As Men, Are There Any Pro's to Being Married?

[spit_fiya]

I got tired of the grind of chasing pussy. When you're married to the right person, she fulfills all the needs and wants you have. I'm much happier now that I'm married than I ever was before. Niggas need to grow up for real. Ya'll act like the only thing that's important in life is fucking new chicks. Yeah sometimes you miss out on that, but I have a woman that's down for me and that I actually love as a person. And we are compatible in all areas so the sex is good too. You guys make it seem like you can't understand why anyone would get married. Well I can't understand why any dude would want to spend his life going through the hassle of chasing pussy constantly, dealing with the same ditzy broads, and playing STD roulette. To each his own though, marriage isn't for everyone and if you don't want to acknolwedge the benefits of being married then you'll never see them so why keep asking the question.

As far as the legal part, there are great tax benefits and such, spousal privelege in court, hospital visitation right, etc... I don't know. I mean if you know you want to be with someone forever, why not fill out the paperwork? What's the big deal? It's not that serious.

Thats good that you found a good woman and you're not facing any problems but there are millions of men that are....and don't say that "well, thats just because they didnt take the time to know their woman" because some women transform into a dominatrix as soon as the marriage papers are signed....also, in your second paragraph you did list a few benefits and I appreciate it but that is minute compared to the benefits the woman receive if there is ever a divorce...So yea, it really is a big deal and it is definitely that serious.

 

[spit_fiya]

If you look at Marriage Objectively(key word)... then there is no benefit. Im sure guys think there is a benefit to marrying THEIR GIRL, but

Marriage as a whole?? Taxes, Benefits(if they die or ur in the service), or religious reasons...thats about all i can think of

Exactly Marco, that's THE only benefits that I could think of. Its just too big of a risk...social pressure or not.

sure. raising kids as a real family, having someone to come home to and grow old together, better income for both, sprituality, fidelity, commitment. yeah, marriage is a gamble, so is everything good in the world.

And honestly, do you really want to be 45, 50, 60 yrs old and single? you really wanna be THAT nigga at the family reunion? you niggas aint george clooney. and even he's reconsidering it too i heard.

But see it's a Catch 22 because yea, the 45-60 year old wants to be married and feels like he missed something but in actuality, he doesn't realize what BS those marriage couples are going through. Anyone can show up to a family reunion smiling and say life's great but what about when they return back to their home? I bet you that single 45-60 year old is actually happier than those married couples....even if he is walking down the street everyday sayin "hollahollaholla hollahollaholla lemme holla atcha lemme holla atcha"

 

[Cutler 26 INT's LOL!]

Marriage is for suckas...

 

[Eternal Bachelor]

Exactly Marco, that's THE only benefits that I could think of. Its just too big of a risk...social pressure or not.

But see it's a Catch 22 because yea, the 45-60 year old wants to be married and feels like he missed something but in actuality, he doesn't realize what BS those marriage couples are going through. Anyone can show up to a family reunion smiling and say life's great but what about when they return back to their home? I bet you that single 45-60 year old is actually happier than those married couples....even if he is walking down the street everyday sayin "hollahollaholla hollahollaholla lemme holla atcha lemme holla atcha"

precisely...nobody knows whats going on in those marriages that have been going 50+ years...people always ASSUME the cpl is happy...but how we know?

people always think their grandparents are the exception...lol

and why worry about being alone when youre 60 yrs old...there will be plenty of 60 yr old women alone too, when you get there...you dont have to be lonely just becuz you are alone

 

[a_wack_poster]

you niggas aint george clooney.

I lol'd.....

 

[glowy]

If you have a kid.....no child support.

 

[politicalthug202]

well it depends on your situation. if your shy and not good with woman it might

just be best to pin one chick down

and if you poor and working class 2 incomes are better than one

but u can do all this without being married

 

[Heart Of A Hustler]

so many bitch ass niggas and simps on AHH smh

 

[Eternal Bachelor]

well it depends on your situation. if your shy and not good with woman it might

just be best to pin one chick down

and if you poor and working class 2 incomes are better than one

but u can do all this without being married

yessir...

besides actually wanting to be married there really isnt a reason to get married

 

[digitalgrl87]

1. if your the religious type ... marriage should come before cohabitation, children, etc....
2. tax, legal purposes
3. monetary gain
4. if you are already in a serious, committed relationship and you want to make the woman who makes you happy....happy
5. for the green card...

 

[D-Marco]

Its funny how people bring up "You dont wanna be single and lonely"...shit im single now, definitely not lonely. Plus what niggas fail to realize is when u settle down, that chick aint gotta impress you anymore, she got the championship ring, next year you'll be lucky if she makes the playoffs...lol

Im not shittin on marriage, I just hate when people act like its the "End all, be all" of relationships. If a chick thinks you got options, she'll stay on her A game, it keeps things new and exciting.

Plus when you 50+ and divorced...theres gonna be a whole lot more of your kind. They gonna be at the party like "Nigga u late.. ive been divorced 10+ yrs".

 

[Fooley]

I'd be single the rest of my life before I ever marry a chick. I'm not about to buy a ring and pay for a wedding just to satisfy a bitch's ego. Not to mention the potential consequences of a divorce. Lmao @ making her happy. If she need a piece of paper to make her happy, she ain't the one for me.

 

[digitalgrl87]

Its funny how people bring up "You dont wanna be single and lonely"...shit im single now, definitely not lonely. Plus what niggas fail to realize is when u settle down, that chick aint gotta impress you anymore, she got the championship ring, next year you'll be lucky if she makes the playoffs...lol

Im not shittin on marriage, I just hate when people act like its the "End all, be all" of relationships. If a chick thinks you got options, she'll stay on her A game, it keeps things new and exciting.

Plus when you 50+ and divorced...theres gonna be a whole lot more of your kind. They gonna be at the party like "Nigga u late.. ive been divorced 10+ yrs".

i mean your right you shouldn't be getting married because you don't want to grow old alone....but i used to work in an assisted living home...and the older men there who were divorced long before or never married were miserable ...they had no visitors...the phone never rung...kids were off living their own lives...even had a few of em offer to be my sugar daddy...

but again your right though...

 

[Eternal Bachelor]

Its funny how people bring up "You dont wanna be single and lonely"...shit im single now, definitely not lonely. Plus what niggas fail to realize is when u settle down, that chick aint gotta impress you anymore, she got the championship ring, next year you'll be lucky if she makes the playoffs...lol

Im not shittin on marriage, I just hate when people act like its the "End all, be all" of relationships. If a chick thinks you got options, she'll stay on her A game, it keeps things new and exciting.

Plus when you 50+ and divorced...theres gonna be a whole lot more of your kind. They gonna be at the party like "Nigga u late.. ive been divorced 10+ yrs".

yep...i lol when i hear the old and lonely shit...why? theres gonna be plenty people my age and single...

 

[glowy]

well it depends on your situation. if your shy and not good with woman it might
just be best to pin one chick down

and if you poor and working class 2 incomes are better than one

but u can do all this without being married

I hope they can take being cheated on well.

 

[D-Marco]

i mean your right you shouldn't be getting married because you don't want to grow old alone....but i used to work in an assisted living home...and the older men there who were divorced long before or never married were miserable ...they had no visitors...the phone never rung...kids were off living their own lives...even had a few of em offer to be my sugar daddy...

but again your right though...

But u can keep a woman happy without a wedding, is what im saying. It doesnt change the relationship at all for the better. Ive only heard people say how now that their married their chick "doesnt do this, doesnt do that" OF course she dont... she comfy.

U can have a Lady witout being married. So Imma expect my visitors in the hospital.... and U better show up too..lol

 

[MeTaL]

t depends upon why you are getting married. If its for a family than the pros are obvious. Its to create a family infrastructure to insure the success of the next generation.

If a couple who wants to start a family bases their entire marriage solely on the feeling of first love, they are deluding themselves and it won't last. Love only endures if you can emotionally mature enough to handle all the trials and tribulations that come with marriage. Its no picnic.

If its for monogamy without children, then it better be that the couple are better financially together than separate and this understanding can keep a couple together for life, because on paper, it works out for tax reasons as well.

Otherwise, I don't see any reason to get married at all.

Examples of the pro's

Companionship

Partner in life

Comfort/Security/Predictability

Ability to make long term plans & goals

Ideal situation for having children

It's an interesting challenge to find new ways to show love

Someone always there to give support & vice versa

Pooled resources

Always having someone to face problems with

Having someone know you completely and accept you warts and all.

 

[digitalgrl87]

t depends upon why you are getting married. If its for a family than the pros are obvious. Its to create a family infrastructure to insure the success of the next generation.

If a couple who wants to start a family bases their entire marriage solely on the feeling of first love, they are deluding themselves and it won't last. Love only endures if you can emotionally mature enough to handle all the trials and tribulations that come with marriage. Its no picnic.

If its for monogamy without children, then it better be that the couple are better financially together than separate and this understanding can keep a couple together for life, because on paper, it works out for tax reasons as well.

Otherwise, I don't see any reason to get married at all.

Examples of the pro's
Companionship
Partner in life
Comfort/Security/Predictability
Ability to make long term plans & goals
Ideal situation for having children
It's an interesting challenge to find new ways to show love
Someone always there to give support & vice versa
Pooled resources
Always having someone to face problems with
Having someone know you completely and accept you warts and all.

^
thoughtful post...but you could have all those things without the exchange of rings... but marriage is ideal

 

[simplyspeaking]

may i ask what are the con's of getting married ?

 

[MeTaL]

Yeah i completely agree with your statement, theirs couples out there who don't have rings on their fingers. But have all the pro's of a marry couple.