Anyone ever been on a date with someone you're not interested in?

[Conscious__Nkechi]

So I shouldn't even be friends with him? He's not a stranger to my family. He's friends with my brother and my sister.

Lol, I didn't say that. Sometimes the impression you give off may not be what you intend exactly for the sake of saving face or whatever reason and to entertain the idea of even a single date if you know your intentions differ is basically enabling him to be led on. Reading further through the thread you did say that you let him down gently so as long as you make it clear that you are not interested in him on any romantic level then cool. You just have to consider how other people perceive what you are dishing out. Letting him down in a polite manner is one thing, sugar coating it without being definite and right to the point with it is another. Only you know the way you went about it though.

 

[NYCeeCee]

I think you should be "friends", but don't go out with him. Also, guys are accustomed to rejection. You telling him NO (nicely, of course) and meaning it isn't going to kill him. Use the whole "we're more like family" as an excuse if he's that persistent.

 

[-Vincenzo-]

used to this all the time...

now since i stopped they say i'm arrogant

 

[Real Lady]

I don't pity em, I give them a chance to show me who they are, and if I am not interested I don't date em.

 

[Bwoahmizzee]

I don't pity em, I give them a chance to show me who they are, and if I am not interested I don't date em.

wassup shor

 

[Real Lady]

wassup shor

what up.

 

[Pond Scum]

True story, family told me about this girl who was recently in that exact situation. Guy likes girl, girl just wanted to be friends but this guy didn't handle it that well so he murders her and soon after commits suicide himself. I'm just saying. Mind you they were teens but that is besides the point.

lol - that story SUCKS.

and MissL I'll go on a pity date with you

 

[6ft5]

So I shouldn't even be friends with him? He's not a stranger to my family. He's friends with my brother and my sister.

You brother doesn't have an issue with one of his friends trying to talk to you?

 

[MissLeading]

lol - that story SUCKS.

and MissL I'll go on a pity date with you

Hmmm... Oh yeah? Even if you spend your money with nothing in return?

I think you should be "friends", but don't go out with him. Also, guys are accustomed to rejection. You telling him NO (nicely, of course) and meaning it isn't going to kill him. Use the whole "we're more like family" as an excuse if he's that persistent.

Lol but we're not. He was never my friend or even close to me.

Lol, I didn't say that. Sometimes the impression you give off may not be what you intend exactly for the sake of saving face or whatever reason and to entertain the idea of even a single date if you know your intentions differ is basically enabling him to be led on. Reading further through the thread you did say that you let him down gently so as long as you make it clear that you are not interested in him on any romantic level then cool. You just have to consider how other people perceive what you are dishing out. Letting him down in a polite manner is one thing, sugar coating it without being definite
and right to the point with it is another. Only you know the way you went about it though.

I did sugar coat it instead of being definite. I'm going to have to be very honest with him. I hate this part. Lol

You brother doesn't have an issue with one of his friends trying to talk to you?

Of course he would. My brother has a problem with anyone trying to talk to me. He doesn't know yet though.

 

[6ft5]

Hmmm... Oh yeah? Even if you spend your money with nothing in return?

Lol but we're not. He was never my friend or even close to me.

I did sugar coat it instead of being definite. I'm going to have to be very honest with him. I hate this part. Lol

Of course he would. My brother has a problem with anyone trying to talk to me. He doesn't know yet though.

Then you really shouldn't the fact that he is trying behind your brothers back shows you about his character

 

[-Vincenzo-]

used to this all the time...

now since i stopped they say i'm arrogant

I don't pity em, I give them a chance to show me who they are, and if I am not interested I don't date em.

i used to say that but let's be honest - you know from the start the other person has no realistic chance...

 

[MissLeading]

Then you really shouldn't the fact that he is trying behind your brothers back shows you about his character

My sister knows. Plus he's told my brother he was interested in me, he just hasn't told him that he's trying to do something about it.

 

[Real Lady]

i used to say that but let's be honest - you know from the start the other person has no realistic chance...

this one dude use to bug me all the time. He found out where I worked so he would pop up...I used to think he was a bugaboo, but I didnt pity him.. I didn't see him as my type (and he wasnt) but I went out on some dates with him, and he wasn't as bad as I thought. I started to see a good side of him..at the door he seemed like a snake...after a couple of conversations, I realized he used to be a snake..lol

 

[6ft5]

My sister knows. Plus he's told my brother he was interested in me, he just hasn't told him that he's trying to do something about it.

It seems like you have your mind made up already.....

 

[MissLeading]

It seems like you have your mind made up already.....

What do you mean?

 

[Real Lady]

this one dude use to bug me all the time. He found out where I worked so he would pop up...I used to think he was a bugaboo, but I didnt pity him.. I didn't see him as my type (and he wasnt) but I went out on some dates with him, and he wasn't as bad as I thought. I started to see a good side of him..at the door he seemed like a snake...after a couple of conversations, I realized he used to be a snake..lol

I'll take the chance with the one that appeared to be a snake but wasn't before taking a chance with the one who fronts like a good guy, but got a snake hidden...

 

[6ft5]

What do you mean?

It seems like your willing to go out with him so just go and see what happens.

 

[blakfyahking]

SMH.................what did I tell you about being a candidate for date rape?

Lawdhavmercy @ you

 

[laroc]

That's how I met my wife! LMAO!

 

[MissLeading]

That's how I met my wife! LMAO!

Really?? How did it happen?

SMH.................what did I tell you about being a candidate for date rape?

Lawdhavmercy @ you

Dont say that. Lol

It seems like your willing to go out with him so just go and see what happens.

I'm willing because incredibly persistent and he's not a bad person but I just feel like it's pointless since I don't expect it to go anywhere.