cheating while married...let's talk.

[Kat]

Okay Bill Clinton..you couldn't have 'got the throat' from a bitch that wasn't her best friend?

I'm a believer that people can learn as they live so I'll let you make it.

I just wish males were as understanding when it comes to youthful indiscretions.

 

[Meta_Conscious]

Boog can stfu...I guess just telling your wife how you were feeling was too much or nah?

It ain't even about your trifling ass behavior honestly, it's about you constant comments while hiding this little tidbit of info.

smh..this is exactly why I take the judgement with a grain of salt.

Ain't nobody perfect.

1. I told her the deal at each step... She chose to ignore me.

2. I didn't hide shit

3. I ain't never claim to b perfect. Me divulging this info here should b a testament to that. Just cause I've done wack shit doesn't mean I or anyone shouldn't b called out...

 

[MsSouthern]

I cheated on my bm a few months after we got married. This dumb bitch waits until the night we got married, to tell me that she invited her fine best friend to come stay with us until she found a new place.

Long story short, bm started fallin off helluva "workin late", not cookin, no sexy time, none of that. So her girl peeped game. Next thing you know, I'm comin home to home cooked meals, shorty askin how my days was and shit.

I almost knocked her off one night, we was watching tv and she decided to play hide the remote. She put the remote in her bra and I said fuck this lemme take my ass to bed. I straight went in my room and locked the door.

After she moved out, she hit me up at work (I don't how she even got my work number). One thing led to another and I got a couple throat sessions outta her. So I guess I only cheated a little.

Yeah, I know I wasn't shit for that.

cheated a little????

If that's what helps you sleep at night

 

[gorilla]

OK so, young women can be naive and taken advantage of by men. but men can't get taken advantage of by women?

Yeah it was stupid and yeah I coulda found someone else. But she was right there, it was the moment.

 

[gorilla]

Not that cheating is right by any means. I understand that now. But why the double standard?

When men cheat they ain't shit

When women cheat it's their man's fault

 

[MsSouthern]

Not that cheating is right by any means. I understand that now. But why the double standard?

When men cheat they ain't shit

When women cheat it's their man's fault

I don't think that way ... cheating is cheating

the person in the committed relationship is the one at fault... be it man or woman

@stopitfive

Just cause someone is honest about their feelings or doesn't hide stuff ... doesn't mean they should get a pass to cheat.

 

[Meta_Conscious]

Not that cheating is right by any means. I understand that now. But why the double standard?

When men cheat they ain't shit

When women cheat it's their man's fault

I don't think that way ... cheating is cheating

the person in the committed relationship is the one at fault... be it man or woman

@stopitfive

Just cause someone is honest about their feelings or doesn't hide stuff ... doesn't mean they should get a pass to cheat.

No doubt... It ain't about a pass... I could've did better... I'm not proud of that behavior...

I was a live wire... I lacked the tools to fix what was broken at the time... I'm a big boy now...

 

[gorilla]

Not that cheating is right by any means. I understand that now. But why the double standard?

When men cheat they ain't shit

When women cheat it's their man's fault

I don't think that way ... cheating is cheating

the person in the committed relationship is the one at fault... be it man or woman

That's true. I think it's all about maturing. A lotta people say once a cheater always a cheater but that an't true. I was young, immature and didn't have the restraint to turn away pussy. In some ways it helped mold me into the man I am now. I don't have the urges to cheat on my wife now after I did all that dirt in the past.

 

[bignorm]

Boog can stfu...I guess just telling your wife how you were feeling was too much or nah?

It ain't even about your trifling ass behavior honestly, it's about you constant comments while hiding this little tidbit of info.

smh..this is exactly why I take the judgement with a grain of salt.

Ain't nobody perfect.

I agree with you Kat, but why do women always assume that if a nigga tells his woman the shit that's wrong,

that that woman will change or work on the problem?

A lot of times, when people male or female step out, its because the problems have been discussed and the other person remains on there bullshit.

Lets make an assumption that if two peoples relationship has made it to marriage, that they have and are able to discuss problems.

This thought that men are like "oh, she aint cook no dinner? Imma cheat" is wrong.

Dudes say it in hints, implied comments and outright..... many times before they do that.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Damn this is a real ass thread, bravo IC yall keeping t grown and sexy in here.

That "keeping yourself out of compromising situations" is the best advice you can give to someone struggling with fidelity...because trust we are animals when its all said and done and youd ve surprised how fast that social conditioning goes out the window and that animal takes over.

I take pride in my discipline...there are just some things i wont do and cheating is one of them.

My wife cheated in the second year of our marriage, we seperated for like 2 months and i wanted out but after some reflecting and seeing how she was genuinely sorry i gave it another chance.

We just made 5 years and im still learning every day gonna just stick it out for now. Things are amazing.

Keep it classy IC im proud of yall.

thing is...niggaz cheat an be on some"i aint sorry shit, you deserved it"

people dont know how to apologize no more...at least she did

and at least you gave her a second chance.

 

[Kat]

Not that cheating is right by any means. I understand that now. But why the double standard?

When men cheat they ain't shit

When women cheat it's their man's fault

Who said that? Or is that your own personal perception?

People cheat because though they may love their partner and enjoy their life for the most part, they're feeling unfulfilled in some way.

I get how it can happen on both sides. I'm just curious as to why men are so easily able to rationalize their own behavior, but let a woman behave in the same manner and the shit is unforgiveable, EVEN if deep down the man knows he wasn't on his job.

Why?

 

[gorilla]

Not that cheating is right by any means. I understand that now. But why the double standard?

When men cheat they ain't shit

When women cheat it's their man's fault

Who said that? Or is that your own personal perception?

People cheat because though they may love their partner and enjoy their life for the most part, they're feeling unfulfilled in some way.

I get how it can happen on both sides. I'm just curious as to why men are so easily able to rationalize their own behavior, but let a woman behave in the same manner and the shit is unforgiveable, EVEN if deep down the man knows he wasn't on his job.

Why?

Yeah that's my perception based on how many times I've heard it. Even tho most women probably won't admit to it, a lot of them do fall on that double standard.

It's easy for us to rationalize our behavior cuz for us, we ain't emotionally tied up in it. We cheat and it's just some pussy to us

Now women, being the emotional beings that yall are, are more inclined to cheat with your hearts first followed by your body. Our egos for the most part make it very hard to get over sharing a girl we love especially thinking about she might be emotionally attached to ol boy.

 

[Kat]

Of course we are, but can you not be neglected emotionally?

Can a man fall off providing for his woman emotionally? Lack the passion that may have woo'd her in the first place? Take for granted the importance of that and neglect tending to his woman?

Like I said, people cheat cause they're feeling unfulfilled. Not getting a hot dinner and some freaky sex is not the only way a person can be neglected.

 

[gorilla]

Yes there is such a thing as being unfulfilled emotionally.

I'm a big proponent of people maintaining the shit they did when they first met the person. People like to start taking extended lunches in the the relationship after the interview process is over

 

[bgoat]

Damn this is a real ass thread, bravo IC yall keeping t grown and sexy in here.

That "keeping yourself out of compromising situations" is the best advice you can give to someone struggling with fidelity...because trust we are animals when its all said and done and youd ve surprised how fast that social conditioning goes out the window and that animal takes over.

I take pride in my discipline...there are just some things i wont do and cheating is one of them.

My wife cheated in the second year of our marriage, we seperated for like 2 months and i wanted out but after some reflecting and seeing how she was genuinely sorry i gave it another chance.

We just made 5 years and im still learning every day gonna just stick it out for now. Things are amazing.

Keep it classy IC im proud of yall.

Not sure if it's all ready been asked, but how do you get that trust back? Is it and will it be the same, trust?

 

[gorilla]

Damn this is a real ass thread, bravo IC yall keeping t grown and sexy in here.

That "keeping yourself out of compromising situations" is the best advice you can give to someone struggling with fidelity...because trust we are animals when its all said and done and youd ve surprised how fast that social conditioning goes out the window and that animal takes over.

I take pride in my discipline...there are just some things i wont do and cheating is one of them.

My wife cheated in the second year of our marriage, we seperated for like 2 months and i wanted out but after some reflecting and seeing how she was genuinely sorry i gave it another chance.

We just made 5 years and im still learning every day gonna just stick it out for now. Things are amazing.

Keep it classy IC im proud of yall.

Not sure if it's all ready been asked, but how do you get that trust back? Is it and will it be the same, trust?

No doubt bruh

Me, once I can't trust my woman, it's no point in continuing.

 

[MARIO_DRO]

SOMETIMES, I GET EMOTIONAL AND JUST WANT TO BE HELD AT NIGHT, BUT MY WIFE WONT DO IT

 

[MsSouthern]

SOMETIMES, I GET EMOTIONAL AND JUST WANT TO BE HELD AT NIGHT, BUT MY WIFE WONT DO IT

 

[bgoat]

Damn this is a real ass thread, bravo IC yall keeping t grown and sexy in here.

That "keeping yourself out of compromising situations" is the best advice you can give to someone struggling with fidelity...because trust we are animals when its all said and done and youd ve surprised how fast that social conditioning goes out the window and that animal takes over.

I take pride in my discipline...there are just some things i wont do and cheating is one of them.

My wife cheated in the second year of our marriage, we seperated for like 2 months and i wanted out but after some reflecting and seeing how she was genuinely sorry i gave it another chance.

We just made 5 years and im still learning every day gonna just stick it out for now. Things are amazing.

Keep it classy IC im proud of yall.

Not sure if it's all ready been asked, but how do you get that trust back? Is it and will it be the same, trust?

No doubt bruh

Me, once I can't trust my woman, it's no point in continuing.

I know many that have done it, but I just don't do well with untrustworthy muthafuckas.

 

[emrulz]

Can we at least acknowledge the difference between wanting someone else and actually cheating? I keep reading about "feeling unfulfilled" and "lacking something" but those are reasons why someone is feeling a certain way. Actually going and acting on that mentality is a whole different ballgame and there is no excuse for the actual cheating.