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WHY PLAY GAMES?
Sex, Money, and Lodging are the top reasons a man will play out a girl. Sex is obvious, we’re all after that even the good guys. Money is a long time hustle and takes a guy fluent in bullshit to pull it off on a large scale. It usually begins when the guy who’s gaming sells the girl on himself and all the big things he is doing and then he begins to slowly but surely ask for “help”. The first few times a Player will pay your loan back. It’s all game; he’s building faith so he can get deeper into your pockets. You let him hold a hundred dollars; he gives you back the hundred and takes you out to dinner. You don’t feel bad about “helping your man” because he’s looking out for you as well… at first. Next time its can I borrow three hundred… oh shit my car’s in the shop… five hundred… Then he calls in real trouble, now you’re hitting your family up for a few G’s. Next he creates some fake argument in order to break up with you. He’s gone with your money and your family’s talking shit behind your back about being a silly hoe. Lodging is the hustle no one talks about but it’s become the most*prevalent because it allows you to get the sex and the money while she’s putting a roof over your head. Remember when moving in with someone was a big deal? Today niggas are quick to default on their lease as soon as they pull a girl who has her own place. It starts as temporary then he never leaves, but you don’t mind because you get to play housewife without a ring awwww. I had a homeboy who stayed in this girl’s college dorm for half the school year because he was piping the common sense out of one of her roommates– swag. The shit is insane how niggas will say they love you in order to get hot water and a soft bed. Regardless of his true objective, once a player gets his fill or the victim begins to see past the bullshit he makes up an excuse to end the relationship or flat out disappears. He learned what worked and what didn’t, and he’s off to play the game again. You’re left behind trying to figure out what went wrong.
Home girl who was robbed had her guard up from being hurt in her previous relationship. She was defensive and cynical, but Jay was patient and attentive, which eventually softened her up for the big hit. You can’t defend against a Player like you would defend against the run of the mill Thirsty guy. Thirsty niggas are not trying to play you; they’re trying to fuck, preferably on the first date. Players are much more suave than Thirsty niggas. They don’t have a timetable because they’re investing in something bigger than one nut. Some girls believe that the longer he hangs around the more he cares. “He hasn’t even pressured me for sex, he’s a good one” …wait right there while I laugh at you. Okay I’m back. Time does not bond you, communication does! We can be trapped in a coal mine for five days and if you’re not willing to open up to me, I won’t be calling you after we’re free to see how you’re doing, we’re as good as strangers. If we’re in that mine and you pour your life story out to me then I’m invested, we’re like family now. Deep conversation is how you bond with someone. Players don’t open up, they let you talk about your family, your job, your likes and dislikes. They’re researching you, not talking to you. Players will talk about themselves, but they won’t go beneath the surface because the first rule of playing someone is “Don’t get too close to your mark”. Jay spent 4 months getting to know Kay, but I bet Kay never really knew who that guy was beyond the basic info. Talking to someone and talking with someone are two different experiences; communication is a two-way street in a legit relationship.
KNOW THY ENEMY
Ya boo had a another girlfriend all this time. The love of your life suddenly changed his phone number. Your husband has another family complete with kids and a dog. This isn’t created by the producer’s of the Maury show, this shit is real life for a lot of women. How do you stop yourself from being played in the first place? The easy and unrealistic answer is “Don’t trust men”. No, that’s how you find yourself bitter as fuck and in debt from therapy. Education is power. Treat any guy you date like an SAT Prep book and study that bastard as if your future depends on it, because it does. You meet a guy, he talks a good game, cool. Now over the course of the next few weeks cross-examine his ass. Any reputable job checks the background references of their potential hires. Treat your vagina like it’s the most sought after job on the market and check that nigga’s credentials. Men aren’t going to want to give you personal details if they’re trying to play you. They want to stay mysterious that makes it easier to escape when the shit hits the fan. When you try and get close they’ll make you feel bad about interrogating them, don’t get caught up in that reverse psychology trick of “Let’s worry about us right now, not me back then“. A girl that doesn’t dig for information is a girl that’s waiting to be fucked over.
There are only so many lies you can tell before that shit collapses like a house of cards. A lie built on top of a lie isn’t going to hold up for two or three months, keep asking him hard questions and eventually cracks will begin to form if he’s not legit. “I knew something was funny about the things he was telling me” Then why didn’t you check his bullshit when your brain raised the red flag??? Common sense is better than X-Ray vision, stop being blinded by good looks or fast talk and start fingerprinting these niggas. Nosey is annoying, but it’s better to be annoying than to end up a sucker. Knowing his full name, where his mother lives, and his Facebook password doesn’t make you his girl. Everything you think a man should do to prove himself to a girl he likes, he knows you’re checking for. A Player will do all the little things girls put stock into just to appease you, he’s not proving anything by taking you to his family cookout, he’s playing the game. A man that’s really down for you goes the extra mile without you having to ask, he gives much more than he takes, and his life story is an open book. Listen to your brain, not your heart and always question his motives. If you think you’re being played by the man you’re with then chances are you’ve already been played.
This post was written by a man. So IC men, what do you think about what he said?
Sex, Money, and Lodging are the top reasons a man will play out a girl. Sex is obvious, we’re all after that even the good guys. Money is a long time hustle and takes a guy fluent in bullshit to pull it off on a large scale. It usually begins when the guy who’s gaming sells the girl on himself and all the big things he is doing and then he begins to slowly but surely ask for “help”. The first few times a Player will pay your loan back. It’s all game; he’s building faith so he can get deeper into your pockets. You let him hold a hundred dollars; he gives you back the hundred and takes you out to dinner. You don’t feel bad about “helping your man” because he’s looking out for you as well… at first. Next time its can I borrow three hundred… oh shit my car’s in the shop… five hundred… Then he calls in real trouble, now you’re hitting your family up for a few G’s. Next he creates some fake argument in order to break up with you. He’s gone with your money and your family’s talking shit behind your back about being a silly hoe. Lodging is the hustle no one talks about but it’s become the most*prevalent because it allows you to get the sex and the money while she’s putting a roof over your head. Remember when moving in with someone was a big deal? Today niggas are quick to default on their lease as soon as they pull a girl who has her own place. It starts as temporary then he never leaves, but you don’t mind because you get to play housewife without a ring awwww. I had a homeboy who stayed in this girl’s college dorm for half the school year because he was piping the common sense out of one of her roommates– swag. The shit is insane how niggas will say they love you in order to get hot water and a soft bed. Regardless of his true objective, once a player gets his fill or the victim begins to see past the bullshit he makes up an excuse to end the relationship or flat out disappears. He learned what worked and what didn’t, and he’s off to play the game again. You’re left behind trying to figure out what went wrong.
Home girl who was robbed had her guard up from being hurt in her previous relationship. She was defensive and cynical, but Jay was patient and attentive, which eventually softened her up for the big hit. You can’t defend against a Player like you would defend against the run of the mill Thirsty guy. Thirsty niggas are not trying to play you; they’re trying to fuck, preferably on the first date. Players are much more suave than Thirsty niggas. They don’t have a timetable because they’re investing in something bigger than one nut. Some girls believe that the longer he hangs around the more he cares. “He hasn’t even pressured me for sex, he’s a good one” …wait right there while I laugh at you. Okay I’m back. Time does not bond you, communication does! We can be trapped in a coal mine for five days and if you’re not willing to open up to me, I won’t be calling you after we’re free to see how you’re doing, we’re as good as strangers. If we’re in that mine and you pour your life story out to me then I’m invested, we’re like family now. Deep conversation is how you bond with someone. Players don’t open up, they let you talk about your family, your job, your likes and dislikes. They’re researching you, not talking to you. Players will talk about themselves, but they won’t go beneath the surface because the first rule of playing someone is “Don’t get too close to your mark”. Jay spent 4 months getting to know Kay, but I bet Kay never really knew who that guy was beyond the basic info. Talking to someone and talking with someone are two different experiences; communication is a two-way street in a legit relationship.
KNOW THY ENEMY
Ya boo had a another girlfriend all this time. The love of your life suddenly changed his phone number. Your husband has another family complete with kids and a dog. This isn’t created by the producer’s of the Maury show, this shit is real life for a lot of women. How do you stop yourself from being played in the first place? The easy and unrealistic answer is “Don’t trust men”. No, that’s how you find yourself bitter as fuck and in debt from therapy. Education is power. Treat any guy you date like an SAT Prep book and study that bastard as if your future depends on it, because it does. You meet a guy, he talks a good game, cool. Now over the course of the next few weeks cross-examine his ass. Any reputable job checks the background references of their potential hires. Treat your vagina like it’s the most sought after job on the market and check that nigga’s credentials. Men aren’t going to want to give you personal details if they’re trying to play you. They want to stay mysterious that makes it easier to escape when the shit hits the fan. When you try and get close they’ll make you feel bad about interrogating them, don’t get caught up in that reverse psychology trick of “Let’s worry about us right now, not me back then“. A girl that doesn’t dig for information is a girl that’s waiting to be fucked over.
There are only so many lies you can tell before that shit collapses like a house of cards. A lie built on top of a lie isn’t going to hold up for two or three months, keep asking him hard questions and eventually cracks will begin to form if he’s not legit. “I knew something was funny about the things he was telling me” Then why didn’t you check his bullshit when your brain raised the red flag??? Common sense is better than X-Ray vision, stop being blinded by good looks or fast talk and start fingerprinting these niggas. Nosey is annoying, but it’s better to be annoying than to end up a sucker. Knowing his full name, where his mother lives, and his Facebook password doesn’t make you his girl. Everything you think a man should do to prove himself to a girl he likes, he knows you’re checking for. A Player will do all the little things girls put stock into just to appease you, he’s not proving anything by taking you to his family cookout, he’s playing the game. A man that’s really down for you goes the extra mile without you having to ask, he gives much more than he takes, and his life story is an open book. Listen to your brain, not your heart and always question his motives. If you think you’re being played by the man you’re with then chances are you’ve already been played.
This post was written by a man. So IC men, what do you think about what he said?
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