Giving back, does it have limits?

[Kwan Dai]

I am always going to give back without worrying about how much I have given or how much some one I have given to continues to fuck up. If, the creator continues to put me in a position to help I will always feel obligated to do so.

 

[AZTG]

For family? I dont lend, I give. No limits. Whats the point of having money if I cant give to my fam?

For the community? I know its a cliche, but I give back with my time and experience. In 2016, I took 2 people under my wing, shared my experience, told them exactly what to do, and to their credit, they did it to a T, and both landed 75k+ job. Now them and their families are set. Only thing I asked back was to make sure they are willing to help the next man. Im working on a 3rd person now. I think helping my people get high paying jobs is the best way of giving back.

 

[R.D.]

Yes

I'm willing to give but not at the cost of my happiness or sanity

Blew my mind when I realized how self absorbed and selfish most people are(and I'm not even just talking money)

We've been ultimately blessed with the same opportunity and I can't do your part and mines

I give w/o expecting it to come back even if the borrow word get used however I need to know what I'm investing in by giving whatever it is to you, what type of person you are, how you live

What's the return on this investment(when I help you, how you going to use that to help the next person)

 

[yellowtapesport]

Giving is like gambling...

never give what you can't afford to lose.

 

[LPast]

Part of the problem in life is that people don't understand boundaries. They don't understand they as individuals and other people are responsible for in life.

Example @AZTG , you said you have no limits on helping family. But do you realize there is a line where "helping" someone can hurt them?

 

[AZTG]

Part of the problem in life is that people don't understand boundaries. They don't understand they as individuals and other people are responsible for in life.

Example @AZTG , you said you have no limits on helping family. But do you realize there is a line where "helping" someone can hurt them?

@Lpast i feel you man. But my fam my parents and siblings. My sister too young for now, but when she gets old enough where she might need money, how ima say no? Long as she aint strung out on drugs and needs a hit, i got her for life. Then we got my brother. He older than me and though hes no successful and trying to find his way, he trying. If him and his wife are having financial trouble, how ima say no? And my parents? They damn near 60. Me helping aint gonna hurt then.

And I aint even talking a $100 or $200 here and there. I gave my brother 5k just a month ago to pay off his cards and pay me whenever. I will be totally fine if I never get that money back.

Idk man, the whole point of having money is happiness. Im blessed in life to be in a good situation, but how can I be happy if my brother struggling?

 

[R.D.]

Part of the problem in life is that people don't understand boundaries. They don't understand they as individuals and other people are responsible for in life.

Example @AZTG , you said you have no limits on helping family. But do you realize there is a line where "helping" someone can hurt them?

@Lpast i feel you man. But my fam my parents and siblings. My sister too young for now, but when she gets old enough where she might need money, how ima say no? Long as she aint strung out on drugs and needs a hit, i got her for life. Then we got my brother. He older than me and though hes no successful and trying to find his way, he trying. If him and his wife are having financial trouble, how ima say no? And my parents? They damn near 60. Me helping aint gonna hurt then.

And I aint even talking a $100 or $200 here and there. I gave my brother 5k just a month ago to pay off his cards and pay me whenever. I will be totally fine if I never get that money back.

Idk man, the whole point of having money is happiness. Im blessed in life to be in a good situation, but how can I be happy if my brother struggling?

Respect this

 

[LPast]

Part of the problem in life is that people don't understand boundaries. They don't understand they as individuals and other people are responsible for in life.

Example @AZTG , you said you have no limits on helping family. But do you realize there is a line where "helping" someone can hurt them?

@Lpast i feel you man. But my fam my parents and siblings. My sister too young for now, but when she gets old enough where she might need money, how ima say no? Long as she aint strung out on drugs and needs a hit, i got her for life. Then we got my brother. He older than me and though hes no successful and trying to find his way, he trying. If him and his wife are having financial trouble, how ima say no? And my parents? They damn near 60. Me helping aint gonna hurt then.

And I aint even talking a $100 or $200 here and there. I gave my brother 5k just a month ago to pay off his cards and pay me whenever. I will be totally fine if I never get that money back.

Idk man, the whole point of having money is happiness. Im blessed in life to be in a good situation, but how can I be happy if my brother struggling?

If your brother rack up another 5K in cards are you going to give him another 5?

 

[AZTG]

Part of the problem in life is that people don't understand boundaries. They don't understand they as individuals and other people are responsible for in life.

Example @AZTG , you said you have no limits on helping family. But do you realize there is a line where "helping" someone can hurt them?

@Lpast i feel you man. But my fam my parents and siblings. My sister too young for now, but when she gets old enough where she might need money, how ima say no? Long as she aint strung out on drugs and needs a hit, i got her for life. Then we got my brother. He older than me and though hes no successful and trying to find his way, he trying. If him and his wife are having financial trouble, how ima say no? And my parents? They damn near 60. Me helping aint gonna hurt then.

And I aint even talking a $100 or $200 here and there. I gave my brother 5k just a month ago to pay off his cards and pay me whenever. I will be totally fine if I never get that money back.

Idk man, the whole point of having money is happiness. Im blessed in life to be in a good situation, but how can I be happy if my brother struggling?

If your brother rack up another 5K in cards are you going to give him another 5?

90%, yea. Its also situational though. Like, right now they make decent money but his girl in school getting her masters and couldnt get loans. So, they loaded up they cards. If they in a similar situation where they trying to come up, shit id front them another 10 no question asked.

If my brother out there doing real dumb shit, strip clubs, drugs, etc..., Id have to find out what he needs just to survive and give him them.

If he just makes a few dumb decisions, then yea I got him again.

Like I said though, we have out problems and issues, but overall im blessed with a good fam. My brother is to blame for his situation, 100%, but he accepts it and trying hard to fix it and is on the right track. Long as I see him trying on some legit shit, my money is his money.

 

[Kwan Dai]

Part of the problem in life is that people don't understand boundaries. They don't understand they as individuals and other people are responsible for in life.

Example @AZTG , you said you have no limits on helping family. But do you realize there is a line where "helping" someone can hurt them?

Folks not understanding boundaries shouldn't be a concern for the person giving. If, you got it. Give it.

Can you give an example of how helping someone can hurt them?

The only time giving becomes detrimental is when the person giving is, taking away from their own livelihood and well being.

 

[zzombie]

Every time there is a hurricane in Jamaica people expect me and my family to rebuild their house or buy them furniture.

 

[LPast]

Part of the problem in life is that people don't understand boundaries. They don't understand they as individuals and other people are responsible for in life.

Example @AZTG , you said you have no limits on helping family. But do you realize there is a line where "helping" someone can hurt them?

Folks not understanding boundaries shouldn't be a concern for the person giving. If, you got it. Give it.

Can you give an example of how helping someone can hurt them?

The only time giving becomes detrimental is when the person giving is, taking away from their own livelihood and well being.

Simple. If I lend my brother $5 every month of 2016, what will I do to HELP him not have to borrow $5 every month of 2017?

A. Say yes. Continue lending him money on hopes he eventually won't need my help. This keeps him dependent.

B. Say no. He will START to think of ways to make sure he won't need to borrow $5.

It's like never taking of the training wheels of your kids bike. You don't want them to live to always depend on training wheels.

Like the saying...

give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime

 

[Kwan Dai]

Every time there is a hurricane in Jamaica people expect me and my family to rebuild their house or buy them furniture.

If, your family has the means to rebuild after each and every hurricane, what's the issue with rebuilding?

 

[yellowtapesport]

give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime

I was gonna say this...

 

[zzombie]

Every time there is a hurricane in Jamaica people expect me and my family to rebuild their house or buy them furniture.

If, your family has the means to rebuild after each and every hurricane, what's the issue with rebuilding?

We've done it in the past multiple times but after a while tired of that s*** people always having their hand out looking up to you for money it's bad for them and it's bad for us

 

[AggieLean.]

I am always going to give back without worrying about how much I have given or how much some one I have given to continues to fuck up. If, the creator continues to put me in a position to help I will always feel obligated to do so.

I agree with you on all of this. As long as I've got it, I'm going to continue to help those who are in need of the help. I've been blessed to be placed into a great situation. It's my duty to help.

 

[Kwan Dai]

Part of the problem in life is that people don't understand boundaries. They don't understand they as individuals and other people are responsible for in life.

Example @AZTG , you said you have no limits on helping family. But do you realize there is a line where "helping" someone can hurt them?

Folks not understanding boundaries shouldn't be a concern for the person giving. If, you got it. Give it.

Can you give an example of how helping someone can hurt them?

The only time giving becomes detrimental is when the person giving is, taking away from their own livelihood and well being.

Simple. If I lend my brother $5 every month of 2016, what will I do to HELP him not have to borrow $5 every month of 2017?

A. Say yes. Continue lending him money on hopes he eventually won't need my help. This keeps him dependent.

B. Say no. He will START to think of ways to make sure he won't need to borrow $5.

It's like never taking of the training wheels of your kids bike. You don't want them to live to always depend on training wheels.

Like the saying...

give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime

What you described hurts no one.

If, you lend your brother $5 and it doesn't take food off of your table then you are doing the right thing if that's what the circumstance calls for.

So, in this scenario if, you take issue with giving your brother $5 you are just as in need of help then he is.

The way a balanced well intended brother would approach such a situation is.

1. First he would give (not lend) to his brother from the goodness of his heart because, this is the station in life he has been rewarded by the creator.

2. He would do it out of love and cultivation of his own spirit.

3. He would be patient with his brother and while giving also teach him to as you say "fish"

4. He would never tire from doing any of the above.

There is another saying. "Want for your brother what you want for yourself".

 

[Kwan Dai]

Every time there is a hurricane in Jamaica people expect me and my family to rebuild their house or buy them furniture.

If, your family has the means to rebuild after each and every hurricane, what's the issue with rebuilding?

We've done it in the past multiple times but after a while tired of that s*** people always having their hand out looking up to you for money it's bad for them and it's bad for us

I'm not sure how a religious man gets tired of doing what is right. If, you or your family are suffering because, of your continuous charity I can understand dialing back or perhaps giving in other ways.

 

[Kwan Dai]

I am always going to give back without worrying about how much I have given or how much some one I have given to continues to fuck up. If, the creator continues to put me in a position to help I will always feel obligated to do so.

I agree with you on all of this. As long as I've got it, I'm going to continue to help those who are in need of the help. I've been blessed to be placed into a great situation. It's my duty to help.

That's what it's all about for me. Yes, I have worked hard, made some decent decisions in life etc. From my upbringing and perspective. I was placed in a position to help. I feel like if, I stop giving I will stop receiving.

 

[2stepz_ahead]

I am always going to give back without worrying about how much I have given or how much some one I have given to continues to fuck up. If, the creator continues to put me in a position to help I will always feel obligated to do so.

I agree with you on all of this. As long as I've got it, I'm going to continue to help those who are in need of the help. I've been blessed to be placed into a great situation. It's my duty to help.

That's what it's all about for me. Yes, I have worked hard, made some decent decisions in life etc. From my upbringing and perspective. I was placed in a position to help. I feel like if, I stop giving I will stop receiving.

so religion has got you afraid to day no?

that or karma?