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SimplyKrys;d-555937 said:
Okay so here's the deal, I have been with my bf since 6/22/06 and I currently live with him, his mom, his dad, his brother, his brother's gf and their 8 y.o. son in his mom's house. I have been living here since 4/12/12 after moving out of my drug (dust) addicted cousin's house after one of her stoner friends tried to get some na-na while I was trying to sleep one night. Ever since I have been living here I graduated college, and saved up a little over $9,000 for an apartment. I finished college in December of 2015 and unfortunately I still don't have a job in my field (journalism).

There are times where my bf likes to say, "You are not related to anyone at the house," "You have a place to live because of me" and "Your time here is short." He has not said any of those things in a while but he has said those things more than once. My mom says that I can come back home but I'd rather not because she lives in a ratchet apartment with no heat or running water. On top of that I can't stand her bf and he's the main reason why I moved out in the first place, when I moved out we got into a big fight and they said that he (my bf) is going to start beating my ass.

Back in December he said that he was going to move out in January, but that turned out to be b.s. because he's still here. Honestly I think he just said that to scare me. On top of all of that his dad says that him and the mom are going to be going back to Haiti in about a year in a half and if no one takes over the house then he will sell it. About three weeks ago my bf even called me "convenient pussy." Fast forward to now and all of a sudden we are getting along much better but at the same time I know I need to leave these people's house. The only reason I am really still here is because I work part time at a restaurant and I don't make nowhere near enough money to live on my own. A friend said to me as long as you pay your rent for a few months upfront you will be fine.

Yesterday he said that the only way he would consider getting a place with me is if I got a higher paying job. He said, "I don't want to live with you if you are still working at that restaurant and can't contribute."

My friend made the point that if he is making more than you, you shouldn't be splitting things down the middle he should be paying more for the rent and utilities.

So if you were me what would you do? Try to get a full time job and get a place with the bf....or say eff it and go totally on your own whether or not you get a higher paying job?

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Don't move in with him. You're just gonna make a bad situation worse because you both will feel like you're stuck there if worse comes to worst.

Get your own place, create a little distance between you and your guy and then evaluate if you're with him out of necessity or because you really truly wanna be with him.

 
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First of all, leave dude regardless of what ends up happening. There are lots of issues with what you posted, but one thing you have to realize is that you are in a toxic relationship and should want out.
 
Second, keep saving your money and look for work. Journalism is an incredibly hard field to get into, so dont only look for journalism jobs. Look for anything that pays decent money. Where do you live btw?
 
AZTG;c-9663992 said:
Second, keep saving your money and look for work. Journalism is an incredibly hard field to get into, so dont only look for journalism jobs. Look for anything that pays decent money. Where do you live btw?
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I live in southern CT which is also part of the problem, it's expensive af here.
 
CashmoneyDux;c-9663980 said:
SimplyKrys;d-555937 said:
Okay so here's the deal, I have been with my bf since 6/22/06 and I currently live with him, his mom, his dad, his brother, his brother's gf and their 8 y.o. son in his mom's house. I have been living here since 4/12/12 after moving out of my drug (dust) addicted cousin's house after one of her stoner friends tried to get some na-na while I was trying to sleep one night. Ever since I have been living here I graduated college, and saved up a little over $9,000 for an apartment. I finished college in December of 2015 and unfortunately I still don't have a job in my field (journalism).

There are times where my bf likes to say, "You are not related to anyone at the house," "You have a place to live because of me" and "Your time here is short." He has not said any of those things in a while but he has said those things more than once. My mom says that I can come back home but I'd rather not because she lives in a ratchet apartment with no heat or running water. On top of that I can't stand her bf and he's the main reason why I moved out in the first place, when I moved out we got into a big fight and they said that he (my bf) is going to start beating my ass.

Back in December he said that he was going to move out in January, but that turned out to be b.s. because he's still here. Honestly I think he just said that to scare me. On top of all of that his dad says that him and the mom are going to be going back to Haiti in about a year in a half and if no one takes over the house then he will sell it. About three weeks ago my bf even called me "convenient pussy." Fast forward to now and all of a sudden we are getting along much better but at the same time I know I need to leave these people's house. The only reason I am really still here is because I work part time at a restaurant and I don't make nowhere near enough money to live on my own. A friend said to me as long as you pay your rent for a few months upfront you will be fine.

Yesterday he said that the only way he would consider getting a place with me is if I got a higher paying job. He said, "I don't want to live with you if you are still working at that restaurant and can't contribute."

My friend made the point that if he is making more than you, you shouldn't be splitting things down the middle he should be paying more for the rent and utilities.

So if you were me what would you do? Try to get a full time job and get a place with the bf....or say eff it and go totally on your own whether or not you get a higher paying job?

Keep it real...
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lol where is this from ?
 
Beech Oss Neega;c-9663983 said:
Don't move in with him. You're just gonna make a bad situation worse because you both will feel like you're stuck there if worse comes to worst.

Get your own place, create a little distance between you and your guy and then evaluate if you're with him out of necessity or because you really truly wanna be with him.
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This is what I am starting to ask myself now. I honestly feel like if I got a higher paying job and left tomorrow things probably wouldn't last.
 
You been with this nigga since the miami heat won the title with shaq and dwade and he calling you convenient pussy?

Aye I aint casting aspersions but he been hitting up backpage hoes
 
Copper;c-9664040 said:
A nigga calling you "convenient pussy" should be a hell of a lot more than a red flag
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Trust me it is, but the thing is I thought I could make it work with this man because he is my h.s. sweetheart and we have a lot of history together but now I see otherwise.
 
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