All potential SOs should undergo a thorough background check

[Sh0t]

You're totally right, but I was trying to pick an age that was young, yet wouldn't make me come across as a total pervert.

 

[meekins]

You're totally right, but I was trying to pick an age that was young, yet wouldn't make me come across as a total pervert.

lol.. i dig. but really.. there is no right answer / age for a clean past. so just gotta take the good with the bad and be glad that she may possibly be YOURS.

 

[BelovedAfeni]

what about medical, criminal and credit reecords.

those pose a serious threat to the relationship.

 

[About$]

Nah I don't want to know every little aspect of my SO's life. There are some things that I honestly probably rather not know. Although two people are in a trusting relationship there should be a certain level of privacy. Knowing her email history and such is going to do nothing to help the harmony of our relationship and is probably just going to have me end up not trusting her and vice versa. Now if she has some bad disease, has a criminal record, or some history of mental illness I'd like to know stuff like that but in all honesty the rest of that ish is irrelevant. If its nothing thats going to put my life, health, or finances in jeopardy its probably just better that she keep that shit to herself. This is just my opinion though.

Slept on^^^^^^^^

i'd have to say i agree 100%

 

[onmygame]

i really dont want to know everything bout my woman. gotta have some kind of personal life outside your relationship. what if she wanted all yo info. i dont look or care to look at any of my girl shit. she do her and i do me. we close as hell but you gotta have your own life

 

[MsSouthern]

yall gon fuck around with your thorough background checks only to find out ur chick used to have a ballsack back in the day.

uhhh wouldn't that be something a person would WANT to know .....

 

[think]

Go back 150 years, and stuff like this was rather common. Probably not even that far back. Families were often VERY inquisitive of potential suitors for their scions, etc.

The only way to really do this well is to marry a girl young enough to not have much of a past. 20 is good

Doweries in Indian culture is a good idea in theory. The part I hate is that they are pressured to get married so soon. The dowerie should be a starting point for dating, and I think it would be near flawless. Then you won't have to do background checks since you can consult their family members for past histories.

They should bring it back where families take an active part in screening a suitor. It's like an informal reference check.

As for 20 being the age to do well, it is and it isn't. I'm a firm believer in that people under 30 just aren't mature enough for relationships. However, most in the 30's will have baggage. There should be a middle ground when someone isn't hoeing around. I don't know what I'd rather have, a 20 something where you are her first boyfriend and she's immature and don't know how to communicate and play her role or someone in her 30s who has had mistakes but corrected them and knows what she wants.

 

[think]

what about medical, criminal and credit reecords.

those pose a serious threat to the relationship.

Yeah for sure, they should check those too. Anything you can think of.

And there should be annual check ups. The couple can then work together as a team towards solutions.