"But I can explain..."

[playmaker88]

people are stupid..

Give everyone 1 chance.. and you cant get fucked over twice or thrice.. And mean it.

 

[Dupac]

damn, i guess if he's willing to give her an explination for fucking 10 chicks..he must value her more than those other 10..

maybe that's the angle he's working...and she's buying it...

 

[marie addams]

where there's smoke there's fire. no way he didnt fuck at least ONE of those 10 chicks putting her life at risk..
this is always one of thoes bridges you can't really cross until you get there but as for right now..there isnt enough explaining in the world

 

[akforty7]

damn, i guess if he's willing to give her an explination for fucking 10 chicks..he must value her more than those other 10..

maybe that's the angle he's working...and she's buying it...

well he's saying he didn't fuck any of them just hung out with them lol. I honestly don't know how she can buy that one, esp since he told one of the chicks she needs to pay for the hotel this time. How can you explain that or convince someone you didn't cheat after all that evidence? Men are so creative I swear lol. You got caught, just admit it, damn.

 

[Focal Point]

Damn this nigga needs to be every defendants lawyer... how that saying go screw me once shame on you, screw me twice shame on me

 

[akforty7]

where there's smoke there's fire. no way he didnt fuck at least ONE of those 10 chicks putting her life at risk..

this is always one of thoes bridges you can't really cross until you get there but as for right now..there isnt enough explaining in the world

I agree. I don't think anyone could convince me they're innocent in this situation no matter how hard they try and how good their explanation is. I don't even think I'd give them an oppurtunity to explain. Thats what happened with my ex, I found out, and I broke it off immediately, I wasn't hearing nothing he had to say at all.

But love is blind, you will put up with shit you don't normally put up with when your mind is clouded with love and emotions. So I can't knock her b/c I am not the one in her shoes who knows this situation first hand. Maybe he do have legitimate points, or maybe she's just naive. Who knows but we've all been in situations where we catch people lying or cheating and it's the WORST feeling esp when you're serious with the person. In her case they were about to move in together and were VERY much in love so to find all this out, regardless whether he actually sexed the chicks or not, would be enough to push most girls away immediately IMO.

 

[Dupac]

i don't even understand the mindset behind working it out, cuz they both know aint gonna be a shot glass of trust left in the relationship....

who wanna be in a relationship like that?

 

[djparamnesia]

in defense of men, we are genetically programmed to fuck every women walking and create life as much as possible, it is a constant battle to keep yourself controlled and not try to fuck someone else, and you can only pull it off when you love someone, and then it is still a constant battle, women are not genetically programmed this way, they are more picky and pick the man that they subconsciously think will produce the healthiest and best children, there is a scientific explanation as to why men are the way we are, we cant help it. All we can do is try and fight it, best way is if our girl keeps us satisfied everyday sexually than we wont be lookin elsewhere, its when we dont get fuck all that we start straying and for animal instinct reasons.

 

[Wishbone Jones]

sound like my cousin

 

[akforty7]

i don't even understand the mindset behind working it out, cuz they both know aint gonna be a shot glass of trust left in the relationship....

who wanna be in a relationship like that?

I agree. Once you lose trust it's soooo difficult to build it back. PLUS the shit that bothers me is this nigga always been SUPER insecure for no reason. My girl is one of the most loyal and "wifey" type chicks I know and she never, ever gave him a reason to think she's cheating yet he would always accuse her of shit. He would get drunk and cuss her out on twitter for the world to see when she never did shit. That's why when she caught him she put him and all the bitches on blast on Twitter. I don't agree w/ that b/c it's private (and now that they're back together makes them both look dumb) but... thats just too much drama and now everyone is involved. Stupid.

 

[akforty7]

in defense of men, we are genetically programmed to fuck every women walking and create life as much as possible, it is a constant battle to keep yourself controlled and not try to fuck someone else, and you can only pull it off when you love someone, and then it is still a constant battle, women are not genetically programmed this way, they are more picky and pick the man that they subconsciously think will produce the healthiest and best children, there is a scientific explanation as to why men are the way we are, we cant help it. All we can do is try and fight it, best way is if our girl keeps us satisfied everyday sexually than we wont be lookin elsewhere, its when we dont get fuck all that we start straying and for animal instinct reasons.

I understand that but self control is self control. And when you get caught, just admit you're wrong and apologize. Using lies to cover up lies is never okay.

 

[ptnutz]

i don't even understand the mindset behind working it out, cuz they both know aint gonna be a shot glass of trust left in the relationship....

who wanna be in a relationship like that?

True! I once got caught and dropped her because I figured the only reason she took me back was to set me up for the payback.

 

[akforty7]

lol @ "men seem to have excuses and explanations for everything"...women seem to jump to conclusions and have assumed explanations about a lot of things too...

at the end of the day though aside from the gender wars statements

Females seem to get so caught up in their significant other (some males do as well but mainly females) that they aren't willing to focus on the fact that they can be with somebody else. If you force yourself to only see you with "person x" then you won't be able to get over them, however, if she was to step back, truly look at his wrong doings, evaluate herself in a positive light, and then make a decision I'm pretty sure she'd see that she deserves better than what he is willing to give. Too bad most women will never realize this though.

Well most men I know can never admit they're wrong. Matter of fact it seems to be a rule that when a man gets caught and his back is against the wall, he will just try to flip it on you and turn the whole thing around like YOU did something. Almost every situation I been in and every situation I heard of went like this. Women will be more likely (more likely is keyword, let me emphasize this) to admit they're wrong and apologize instead of justify it or come up with some elaborate explanation. Wrong is wrong.

 

[ryder225]

Reply to PM!!!!!!

 

[Koko888]

The whole 'love is blind' thing is very much true and it's good that you aren't judging her for trying to work it out, all you can do is be a good friend and be there for her and hope she sees the light of day sharpish. As for me, I do believe in giving someone one more chance, and one only, another slip up and the person is dead to me. Literally.

 

[akforty7]

Reply to PM!!!!!!

dude how thirsty can you be? i don't know the answer to your question, and even if I did, it's none of your business. Sorry.

The whole 'love is blind' thing is very much true and it's good that you aren't judging her for trying to work it out, all you can do is be a good friend and be there for her and hope she sees the light of day sharpish. As for me, I do believe in giving someone one more chance, and one only, another slip up and the person is dead to me. Literally.

Yeah I am supposed to see her tonight and I will listen to her and be there for her and keep my opinions to myself. I know she knows how I feel but I will support her decision regardless as her friend. Unless she's harming herself or her child then I can't tell her what to do, she's grown enough to make her own decisions and I respect that. I have been in situations and relationships where someone could have told me how stupid I am so I no one can really judge others.

 

[ryder225]

dude how thirsty can you be? i don't know the answer to your question, and even if I did, it's none of your business. Sorry.

You Bitch!!!!!!! I'll Kill You..................

With Dis Dick

 

[Koko888]

dude how thirsty can you be? i don't know the answer to your question, and even if I did, it's none of your business. Sorry.

Yeah I am supposed to see her tonight and I will listen to her and be there for her and keep my opinions to myself. I know she knows how I feel but I will support her decision regardless as her friend. Unless she's harming herself or her child then I can't tell her what to do, she's grown enough to make her own decisions and I respect that. I have been in situations and relationships where someone could have told me how stupid I am so I no one can really judge others.

All true, she probably really appreciates you just being there for her tbh. And yah, we've all stuck with ish we shouldn't have in the past, she must be getting negativity from other people in her life about her situation also.

 

[Koko888]

i really don't know if i'd have it in me to really and truly forgive and w/o that there's no workin shit out. also i don't understand when women become wrecks behind some guy's foolishness. i just can't be pressed over any man like that. behaviour like that makes it very easy for me to cut someone off and never look back. i'll be damned if he gets to cause me undue emotional distress. his loss and on to the next one is my whole approach

you can want to work it out that doesn't mean it's actually feasible or a good idea

Yah, after certain levels of bullshit have been reached, time to call it a day. Of course, always easier said than done.

 

[one_manshow]

Only three reasons as to why women run back to men after they get cheated on first one is she can't see herself with another man who will probably put her on a pedestal like he does. Secondly he stabbing her cervix and small intestines to the point where it impacts her ability to understand that she is nothing but the point guard on his squad. Finally, her self esteem is shattered into pieces once she realizes that weeks after being alone and not having him around the emptiness is hard to replace.