I.B. Blackman
New member
BRING OUT THE BEST
If Goons had higher education to go along with street smarts they’d be dangerous. The thing is it’s never too late to educate yourselves and use your brain to succeed in a different avenue of life. Most of my boys who are in the life are smarter than those I went to college with, but how do you translate that to a resume, to a position, to real money? You need someone to drive you. Clearly his parents didn’t do all they could or he wouldn’t be in that life, so he needs other guidance. If you get caught up with a Goon and really see potential to be with this guy, then you have to be the one to knock sense into him because no one else will. You’re not his mother, but all men need to be molded, regardless if they’re a square or trapping. Point to a successful man, you’ll find a strong woman next to him. Regardless of how much we poke our chest out and claim to be the superior sex, males would be lost without female influence. Hoes will spend a Goon’s money and bounce when he falls from grace, because she was only in it for the bread. Ratchets will be there in his corner loaning him cash to move another pack so he can get back on his feet, because she wants the power that comes with being with a Trap star. A smart woman that sees potential is going to show tough love, because she wants him to evolve into a better man. He doesn’t need money to re-up, he doesn’t need conjugal visits, or money on the books while he’s locked up, what he needs is to an ultimatum that will make him get his shit together. If he’s making money, check his ego, show him pictures of how George Jung ended up, and tell him to invest the money he has into something legitimate or go back to school. If he falls be there to help him find an alternative way to make money. He’s going to do what he’s going to do, but that decision is going to be harder if you tell him you won’t be around if he continues down that road.
BUILT FOR THE STRUGGLE?
One of my big homies is in prison for the foreseeable future, and I was surprised to find out that he just got married to his long long long time girlfriend while in the pen. I made a joke to his brother that she finally got what she’s been demanding since I was in high school. Despite the things he’s done he’s a good guy, but when she looks back on her life and relationship with him, was it worth it? She had a time where she was living rich, then it turned into raising her kids in poverty after he first got knocked. Were the few years of love and balling worth it? Drita from Mob Wives is a prime example of, “If I knew what I know now, I would have never even gone on a date with him”. Is this a guy you can marry and raise kids with? Keep that in your mind from the very beginning; even you think it’s not serious. You may think of him as just your Goon Dick, or a D-Boy sponsor, but a nigga who’s treating you right will grow on you especially if he’s showing you that exciting part of life that squares can’t. Maybe you can deal with the parole, the other baby mamas, the financial ups and downs, and the rest of the drama that keeps things stressful yet interesting, but can you deal with the struggle of being alone while he’s in a cell? More importantly, should you have to deal with being alone while he’s in a cell? The answer is no. There are thousands upon thousands of women out there who are off the market, keeping that box tight, because they’re waiting for their boos to finish that bid. He’ll finish his bid, go back a year later, and the cycle starts again. I don’t think the answer is to avoid these men all together, because there are a lot of diamonds in the rough that need a good woman to help turn it around. The world is filled with reformed Goons doing it major. At the same time if he’s not willing to change and keeps holding on to this Tony Montana dream of turning a Kilo into a mansion, you have to be strong enough to end it. Don’t wait until he’s out of jail, don’t wait until he finds a place to stay, and don’t give him chance after chance to straighten up because once your threats become hollow you lose all leverage. You may get that ring on your finger and a man who genuinely loves you, but in the end that life will leave you broken, miserable, and looking a damn fool
— Kay Corleone.
If Goons had higher education to go along with street smarts they’d be dangerous. The thing is it’s never too late to educate yourselves and use your brain to succeed in a different avenue of life. Most of my boys who are in the life are smarter than those I went to college with, but how do you translate that to a resume, to a position, to real money? You need someone to drive you. Clearly his parents didn’t do all they could or he wouldn’t be in that life, so he needs other guidance. If you get caught up with a Goon and really see potential to be with this guy, then you have to be the one to knock sense into him because no one else will. You’re not his mother, but all men need to be molded, regardless if they’re a square or trapping. Point to a successful man, you’ll find a strong woman next to him. Regardless of how much we poke our chest out and claim to be the superior sex, males would be lost without female influence. Hoes will spend a Goon’s money and bounce when he falls from grace, because she was only in it for the bread. Ratchets will be there in his corner loaning him cash to move another pack so he can get back on his feet, because she wants the power that comes with being with a Trap star. A smart woman that sees potential is going to show tough love, because she wants him to evolve into a better man. He doesn’t need money to re-up, he doesn’t need conjugal visits, or money on the books while he’s locked up, what he needs is to an ultimatum that will make him get his shit together. If he’s making money, check his ego, show him pictures of how George Jung ended up, and tell him to invest the money he has into something legitimate or go back to school. If he falls be there to help him find an alternative way to make money. He’s going to do what he’s going to do, but that decision is going to be harder if you tell him you won’t be around if he continues down that road.
BUILT FOR THE STRUGGLE?
One of my big homies is in prison for the foreseeable future, and I was surprised to find out that he just got married to his long long long time girlfriend while in the pen. I made a joke to his brother that she finally got what she’s been demanding since I was in high school. Despite the things he’s done he’s a good guy, but when she looks back on her life and relationship with him, was it worth it? She had a time where she was living rich, then it turned into raising her kids in poverty after he first got knocked. Were the few years of love and balling worth it? Drita from Mob Wives is a prime example of, “If I knew what I know now, I would have never even gone on a date with him”. Is this a guy you can marry and raise kids with? Keep that in your mind from the very beginning; even you think it’s not serious. You may think of him as just your Goon Dick, or a D-Boy sponsor, but a nigga who’s treating you right will grow on you especially if he’s showing you that exciting part of life that squares can’t. Maybe you can deal with the parole, the other baby mamas, the financial ups and downs, and the rest of the drama that keeps things stressful yet interesting, but can you deal with the struggle of being alone while he’s in a cell? More importantly, should you have to deal with being alone while he’s in a cell? The answer is no. There are thousands upon thousands of women out there who are off the market, keeping that box tight, because they’re waiting for their boos to finish that bid. He’ll finish his bid, go back a year later, and the cycle starts again. I don’t think the answer is to avoid these men all together, because there are a lot of diamonds in the rough that need a good woman to help turn it around. The world is filled with reformed Goons doing it major. At the same time if he’s not willing to change and keeps holding on to this Tony Montana dream of turning a Kilo into a mansion, you have to be strong enough to end it. Don’t wait until he’s out of jail, don’t wait until he finds a place to stay, and don’t give him chance after chance to straighten up because once your threats become hollow you lose all leverage. You may get that ring on your finger and a man who genuinely loves you, but in the end that life will leave you broken, miserable, and looking a damn fool
— Kay Corleone.
