The power of forgivness

[Dupac]

forgiveness is internal...not external..

you forgive so that you can be at peace with yourself....

however if you have a partner who is doing things to you with complete disregaurd for your feelings.....at some point you're going to have to remove them from the position to keep damaging you....it has nothing to do with not forgiving them, but everything with protecting yourself from their wrecklessness

 

[American.Loo]

Cheating, no.

Misuse of finances, depends.

Abuse, no.

Forgiveness is a tricky thing, the person has to genuinely deserve it. And some things you just cant expect to be able to earn forgiveness for.

Husband cheats in marriage= Auto-divorce?

 

[Dupac]

i think cheating should honestly be handled on a case by case scenario... as with all things in a serious relationship, and especially a marriage, communication can dissolve a lot of problems....

if both parties are guilty of a lack of communication, and do not express it to eachother... they both can be held accountable if one of them looks for attention elsewhere.. sometimes that can be the sign to re-evaluate the relationship, and get the marriage back on track...

in no way am i supporting or encouraging cheating... but there are consequences to not efectively communicating with your spouse, and cheating is a possible one...as is misuse of finaces, and abuse...

so before you jumpp the gunon anything... take some time and try to see what's really going on....how did things get this bad... and is it worth saving before making a final decision....

 

[powerman 5000]

To me, all those things are immediate deal breakers. misuse of finances would me that she isn't in line with what I'm trying to do, Abuse would mean my well being would be at stake as well as cheating. So simply, yes I'd forgive all those transgressions but that doesn't mean we'd still be together after them.

 

[Recaptimus_Prime360]

i think cheating should honestly be handled on a case by case scenario... as with all things in a serious relationship, and especially a marriage, communication can dissolve a lot of problems....

if both parties are guilty of a lack of communication, and do not express it to eachother... they both can be held accountable if one of them looks for attention elsewhere.. sometimes that can be the sign to re-evaluate the relationship, and get the marriage back on track...

in no way am i supporting or encouraging cheating... but there are consequences to not efectively communicating with your spouse, and cheating is a possible one...

so before you jumpp the gun... take some time and try to see what's really going on....how did things get this bad... and is it worth saving before making a final decision....

cosign this. it's easy folks to say they would bounce wit the quickness. they probably would, outta anger tho. once that anger subsides tho, that's when u actually start thinkin about the time u invested in the relationship, and how much u really care for that person. been there, done that.

 

[American.Loo]

yeah dusouljah made a good point.

 

[Dupac]

cosign this. it's easy folks to say they would bounce wit the quickness. they probably would, outta anger tho. once that anger subsides tho, that's when u actually start thinkin about the time u invested in the relationship, and how much u really care for that person. been there, done that.

yeah dusouljah made a good point.

i always think about martin's skit

"sorry...i had told craig n them, i was gonna kick it wit dem....gotta go... see ya when i see yaaaaa"

 

[American.Loo]

i never forgive........

you'll have to forgive sometime, unless you build a robot that does no wrong.

 

[JadaRoss]

forgiveness is a must

if God will sacrifice his SON and forgive our sins

so that we can someday live on a paradise we all dont deserve so why cant we forgive those who trespass us???

I know Im bull-headed when it comes to forgiveness but im working on myself everyday

 

[blakfyahking]

*all up in the thread reading everybody's post*

 

[American.Loo]

i just cant forget shit easily

i have that problem too. still working on it.

but ive done alot of wrong, that i'd like to be forgiven for, so in fairness i'm trying to be a forgiving person.

one thing i've learned is time helps.

 

[King Erauno]

i have that problem too. still working on it.

but ive done alot of wrong, that i'd like to be forgiven for, so in fairness i'm trying to be a forgiving person.

one thing i've learned is time helps.

Time heals all wounds.

 

[Coby Vibes]

When you enter a mature relationship, what are you willing to forgive from your partner?

Whether you're married, engaged or seriously dating, do you take into consideration that we are all human and make mistakes or act selfishely/foolishly at times .. and if so, are you willing to forgive your partner for things such as cheating, misuse of finances, abuse, or what have you?

I can forgive just about anything. forgivess is for me... not the other party. after I forgive...I resolve and do what I need to do.

 

[Will Munny]

We are not truly forgiven until we forgive. When you truly forgive someone it feels like a weight off your shoulders.

 

[leftcoastkev]

It's not about forgiveness, it's about acceptance.
I can forgive anything that I can look in the mirror and accept myself as the person I strive to be, after.

In other words...
If your actions disrespect me then no I can't accept that. If it's something where you had good intentions that fell apart then maybe I can. If it's a genuine mistake, then yeah. If it's a conscientiously thought out plan that turns into a "mistake" once I catch you then no. Take my money without me knowing, no. Your self respect is worth more than money.

People come and go in life but YOU only get 1 YOU. It's too many real things going on in my life to accept b-s-. If you live your life on your knees feeling less than, in time you will be. Not trying to be a mortar but I can accept me for who I am and I may not forgive you but I can accept that that is the way you choose to live your life (because it doesn't affect me). And just because you don't forgive someone doesn't mean you gotta be holding on to "what they did", once you accept that's how they are your choice is to cut them off and keep it moving in what you are doing. Do you, let them be.

 

[Coo Coo Cal's Beanie]

God forgives, I dont.

 

[JadaRoss]

God forgives, I dont.

that's why he's better than all of us

 

[DarcSkies]

Cheating, no.
Misuse of finances, depends.
Abuse, no.

You aint going no where.

As for me I never forgive. I reject the word entirely. Just a synonym for "excuse/condone" to me. I, however, will not let things continue to bother me and will communicate what I think about what that person did/said and see whether they make excuses for it or not.

People are going to fuck up. We've all owed our significant other an apology for one thing or another. My whole thing is there are limits to what I will stay around for. And certain things are inexcusable to me. But forgive? Nah.

 

[Bussy_Getta]

forgiveness is a silly excuse to do it again

 

[DarcSkies]

forgiveness is a silly excuse to do it again

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