caddo man;c-9733452 said:
Sorrow_god;c-9732464 said:
So I'm thinking about proposing to my GF later this year, but after speaking with various adults older then me (IM 25 shes 22) many have advised against making the leap until she can prove herself to be financially on par with myself.
I know the majority of marriages end due to financial difficulties and she only plans on being a massage therapist which doesn't bring in too much money in the long run. I really love her though but I get nervous and skeptical mainly because her age and lack of desire to really get into a career that brings in more money. On top of that shes only my 2nd GF and 4th female I've slept with even my mom was hinting at me playing the field a bit more before making such a massive commitment. We've been dating for 4 years now and I kinda don't wanna string her along.
So shit I dunno, would you marry someone who made significantly less than you and has no future plans to increase their income significantly? Does money really trump love? Help a young nigga out y'all.
So nobody here but women are going to tell you to get married. I am going on 16 years with my wife (12 married). I say dont make that leap yet. If you are living together. You are married without the papers. If you are not living with her. Play the field. Go out there and do your thing and make sure every chick know you aint for a relationship. Make sure they know that.
Also do things with your girl. Go out of town, hit concerts, live your life with her. If she finds out you cheated. Guess what? She aint going nowhere. Why? Because she is having the time of her life with you traveling and hitting the spots. When she try to come back. Hit her with lets be friends first and take it slow.
The moral of all that bullshit I just wrote. Dont be in a serious relationship until you get older. You have 5 more years to play hard as fuck. Also you have 5 more years to work hard as fuck. the two go hand in hand.
This.
@Sorrow_god
Never understood why young folks feel the need to be in a rush to get married. Especially when they're unsure about their partner. She obviously has shown you she's not ready when you said
"I get nervous and skeptical mainly because her age and lack of desire to really get into a career that brings in more money."
...ref flag bruh. Y'all ain't ready. Cuz guess who's gonna be carrying that burden...YOU. All that's gonna do is add stress on the marriage, and resentment.
Wait. Get yourself established 1st. Like Caddo said, live life man. Marriage isn't going anywhere. Let her grow. If she lives you and down for you thick & thin, then she's not going anywhere. If bounces...oh well. Continue living life until the right one comes along.
By that time, BOTH of yall would already established a foundation for yourselves.