to come by for a meeting.
apparently chick was an election chair. she went on line and found my marriage cert to get my wifes govt name. got her number off my phone one time when we were out of town together (she swears the phone rang and she copied the number off the display. had to be something like that because i keep my shit locked). she had my wifes voting history, lic plate number , work phone + address.
my wife got letters on the door when i was at work over night. a note or two on her car. and phone calls that she ignored initially but theres only so much somebody can hear before they inquire about the source. i finally came clean because my mistress wasnt sounding stable. i also had to file an order of protection to keep my wife and son covered in case i wasnt around.
even after the order was issued she sends a child to my door while im at work. the child hands my wife a letter with a detailed account of any slander i ever stated about my marriage. my wife tells the cops and they investigate her on child endangerment because she may be involving her children in a domestic dispute.
things got unnecessarily nasty real fast.
the irony of it is all of this is i saw the side piece a year after all the bullshit and shes asking me to keep in touch. i started to walk off but i just got a new car and didnt want her seeing my ride. so i entertained her convo hoping she would be like "aight later".... she talked for 45 min then said "hey wheres your car?...did you get a new one?!" i never confirmed. i told her not to call me. not to text me....not to contact my wife. she said 'you still mad?' i said "nope. we just dont have anything to discuss." i strolled off into the darkness away from my car waiting for her to disappear.
a hour later she calls saying she just hit a family while trying to go home. she was drinking a lot that night too. only thing i could say was ' dont get too close to pd when they show up...you got alch on your breath'. .....it couldve been legit or a ploy to draw me in...ill never know
Biiiiiiitccchhh
Pico;8479960 said:
Isn't that what's her name tho...........
WHOOOOO?!??
the dukester
New member
Not cheating on your wife is like eating the same chicken........Every day.
If you're girlfriend/wife was fried chicken, you would eventually get tired of it no matter how much you like/love it.
Other females represent "different flavors" with unique (personalities) flavors and "tastes".
Sometimes a man wants to try different chicken. Honey barbecue (yella-bone wit big tiddys) Teriyaki chicken (Lil Asian joint) Curry chicken (Jamaican shorty with the bomb head.)
The point is, variety is the spice of life. And nothing during our relatively short time on this planet will impede the howls of our biological urge to mate with every big booty broad that will let us.
If you're girlfriend/wife was fried chicken, you would eventually get tired of it no matter how much you like/love it.
Other females represent "different flavors" with unique (personalities) flavors and "tastes".
Sometimes a man wants to try different chicken. Honey barbecue (yella-bone wit big tiddys) Teriyaki chicken (Lil Asian joint) Curry chicken (Jamaican shorty with the bomb head.)
The point is, variety is the spice of life. And nothing during our relatively short time on this planet will impede the howls of our biological urge to mate with every big booty broad that will let us.
the dukester;8480210 said:
Interesting analogy.
From my perspective, I see it this way ...
1) As @DWO mentioned, from a logical standpoint the risk/reward has never netted out in my mind. Even if we put morals aside, I could never get passed that.
2) I think the uniquenchable thirst for men to have multiple partners is a cop out... Life is full of temptation
And who said sex with one woman has to be boring?
Let's use your analogy...
No one said you have to prepare the "meal" the same way each time. You can switch up the seasoning to fit your mood. You can get creative and explore new ways to "cook" that leave both parties satisfied.
Sometimes you'll want a quick bite, sometimes you need something more thought out and substantial.
If both parties communicate what they have a taste for, you'd be surprised just how versatile "chicken" can be.
What doesn't get talked about a lot is the responsibility of both partners to be honest and upfront with themselves regarding their palette, appetite, and desires ... If you crave breast meat or thighs etc; take that into consideration before committing to someone.
It's also important to remember that "Eating" is only one of your basic human needs. Others include love/companionship, security etc.
Not to mention potential desires you may have, including procreation and the fulfillment of parenthood, a lifelong bond etc
From a logical standpoint it is silly to forgoe multiple needs/desires for the temporary fulfillment of one.
Falling victim to temptation is one thing, but logically choosing and justifying this line of thinking is short sighted IMO.
All that being said, it's not always easy.
But it's definitely worth it.
