cheating while married...let's talk.

[NYETOPn]

Damn.

Is it that difficult to notice but not touch? No reason to let an itch, which could be taken care of in different ways besides cheating, ruin a good marriage.

 

[KnowReasonForPeace]

to say you won't cheat or being tempted is highly unlikely shows how much of a liar people really are.shit happens its about how strong the foundation of the relationship is to withstand the bullshit whether it be cheating or other issues.some of you motherfuckers fronting.

i guess me & norm are the only ones willing to give the bitter and the sweet on this. a lot of people coming thru to throw darts but theyre not really trying to volunteer those life experiences

Damn.

Is it that difficult to notice but not touch? No reason to let an itch, which could be taken care of in different ways besides cheating, ruin a good marriage.

its not difficult at all if youve got your mind in the right place. what you do when your spouse gives you that deep seated "fuck you" tho is a completely different animal

i don't think i fired shots at you

 

[Tommy_Milfhitta]

 

[2stepz_ahead]

i cant lie...passed up lot of ass....but i got weak a time or two before we were married

im not going to say i felt guilty afterwards on some "i learned my lesson" type shit

but i felt i shouldnt have allowed myself to be put in the position to consider it.

my wife an i been thru alot. i had to learn to not be so unforgiving and she had to grow up.

im not proud of mistakes..

but i will say...don't allow you mate to go into the outside world mad too many times.

an if they travel for a living....keep your attitude in check. if you flip on them while they are away...

you leave the door wide i open for fumiko or annabella or Regina or mariela

 

[s3nterocks]

Going on 4 years married this week, haven't cheated yet, but there have def been times where a nigga was tempted. Shit there were two instances where I was ready to walk away from it all were it not for my avy. The fear of not seeing my done every day and him missing me was enough to try to work shit out. People who think its not easy to fuck up are either with the most compatible mate or they really haven't been in a long term relationship.

 

[Bussy_Getta]

Will this thread be filled with feelings and violence or violence and feelings

who knows, G

i never lied to kick it. i guess i messed up expecting intelligent dialogue about the truth

Foh. You have me feelings for speaking my truth

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Going on 4 years married this week, haven't cheated yet, but there have def been times where a nigga was tempted. Shit there were two instances where I was ready to walk away from it all were it not for my avy. The fear of not seeing my done every day and him missing me was enough to try to work shit out. People who think its not easy to fuck up are either with the most compatible mate or they really haven't been in a long term relationship.

man...if your situation is that bad...dont let the kids see you unhappy. they will think unhappy is ok. leave an take ya chick to court for custody.

or maybe i just read it wrong....

matter of fact someone needs to start a thread about what you just said.

alot of niggaz on this site claim to not put up with bullshit...an how they leave chicks for acting up or clown other niggaz for trying to work shit out.

what are these niggas learning about themselves an how they plan on having anything successful if they bounce at the first sign of trouble

 

[s3nterocks]

Going on 4 years married this week, haven't cheated yet, but there have def been times where a nigga was tempted. Shit there were two instances where I was ready to walk away from it all were it not for my avy. The fear of not seeing my done every day and him missing me was enough to try to work shit out. People who think its not easy to fuck up are either with the most compatible mate or they really haven't been in a long term relationship.

man...if your situation is that bad...dont let the kids see you unhappy. they will think unhappy is ok. leave an take ya chick to court for custody.

or maybe i just read it wrong....

matter of fact someone needs to start a thread about what you just said.

alot of niggaz on this site claim to not put up with bullshit...an how they leave chicks for acting up or clown other niggaz for trying to work shit out.

what are these niggas learning about themselves an how they plan on having anything successful if they bounce at the first sign of trouble

Not that it IS that bad, but shit had rocky moments. Neither of us were communicating, and resentment was built until a big fight was drawn out. Lil man is only two, he don't know what's going on, and the fights usually occurred at night or that reason. Like Kai said, it all boils down to lack of communication, and in my experience that was what needed to be changed we did. Shit isn't perfect but we good.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Going on 4 years married this week, haven't cheated yet, but there have def been times where a nigga was tempted. Shit there were two instances where I was ready to walk away from it all were it not for my avy. The fear of not seeing my done every day and him missing me was enough to try to work shit out. People who think its not easy to fuck up are either with the most compatible mate or they really haven't been in a long term relationship.

man...if your situation is that bad...dont let the kids see you unhappy. they will think unhappy is ok. leave an take ya chick to court for custody.

or maybe i just read it wrong....

matter of fact someone needs to start a thread about what you just said.

alot of niggaz on this site claim to not put up with bullshit...an how they leave chicks for acting up or clown other niggaz for trying to work shit out.

what are these niggas learning about themselves an how they plan on having anything successful if they bounce at the first sign of trouble

Not that it IS that bad, but shit had rocky moments. Neither of us were communicating, and resentment was built until a big fight was drawn out. Lil man is only two, he don't know what's going on, and the fights usually occurred at night or that reason. Like Kai said, it all boils down to lack of communication, and in my experience that was what needed to be changed we did. Shit isn't perfect but we good.

thats good...keep up the good work

 

[Earl Lee Risor]

I know we're all conflicted, and nobody perfect. But if I take a vow to never snitch(and i'll never, ever snitch on nobody), and cheat on my girl, that would mean i'm more loyal to the streets, and my niggas than the nurturer of my children, my wife. Negative. Bitches be lonely, a bitch that's low enough to try you and know you married needs to be kept at arms length anyway. A lonely desperate bitch is a dangerous one. I look at niggas differently when they cheat and run around chasin hoes knowin they got love at home, raises a red flag, nigga couldn't get me to serve him soap powder when I was swerved out, those types only give a fuck about themselves, and will leave you left, or tell on you under pressure. I know that don't apply to most of ya'll, but I was just givin a different angle on the subject.

 

[leftcoastkev]

I know we're all conflicted

Nah, that's for them ppl who walk around with guilty consciouses. I know full damn well how I get down. Whether I say it out my mouth or keep it to myself.

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

C'mon brotha. You can't leave us wit a cliffhanger. Speak on it.

++++++PROBABLE SELF ETHER ON DECK++++++

so i start messing with the married chick when i was separated and she was on the fast track to replace her husband. i knew i wasnt in a place where i wanted to go from my wife to another steady chick and i TOLD her that but a woman with her mind made up aint hearing that shit.

im really just fuckin with the new chick because its boosting my ego. shes smart af, makes real good money, plays poker and loves football so for me its a outlet for some female attention without having to spend bread (she has her own ) or really worry about her blowing up my spot because shes married too and seems to have decent sensibility as a college grad with a corporate gig

first time we met for lunch it was a little awkward but it was cool. second time we met for lunch she shows up about 45 min late.i brought my little man as a cop out juuuuust in case shes trying to push things too far. shorty didnt care tho. i met her at the food court in the mall thinkin if we get spotted its easy to explain ..blahzay blah.

chick pulled this shit like " prolly kinda wierd but my homegirl is stayin at the so and so...would you mind coming up with me to pick up this box shes been holding. i just need to get it down to my car. " i say cool and go upstairs with her and theres nobody there. chick got a hotel room adjacent to the mall and the shit had two rooms in it. one had toys and snacks for my kid... the other had a bottle of remy vsop and some slow jams. the suite had a kitchenette so she baked desert and had a movie playing in the living room area. chick is like "i know you work overnight and you have your little man so often i thought i could give you a day off to chill. if you want we can hang out here but if you're up for it you can go do whatever you wanna do and ill watch your son...we can just link before you have to get him back to your wife tonight"

ive got a job where i work 24 hour shifts so somedays i get off and im exhausted at 630a but I was keeping my son at home with me on weekdays. the fact that she was considerate of me was appreciated because my wife often wasnt. nonetheless i couldnt concieve leaving my kid with a perpetual stranger so although its an obvious set up and i DONT want to smash its apparent she put a lot of work/thought into looking out for me so i chilled for a while.

after a couple of hours my kid is dozing off and she puts him in the other room. when she comes back shes got glasses poured and some clothes missing. without giving details that day opened pandoras box.

we hungout and traveled for the 3 or 4 months i was separated from my wife. she was gifting me clothes. trying to buy my son stuff ( i refused 90% of it because i didnt want her trying to hold shit over my head. didnt think she would but you never know) .

after about 8-9 weeks into messing around shes telling her husband hes got to gtfo. this nigga was REALLY a good dude. he was home watching two kids that werent his (her daughter and a daughter she adopted) while she went out of town with her "girls" twice a month. she had been doin that since before she met me and this dude was buying it. i guess he was willing to take that hit being that she was decent looking and made good money. her beef with him was that he wasnt spontaneous. he didnt cheat. didnt mismanage money. didnt abuse her or anything listed by some of you....she just felt he was boring and she wasnt intrigued by him any more. to me these are flags that shes not really capable of being with anyone long term. she would go home and tell him he aint shit and that he had 90 days to find living accomdations.

i tried to be a voice of reason because i saw the future ( me not being with her and her feeling like she shitted and fell back in it). told her that she didnt have to be with him but not to do him dirty because he was a good dude and she was already fucking around. she said she couldnt be soft about it or he wouldnt go.

fast forward and after 4 months of push and pull i reconcile with my wife. i told my side chick because i didnt want to deal with lies and sneaking and shit. shes telling me she left her husband for me and she feels dumb. she doesnt understand why im going home and feels i had to be home with my wife the whole time. im like naah,thats probably something you'll never understand ill just see you when i come thru the poker spot.

sure enough i see her in there and she got misc guys with her. whenever shes dolo shes talking shit about me. one night she got real fucked up drinking crown and me and another guy dropped her home because she lived close.

i know you gotta be saying 'why help her at ALL!?' tbh she wasnt a bad person overall. i just couldnt be with her.

other than that i kept my distance for a while UNTIL one day i got a call from a friend of hers. the friend says chick is in the hospital with heart problems and is going under the knife. she has a 30% chance of survival. kinda fucked me up. I called the hospital just to see how she is and she doesnt want to talk. a week or two later she gets home and calls saying that i aint shit and i was never a friend. im like "cool...you right. glad to know you're well... ill holla" she goes off about how shes gonna tell me wife and that i better tell her everything because shes going to come by for a meeting.

apparently chick was an election chair. she went on line and found my marriage cert to get my wifes govt name. got her number off my phone one time when we were out of town together (she swears the phone rang and she copied the number off the display. had to be something like that because i keep my shit locked). she had my wifes voting history, lic plate number , work phone + address.

my wife got letters on the door when i was at work over night. a note or two on her car. and phone calls that she ignored initially but theres only so much somebody can hear before they inquire about the source. i finally came clean because my mistress wasnt sounding stable. i also had to file an order of protection to keep my wife and son covered in case i wasnt around.

even after the order was issued she sends a child to my door while im at work. the child hands my wife a letter with a detailed account of any slander i ever stated about my marriage. my wife tells the cops and they investigate her on child endangerment because she may be involving her children in a domestic dispute.

things got unnecessarily nasty real fast.

the irony of it is all of this is i saw the side piece a year after all the bullshit and shes asking me to keep in touch. i started to walk off but i just got a new car and didnt want her seeing my ride. so i entertained her convo hoping she would be like "aight later".... she talked for 45 min then said "hey wheres your car?...did you get a new one?!" i never confirmed. i told her not to call me. not to text me....not to contact my wife. she said 'you still mad?' i said "nope. we just dont have anything to discuss." i strolled off into the darkness away from my car waiting for her to disappear.

a hour later she calls saying she just hit a family while trying to go home. she was drinking a lot that night too. only thing i could say was ' dont get too close to pd when they show up...you got alch on your breath'. .....it couldve been legit or a ploy to draw me in...ill never know

Now THAT was a good azzz story. Had me intrigued like a good azzz book. Good grief talk about drama.

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

Going on 4 years married this week, haven't cheated yet, but there have def been times where a nigga was tempted. Shit there were two instances where I was ready to walk away from it all were it not for my avy. The fear of not seeing my done every day and him missing me was enough to try to work shit out. People who think its not easy to fuck up are either with the most compatible mate or they really haven't been in a long term relationship.

Been in a long term relationship that got mucked up. I can't drop no stories tho b/c I'm not married.

 

[Kat]

Dudes in here catching hella feelings.

How does it feel to be judged?

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Dudes in here catching hella feelings.

How does it feel to be judged?

personally....none of yall can judge me. i am honest with myself and only i know how i feel.

i know what made me think the way i do an why i would do what i do.

only people who catch feeling are the ones not honest withr who they are.

if you did something that was fukked up, stand by it just like if you stand by something good you do.

 

[Kat]

Dudes in here catching hella feelings.

How does it feel to be judged?

personally....none of yall can judge me. i am honest with myself and only i know how i feel.

i know what made me think the way i do an why i would do what i do.

only people who catch feeling are the ones not honest withr who they are.

if you did something that was fukked up, stand by it just like if you stand by something good you do.

I feel the same way.

Nobody wants to be judged, yet are quick to judge another.

Human nature I guess.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

Dudes in here catching hella feelings.

How does it feel to be judged?

personally....none of yall can judge me. i am honest with myself and only i know how i feel.

i know what made me think the way i do an why i would do what i do.

only people who catch feeling are the ones not honest withr who they are.

if you did something that was fukked up, stand by it just like if you stand by something good you do.

I feel the same way.

Nobody wants to be judged, yet are quick to judge another.

Human nature I guess.

naw its called misery loves company.

i see dudes on this site always jump on the wagon of someone getting exposed. they love to see that shit and add to it whether its a woman or dude.

but they cant be the one gettin judged.

people seem to love seeing someone being brought down below them to feel superior.

its alot a bitchness on this site an followers.

they act like lemmings

 

[Crude_]

A lot men cheat because sex is only a physical action to most guys.

By physical action I mean there is no love attached its just like going to work out or walking to the bathroom they are just fulfilling a physical need.

Unlike women a man doesn't necessarily need to have to an emotional attachment because the act of sex is only fulfilling a physical need.

I love my wife and I have not cheated but I'd be lying if I said I hadn't been tempted.

I just try my best to keep myself out of compromising situations.

I married my wife but just because I'm married doesn't mean I stop being sexually attracted to other women.

Unlike some I'm not foolish enough to think that its impossible for me to lured into infidelity either.

I think a lot of posters are fronting and lying to themselves saying it can't happen most people are only as faithful as their options and circumstances allow.

 

[Kat]

I just try my best to keep myself out of compromising situations.

And this is what it boils down to...

 

[BabyBugatti]

You motherfucker have made me lose all hope in marriage...almost.

ergh.