Can Men and Women Really Be "Just Friends"?

[blakfyahking]

I'll be honest........

only way it can happen if she is attractive is if u have already smashed so that issue is already out of the way

otherwise, there is no way shorty is going to be attractive to u in any way, and she offers the pussy but u gon refuse solely because of the power of friendship

hell a lot of grownups of the same sex don't really hang as friends like that, so mixed gender friendships tend to be even more disingenuous

LOL @ all these sensitive deep mofos pretending like u really have that much in common with the opposite sex to be chilling like that

I learned that lesson the hard way when I had a bulldyke friend proposition me.........I didn't even see it coming either SMH

 

[rico_ENS]

a lot of gay niggas in this thread b

 

[S2J]

Like even when on a date, and women drift into a story about a ex or an encounter with the opposite sex, man i get heart palpitations lls I naturally lose all interest in the story and if it go too long lose interest in her. I take it as disrespect . Its almsot like bein yelled at or someone gettin too close to you lol a natural chemical reaction is supposed to happen

So to all the friendy friend niggas, how does that feel to ALWAYS do that. When you talking to a woman and its like she sees right thru you, like you not even a factor. On the regular! Not even by accident, nah she called you to specifically tell you about another man. Dame Dash voice, thats corny to me. Thats not Harlem

 

[R0mp]

Sure, right after we get it out of the way.

 

[atribecalledgabi]

The thing is your actual female friends should already be established tho. Everybody probably got 1 of those

You known her since middle school, yall used to work together, etc

But how on earth could you make a NEW female friend is beyond me.

This is also a distinction. I haven't made any new "friends" since college really...but the way some niggas talk is since age 12 it's been "If she ain't fucking then what I need her around for" in terms of saying they have NEVER been able to have a female friend.

Exactly...I'm not getting it.

Inb4 "you're a female you wouldn't get it"

A female friend would serve the same purpose as a male friend. You don't have to think about why you have them. You don't sit around doing nothing all day, cupcaking on the phone all night with your niggas so why would you expect to do it with your female friend?

Ur a female, u dont get it

Yall wake up ready to friendzone a nigga. Getting approached all day all your life thsts a natural mechanism

Also, just your response alone shows, women are too ditzy, too naive. If me being friends with a woman is the same with my niggas, shoot my niggas. All of em

Women arent funny enough, not blunt enough, and cant relate enough

And---no offense guys---it takes a certain level of bitchassness to willfully entertain a woman's dealings with other men. Not even in detail, just at ALL. Unless the previously mentioned exceptions are in play (lifelong friend, coworker, etc). Bc if you as tight with these women as yall claim, thats gonna happen.

@bolded i was assuming we were working off the pretext that after a certain age/point in life, most people ain't looking for friends...your circle is pretty much set by late 20s.

You acting like yall out here actively seeking out male friends under different circumstances lol. The only way most people are chilling with new people regardless of gender (outside work or established history) is if you met em through somebody else....so if you happen to be around a female that's a friend of a friend/family member but for whatever reason you can't get at her (not attracted to each other) but she's cool and vice versa....I'm not seeing why it needs to be a distinction between why she can't come to the family bbq or bday get together and catch up with everybody else.

That's just me tho.

 

[BEAM]

Just friends? No, afraid not. Imo, anyway..

But just because one person may want more, even if they never act on it, doesn't mean that a great friendship can't exist between a man and a woman.

And also, wanting more isn't necessarily a bad thing either.

 

[Ilike2get baked]

In my world....it's not happening....simple as this..Aint no way in the world a man and a woman are hanging together doin the buddy buddy shit without at least one of them not thinking about smashing and if the woman is attractive and you really recognize that you gonna try to go in imo.. as far as that friend zone shit...based off what I've seen, more often than naught a nigga puts himself there as opposed to the woman doin that shit....fact of the matter is niggaz be havin feelings but freeze up and don't know what to do or say when it's time to make their case and by the time you ready she already talkin to you about the next nigga and how he fuckin up and why is she tellin you this..because your her FRIEND...and nothing more.

 

[Melqart]

I'm too torn on this particular issue to vote either way, because I've experienced both, to an extent.

For a long time, I was like most of the guys in this thread, really didn't value friendships with women at all, lol smh. But it took me a while to realize that I did in fact deal with a number of women on a regular basis as friends that are attractive and I value platonically..... that I didn't necessarily have the impetus to actively engage in a sexual manner, for no particular reason.

So I do believe it's possible.

On the other hand my closest female friends are all very attractive, and I'd be a Goddamn liar if I didn't say I wouldn't smash if given the opportunity. But I wouldn't necessarily be in a relationship with them, for the simple fact that I value the concept of freedom to a rediculous degree, even if I don't have women on the side persay.

So can a friend ship still be a friendship after relations are had?

 

[SolemnSauce]

as i said on page 2, it's a person by person thing, and it still has to be two unique people in general....

put it like this....my friend, if we were last two people on the planet and had to procreate to save our species, i flat out wouldn't be able to do it....that would be the same thing as it being one of my sisters, my mother or a family member......there's not even a blemish of sexual tension or attraction between us, and i have knocked down many chicks who are flat out busted.....

thank God i married and had kids with a woman who has a pretty face, cuz record wasn't looking good...i've had a few pretty girls here and there, but a large majority of the chicks i was knocking down in my single days weren't lookers at all.....so i can clearly say my standards of who i find attractive and what i would have fucked are much lower than how she looks, and even still i never looked at her that way...just like a can acknowledge that my sister, or my little cousin is pretty, i can acknowledge her being so, but as far as there being a sexual or physical attraction or connection, it's simply doesn't exist, because our friendship has eliminated that part of the game....

i guess it's damn near impossible for someone who doesn't have friends of that caliber to understand, but it's easy as shit for me to get it......

especially around the time i got married, there were quite a few homegirls that i had, that i realized if given the opportunity i'd prolly smash, and realized that since i'm serious about my wife to be, it would prolly be best if i cut those chicks out of my little circle, cuz i know who i look at how i look at, and who i joke with how i joke with them...

i can be a touchy-feely person at times....so it's a no-go laughing and having your hands all over someone you know you would smash if they throw it back at you...i don't play them type games, so i cut them type chicks back.....but the one i call my best friend, was never on the chopping block, simply because those types things just don't exist with her...again....if you don't understand it, or get it, that's you....

but it makes perfect sense to me

 

[SolemnSauce]

Some females u can be friends with so long. They are almost like cousins. Cant even imagine fucking em, even when u see em at their badest. And aint nothin wrong with that

Thats bc you rerealized from day 1 she ain't wanna let you beat. Why yall leaving out facts? Lls

Also lmao @ u sayin this with that avi.

Figures, yall some ol Shawn from Power confused lookin ass niggas.

'I'm sorry Uncle G' lookin ass

The two that fall into that category, one was cause there was not chance to apply vitamin D. The other tho, never even considered it.

That post was goat ether by the way

 

[blackrain]

Like even when on a date, and women drift into a story about a ex or an encounter with the opposite sex, man i get heart palpitations lls I naturally lose all interest in the story and if it go too long lose interest in her. I take it as disrespect . Its almsot like bein yelled at or someone gettin too close to you lol a natural chemical reaction is supposed to happen

So to all the friendy friend niggas, how does that feel to ALWAYS do that. When you talking to a woman and its like she sees right thru you, like you not even a factor. On the regular! Not even by accident, nah she called you to specifically tell you about another man. Dame Dash voice, thats corny to me. Thats not Harlem

This is a purely ego driven post based on the premise that you want to smash when it's already been explained that desire isn't always present. You already got it set in your head that being around a woman you're going to try and smash. Unless you can see beyond that, then it's never gonna make sense to you.

 

[S2J]

The thing is your actual female friends should already be established tho. Everybody probably got 1 of those

You known her since middle school, yall used to work together, etc

But how on earth could you make a NEW female friend is beyond me.

This is also a distinction. I haven't made any new "friends" since college really...but the way some niggas talk is since age 12 it's been "If she ain't fucking then what I need her around for" in terms of saying they have NEVER been able to have a female friend.

Exactly...I'm not getting it.

Inb4 "you're a female you wouldn't get it"

A female friend would serve the same purpose as a male friend. You don't have to think about why you have them. You don't sit around doing nothing all day, cupcaking on the phone all night with your niggas so why would you expect to do it with your female friend?

Ur a female, u dont get it

Yall wake up ready to friendzone a nigga. Getting approached all day all your life thsts a natural mechanism

Also, just your response alone shows, women are too ditzy, too naive. If me being friends with a woman is the same with my niggas, shoot my niggas. All of em

Women arent funny enough, not blunt enough, and cant relate enough

And---no offense guys---it takes a certain level of bitchassness to willfully entertain a woman's dealings with other men. Not even in detail, just at ALL. Unless the previously mentioned exceptions are in play (lifelong friend, coworker, etc). Bc if you as tight with these women as yall claim, thats gonna happen.

@bolded i was assuming we were working off the pretext that after a certain age/point in life, most people ain't looking for friends...your circle is pretty much set by late 20s.

You acting like yall out here actively seeking out male friends under different circumstances lol. The only way most people are chilling with new people regardless of gender (outside work or established history) is if you met em through somebody else....so if you happen to be around a female that's a friend of a friend/family member but for whatever reason you can't get at her (not attracted to each other) but she's cool and vice versa....I'm not seeing why it needs to be a distinction between why she can't come to the family bbq or bday get together and catch up with everybody else.

That's just me tho.

Why do women want SO BADLY to be 1 of the fellas?!?! You know how many women have told me 'i grew up with brothers! I know how yall are! All my friends are guys!'. Bitch shut UP (not u lol)

Is it bc its demoralizing to think people only interested in you for your goods?

But to answer your question, there's plenty guys out there who would gleefully accept your platonic friendship. Assuming you're attractive, i wouldn't be one of em

Either im gon try to get at you, or you and I will b able to have a very basic level of cordialness

 

[king hassan]

I have a lot of female friends, real good friends, we hang out and everything. But we don't be on the phone all times of night chit chatting and shit. I'm not 12 or 20. Now my ex had a "friend" and the nigga would call all times of night, he was trying to fuck

 

[Dupac]

 

[Purr]

Hell muthafucking yeah men and women can just be friends ...shit let me tell you my nigga .... No matter how hard I've tried @Purr has had me in the got damn friend zone for the last 3 years nigga!! 3 long hard damn years of my life!!!!!!!

Fuggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!

got a nigga drinking thirst slushies out here like...

Shits fucked up doh ....but it's real

Damn!

You put yourself in the friend zone, not me, boo boo.

 

[S2J]

Like even when on a date, and women drift into a story about a ex or an encounter with the opposite sex, man i get heart palpitations lls I naturally lose all interest in the story and if it go too long lose interest in her. I take it as disrespect . Its almsot like bein yelled at or someone gettin too close to you lol a natural chemical reaction is supposed to happen

So to all the friendy friend niggas, how does that feel to ALWAYS do that. When you talking to a woman and its like she sees right thru you, like you not even a factor. On the regular! Not even by accident, nah she called you to specifically tell you about another man. Dame Dash voice, thats corny to me. Thats not Harlem

This is a purely ego driven post based on the premise that you want to smash when it's already been explained that desire isn't always present. You already got it set in your head that being around a woman you're going to try and smash. Unless you can see beyond that, then it's never gonna make sense to you.

Nah it makes perfect sense to me, if anything I've clearly outlined for y'all WHY you 'dont have desire present', a question you probably never bothered to ask yourself

If a woman has a personality good enough to be a friend, and is attractive, and 1 of the previously mentioned exceptions aren't at play, but you as a man 'lack desire' that means 99 out of 100 its because at some point YOU have calculated that YOU do not have what it takes to take her down. And from that, yes, eventually you grow to have no desire for her.

 

[S2J]

I keep hittin the same points. Let me wrap this up. In a nutshell, niggas be like

'Nah she my homegirl, i dont even look at her like that'

No shit!?! You have no choice

 

[Dupac]

Like even when on a date, and women drift into a story about a ex or an encounter with the opposite sex, man i get heart palpitations lls I naturally lose all interest in the story and if it go too long lose interest in her. I take it as disrespect . Its almsot like bein yelled at or someone gettin too close to you lol a natural chemical reaction is supposed to happen

So to all the friendy friend niggas, how does that feel to ALWAYS do that. When you talking to a woman and its like she sees right thru you, like you not even a factor. On the regular! Not even by accident, nah she called you to specifically tell you about another man. Dame Dash voice, thats corny to me. Thats not Harlem

This is a purely ego driven post based on the premise that you want to smash when it's already been explained that desire isn't always present. You already got it set in your head that being around a woman you're going to try and smash. Unless you can see beyond that, then it's never gonna make sense to you.

Nah it makes perfect sense to me, if anything I've clearly outlined for y'all WHY you 'dont have desire present', a question you probably never bothered to ask yourself

If a woman has a personality good enough to be a friend, and is attractive, and 1 of the previously mentioned exceptions aren't at play, but you as a man 'lack desire' that means 99 out of 100 its because at some point YOU have calculated that YOU do not have what it takes to take her down. And from that, yes, eventually you grow to have no desire for her.

sometimes the shit just don't play out like that....people can be fickle....

 

[AP21]

I have two good male friends who I honestly believe only see me as a sister and would never cross those boundaries. Everyone else showed their true colors at one point. One of my friends invited me to a Bulls game when he had an extra ticket and it was only us there. He made it seem like there was a large group attending.

Only took 5 pages to get a female to comment..

these nignogs ran all the females off brah

scust

 

[Shizlansky]

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